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What do you call your future mother in law??

Bhanu&AnujBhanu&Anuj member
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Good Morning Ladies

I was thinking about how to address / salutate the bridal shower gift thank you card to my future mother in law.

I call her aunty (calling someone else mom other than my mom is still something I'm getting used to)...lol

What do you call your future mother in law...?  How should I start off the thank you card??

Thanks ladies!!

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Re: What do you call your future mother in law??

  • HinajHinaj member
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    edited December 2011
    Do you mean what I call her now or what will I call her after the wedding? 

    Right now I call her aunty, and my plan was continuing to do that after the wedding but FI says he would really prefer it if I call her Mom after the wedding.  I know how you feel, calling someone else Mom other than my mom is an idea that requires time to get used to.  If you feel comfortable using mom now, then go ahead address it that way, but if you are just not there yet than just say aunty.  I don't think you can address her just by her first name though. 
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  • Bhanu&AnujBhanu&Anuj member
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    edited December 2011
    Ya I think I'm going to say "Dear Aunty"
    Even though she signed her card "<her name /> mom" lol

    I think after marriage I'll begin to call her mom....that's going to be a huge thing for me :$
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  • HinajHinaj member
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    edited December 2011
    Good call!!
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  • mrs.khanmrs.khan
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    edited December 2011
    I already call her "ma". We have a great relationship so I consider myself really lucky. :)
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  • raangoliraangoli
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    edited December 2011
    Haha! I struggled with the same thing when we were writing a thank you note to his mom. I still call her Mrs. LastName, so that is what I wrote, even though she signed the card as "mom"


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  • kavita85kavita85 member
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    edited December 2011
    Raangoli, I also call her Mrs. LastName. It seems too informal to call her by her first name and I feel weird calling her "aunty" since she's not Indian.
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  • SonaliPopSonaliPop member
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    edited December 2011
    I call her Aunty for now. I am sure adjusting to calling her Mom after the wedding will be difficult, though. It'll be a lot to get used to! She refers to me as 'Beta' or her dikri...all nice, loving nicknames for a daughter. That is hard for me too, I am not used to hearing anybody call me daughter than my own parents!
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  • HisBelovedOneHisBelovedOne
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    edited December 2011
    Right now I call her Mrs. HisLastName. I haven't been brave enough to ask her (or FFIL, for that matter) how I should address them either now or in the future.
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  • nadiashahmaliknadiashahmalik
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    I call my mother-in-law, Umma. I call my own mom, mama. I thought it might be weird and at times it is, but it makes her happy. If using such a simple word makes someone happy, why not use it? I would recommend choosing a word that you don't use for your own mom. That way, you aren't taking any significance away from your mom.

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