July 2012 Weddings

My photographer is pregnant... (Updated)

I just got an email from my photographer that she is pregnant, due in September. She's a really sweet girl so I'm really happy for her and her husband, of course and she said this shouldn't affect my wedding at all, but FI and I are a little concerned. Seven months prenant in July in Baltimore (very hot and humid summers)... seems like it could be tough on a guest, let alone a photographer who will need to be working and on her feet for 8 hours straight. Should I be worried or assume since she said she can do it, that it'll be fine?

ETA: I checked my contract and we already have a line in it that if my photographer is unable to cover my wedding for any reason "a substitute photographer of high qualifications, subject to acceptance by Client prior to Event, will be sent to fulfill the contracted obligations." I spoke to my mom, and she thinks I should just ask who that back-up person is and if I can see their portfolio. She also suggested we inquire about adding a second photographer to our package. We're a little worried that even if our photographer can come, she may get tired earlier in the day or just have trouble with some of the shots (the way our church is, she would need to hide in some weird positions to get coverage without being seen). My mom knows I'm stressed about it now, so she offered to pay for the 2nd photographer, if that's even an option. I'm going to email my photographer today and see what she says.

It's stressful b/c I really like her and loved my e-pics, so it would be heartbreaking to have to look for someone else right now. ARRRGGG.
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Re: My photographer is pregnant... (Updated)

  • Does she have someone as a backup just in case?  Is this her first pregnancy or does she already have kids?  I would personally be nervous because I'm a terrible pregnant person in my last trimester and have been on bedrest with 2 out of 4, but I know other women who barely are showing at that point and are frickin energizer bunnies.
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  • It's her first baby, so I'm a little nervous that she doesn't know how it'll be. I'm kind of worried she may call me the week before and say she can't do it or something. Should I ask her what her back-up plan is? She will have an assistant with her who also takes photos, but she is the primary.
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  • I would just confirm with her what her back-up plan is and make sure you also like the work of that photographer.  Nothing wrong with asking a few questions!
  • I would be VERY nervous too, especially with this being her 1st pregnancy.  I think you should speak to her about your concerns and make sure that there will be a back-up plan in case she can't make it for whatever reason.
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  • I would be worried and discuss with her your backup plans about another photographer. I would definitely discuss it in more length with her. Best of luck!

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  • I would definitely be concerned!!  I would contact her & see what her back-up plan is.  I would also begin to possibly start finding an available photographer! 

    This stinks!!  But you never know how pregnancies go....they can be completely different from one another!!
  • I'd be very concerned as well. My cousin was pregnant last summer with her first baby (she had the baby in September) and she had an awful time over the summer. The heat was so bad for her, and she was truly immobilized. She's a pretty tough woman, too. I'd get to know the details about the backup photographer if I was in your situation. She has no idea how she is going to react to pregnancy! It's a long day for anyone to deal with, and I know that the heat makes it really bad.
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    As much as I want to say "Yay for her! Congrats!" I agree with PPs. I'd be worried, too, even though I was separately happy for her.

    As long as she has an assistant who has someone that they trust to be their backup, I wouldn't get alarmed yet. If I were you, I'd just ask for a portfolio for the assistant AND back-up to check their work to make sure you like it. If you aren't happy with her alternate plan, this is definitely grounds to get out of a contract with her. If she can't provide the names of the backup people, you could probably just say "You know, as much as I'm so happy for you, I'm just not comfortable with this situation." That's a totally rational reaction to this whole thing.

    Keep us posted and good luck!
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  • I agree with PP's to check to make sure that she will have a back-up or an assistant to help her on the day of. I'm sure she'll be okay, but its always good to have a back-up option.
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  • With the update, I would ask to see the work of the back-up photographer, as your mother and pp said. It is probably not possible for you guys to meet with him/her (or any other new photographer) before the wedding?

    If you do like the backup's work, I'd not hire a second photographer and stop worrying. She might have trouble, but it is also very likely that she'll be able to do her job just fine. I have heard many stories about wedding photographers who kept working until very, very shortly before giving birth. It would actually be a much bigger problem if the wedding was after she was due...
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  • They often don't know who the back-up photographer will be until much closer to your date.  They will find someone who doesn't already have something booked for your wedding date to come in.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_my-photographer-is-pregnant-should-i-be-worried?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:cf4ff4dc-816c-4455-b93c-85995671c94dPost:6c4aad5c-f72e-46fc-a851-df13f470daab">Re: My photographer is pregnant... (Updated)</a>:
    [QUOTE]They often don't know who the back-up photographer will be until much closer to your date.  They will find someone who doesn't already have something booked for your wedding date to come in.
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    Okay, I just got a response from her. She said the replacement photographer would be the woman who is usually her second photographer. She sent me links to weddings she did with her, as well as some she did on her own, and I'm satisfied with her ability.

    In response to my question about having a 2nd photographer at my wedding, she said she had already discussed offering this for free to all of her summer brides for the reasons I had raised (alleviate some stress from her and for the couples). So the replacement photographer will be at my wedding as the assistant and a 2nd photographer if my original photographer can make it. If my original photographer cannot make it, the replacement photographer will run it, with the person who usually is the original photographer's assistant.

    So now that I know who it would be, and have seen some of their work, I'm feeling much, much better. I still hope my photographer can be there, but at least I know it won't be some random person filling in at the last minute if she cannot.
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  • i am glad your photographer is being so understanding about your concerns - it sounds like she definitely has a plan in the works in case of emergency!

    i would definitely have concerns too, though. personally, we really bonded with our photographers (ours are a husband and wife team) during our engagement session, and i couldn't imagine having anyone else photograph my wedding day. i am sure you feel the same way about your photographer, so i am hope it works out for you!! as other posters said, everyone has a different experience with their pregnancies, so perhaps your photographer will be just fine :)
  • Sounds like everything is working out. With what has been offered to you, I'd feel pretty comfortable.

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  • That is great that there is a back up plan lined up. 
    LIke PPs, I would check with her what that actually is, but I also dont think you have a reason to completely freak out quite yet. If your photographer says she'll be there, she will make her best effort to be, and the secondary might take a little bigger role; but they'll have had the practice of all the may and june weddings too. 
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