Non-traditional Ceremony/Reception

Re: Non-traditional Ceremony/Reception

• Knottie_22382102 member

  

  March 2013

  People are going to tell you that's fine as long as you realize that it's not a wedding reception and that you shouldn't expect gifts or a shower or a cake etc...
  
  

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• artbyallie mod

  

  March 2013 edited March 2013

  Your wedding reception will be whatever you host for your family immediately following your ceremony. The party a week later will just be a party and should not have any wedding-related elements.

  
  

  ETA: possible invitation

  
  

  ALP and Mr. ALP

  cordially invite you

  to a celebration of their marriage

  at a time on a day

  in a place

  
  

  CMGr or someone else can correct me if there's a better wording

  

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• misssunshine17 member

  

  March 2013

  A party is fine, a redo reception with spotlight dances and a big white dress is not. No bridal shower, since that is for people invited to the wedding and I wouldn't register.

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• brielleinlove member

  

  March 2013 edited March 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_non-traditional-ceremonyreception?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:26fc896b-dfb6-4da2-bebd-cea4dfa42205Post:237af276-6fe6-4e3d-a885-1eb9586162a5">Re: Non-traditional Ceremony/Reception</a>:
  [QUOTE]Your party, a week after your wedding, is just a party.  It is not connected to your wedding.  Invite guests for cocktails just like you would for any cocktail party. <strong>You get ONE day, not two.</strong>
  Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>All of this, especially the bolded.  If you truly do want an intimate ceremony with just your immediate families, that's okay, but that is the way you have chosen to have your wedding and you should not then expect that friends and family who aren't invited to the ceremony (but are invited to the party the next week) will throw you showers and other pre-wedding parties.  I would also advise against registering, as it will look like a gift grab to people who are only invited to the party.</div>

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• alizabee84 member

  

  March 2013 edited March 2013

  For what it's worth, one of my best friends had a small, private ceremony, and then months later they had their reception. It was fabulous, and everyone came and was super happy for them and no one didn't bring a gift because we all were there to support and celebrate them. I actually thought it was a really nice idea. Sometimes it works really well. In fact, my fiance and I want to do a small ceremony that is more private, then take some photos, and have the party at night. We'll still be in our wedding garb from earlier in the day, and it will be more special for us that way, because that's just how we roll. I don't think this should offend people. I mean you're getting married for the both of you, right? Not for anyone else. The party is just a celebration of the event, and if people have a problem with that, they have the option to not attend. I don't see the issue. I'm not trying to be contentous, but I'm saying some people do it, and it's great.

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