This is more of a rant than anything else, so you have been warned! ;-)
We are not getting married until the end of June (2013), so there are no issues with the invitations yet. However, since our guest list consists of people in 15 different states and 3 countries (not including the US), I want to send out STD's. I plan on sending them out this month so that they are not a part of the insane holiday mail of December.
I began "bothering" my FI about addresses from his side of the family a few months ago, because he tends to procrastinate. He has been very good about asking his dad via email for addresses, but his dad has been horrible at getting back to him. I have seen all the emails, and although the request is very straight forward, it is like FFIL is not reading the emails at all. The latest response he gave included addresses we didn't ask for (and already had) and made no mention at all of a few people on the list (all family members).
FFIL also told FI to just send the adult cousin's STD and invites to their parents. This includes a cousin who is getting her PhD at Harvard.... FI has an aunt who lives in Hawaii and one of his uncles (her brother) lives near by apparently. FFIL suggested we send that uncle's invite to his sister's house. *slams head on wall*
The worst part is the uncles that live in Korea. Not only has his dad ignored those requests every time, but he also uses several different spellings for their names. If I could ask FI's mom, I would, but there are several reasons why that is not an option. I am considering asking one of FI's cousins that I have seen several times, because she is from the Korean side of the family, but I don't know her very well.
My biggest concern is FI's mom being upset that we left family members out. I am doing my best to include all the aunts, uncles and cousins as I have done on my side, but I feel like I am pulling teeth just to get some addresses! UGH!
Thanks for listening.