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Prayer Request

I posted this on the Prayer Requests thread, but as I am feeling really alone and need some prayer desperately, I decided to post a new thread.

Ladies,

I am major need of prayers right now.  I know that I have never formally introduced myself, but my FI and I had been together for 4.5 years and were planning to get married in August.  He is graduating from school next month and things have been very stressful for him.  Things have been stressful for me for other reasons. All that said, I got home last night from work and he was waiting at my apartment with some of my stuff saying that we needed to break up.  He felt that God was not in our relationship at this point, which had been true not too long ago, but was something that we had been working on, and that he needed no obiligations right now.  I had actually been thinking a similar thing after several days of fervent prayer, but I wasn't being as blunt about it as he was.  I feel as if God does want us to be together, but he wants us to work on ourselves separately first.  D is very black and white, and tends to be an all or nothing guy.  I am devastated because although I know that it is in our best interest now and God's, I don't know what the future may hold.  I also feel as if I am losing my best friend in the world, and my family since his family has kind of adopted me (my mom and I don't get along, and my dad has passed).  I don't know what to do, I cant eat or sleep.  I just keep feeling so alone, although I know I am not.  I don't want to push any type of relationship on him, but I don't know how to not talk to him or his family.  Prayers and advice would be greatly appreciated.

Re: Prayer Request

  • DramaGeekDramaGeek member
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    edited December 2011
    No advice, just prayers.  I'm so sorry you're going through this.
  • edited December 2011
    I can only say cling to the Lord, and He will give you strength. Praying for you. <3
  • edited December 2011
    I'll pray for you too.  We know that God has a plan for us, one to give us hope and a future.  He works to the good of those who love Him.  So, just keep focusing on loving God with all your heart, and let him work in you and in your guy.  It may not seem like it, but whether you end up with this guy or not, later on down the road, God is putting both of you through this time of feeling like you need to focus on God for a very good reason.  God didn't bring around my right guy until after college, and I had met 2 other guys that (at the time) I felt like maybe they were the right guy while in college.  God worked through me to tell me "no" (Essentially) and I kept on pursuing God in my personal life.  It prepared me for all that has come the past 5 years, and I'm grateful and thankful that I didn't pursue anything more than friendship with those other 2 guys.  
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  • GJones27GJones27 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm really sorry to hear you are going through this.  If it's any consolation, my mom was engaged to another person before she met my dad, but that engagement was called off and soon after she met my dad.  Everything happens for a reason, even if we don't understand it at the time. If you can, please take care of yourself.  You sound really stressed, since you mentioned that you can't eat or sleep.  It might help if you found someone to talk things about... someone at church, a professional, a good friend.  I say that, because stress ruined my stomach and I don't want you to go through the same.  Praying for you that things will work out.  If you need anything, the girls on this board are here for you.
  • edited December 2011
    praying for you and him during this time.
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  • edited December 2011
    I really appreciate everyone's prayers and encouragement.  RIght now I am praying that God works in both of our lives to bring us closer to him, and that we both keep an open heart to God's will.  I am also praying that if this isn't what God wants, for him to make that clear to us both.  Again, thanks so much for your support!
  • Purple&7Purple&7 member
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    edited December 2011
    I will definitely keep you in my prayers. I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you.
  • edited December 2011
    I am so sorry you are hurting. I will pray. I can't imagine how hard it must be, but it's awesome that you have the right attitude and you know that God is with you. Keep your head up! 
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