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Bridal Shower Timing

AlexaNPAlexaNP member
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In September 2011, my fiancee and I are getting married with just a small church ceremony with parents, siblings, and grandparents.  In September 2012, we are having our big wedding celebration with a church ceremony followed by a reception and inviting our whole (large) families and friends as well. 

Would it be strange to have the bridal shower in August 2011 wedding since 2011will be when we are actually getting married, even though the guests won't be attending until 2012?  I was planning on inviting the rest of the family and friends to the shower (approx 60-80 guests-again, we have large families).

My reasons for considering 2011 for the shower were, I didn't know if it would be weird to have the shower after we'd already been married for a year.  Also, we will be moving into our house this September, so it would be helpful to have our household item gifts sooner rather than later.

Any input would be helpful!
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Re: Bridal Shower Timing

  • banana468banana468 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_bridal-shower-timing-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:f8f81f6e-c643-4ce8-aeee-ad0cd3b219ecPost:db9661fc-8eca-4b4f-95cd-0addaf52248a">Bridal Shower Timing</a>:
    [QUOTE]In September 2011, my fiancee and I are getting married with just a small church ceremony with parents, siblings, and grandparents.  In September 2012, we are having our big wedding celebration with a church ceremony followed by a reception and inviting our whole (large) families and friends as well.  Would it be strange to have the bridal shower in August 2011 wedding since 2011will be when we are actually getting married, even though the guests won't be attending until 2012?  I was planning on inviting the rest of the family and friends to the shower (approx 60-80 guests-again, we have large families). My reasons for considering 2011 for the shower were, I didn't know if it would be weird to have the shower after we'd already been married for a year.  Also, we will be moving into our house this September, so it would be helpful to have our household item gifts sooner rather than later. Any input would be helpful!
    Posted by AlexaNP[/QUOTE]


    Have the full wedding in 2011.

    Your 2012 celebration is a vow renewal.

    IF you still insist upon a 2011 wedding and a 2012 vow renewal or marriage blessing (note, NOT a wedding) then the only people who should be invited to a shower are those invited to the 2011 event.

    And a bridal shower before the 2012 is just not OK.
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  • laurenkronenberglaurenkronenberg member
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    edited December 2011
    Kinda tricky, b/c I would be a bit taken by surprise if I was invited to a shower now, and was not invited to the actual wedding this September.  Either way, Ditto above... No shower after you have already been married. (this September).

    Just out of curiosity, how are you having two church ceremonies? Don't ya have to throw a divorce somewhere in the middle, or am I just not understanding fully what you are doing?

    You will find on here that it is not considered a 'wedding' the second time around, if you have already gotten married, which it sounds like you will be this September. What you will have next year would be a 'vow renewal', and a party after, right? ie, no bridal party, no shower, just a dinner party n maybe some dancing somewhere?
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  • kitty23akitty23a
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    edited December 2011
    It sounds like your shower should be this year. 
    I think most people would view your big wedding as a vow renewal.  In that case your shower really should only include guests that you are inviting to the small ceremony.  Your other guests can opt to give you a gift at your renewal ceremony. 
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