bridal shower day before wedding?

delicatefew · February 2011

hey all. i'm a moh in my best friend's wedding in june. she has a few female family members in this area (we're talking 3 or 4), and the rest are sort of scattered. she lives in new england and her friends are very scattered around the country also. i figured we'd do a small shower with her close friends during her destination b-party, but her family won't be there, so someone suggested a luncheon shower the day before her wedding since more friends and family will be in town for the wedding the next day.

thoughts on this? i immediately thought there'd be too much going on, since the rehearsal dinner will be later that night. they also have 3 or 4 of her FI's relatives staying in their apt that week so my friend and her FI will be in a hotel. i feel like it'd be too crazy, but wanted to make sure i wasn't being unreasonable. thoughts? how would you feel about this?

also -- as a guest -- would you bring two separate gifts, one for the shower, one for hte wedding?

miguelhilary2010 · February 2011

If the bride is ok with it, I don't think it's a horrible idea. Just don't make it a big production (to keep it easy on everyone).

I personally would definitely buy 2 gifts.

ev4149 · February 2011

I agree with MH. See how the bride feels about it. Also, I would definitely give 2 gifts.

ButtonsPepper · February 2011

I'd put on the shower invites (if the bride is okay with it) something about since most of you are so scattered, we figured this would be a great way to get everyone there etc.

I'd go, and I'd bring two gifts. One for the shower, and one for the wedding.

paprika28 · February 2011

I wouldn't make it a surprise... The bride is definitely going to need to know about this. But see what she has planned for the day before- nails, pampering, etc. Maybe have it there. This way, she'll be able to get her pre-wedding stuff done without having to feel like she's going crazy.

2 gifts. Unless it's something big, like a dyson.

caraellen23 · February 2011

Ditto PPs, I think its good if it works and I definitely think I'd get the bride on board with it.

I would totally buy two gifts. However, if I was traveling from out of town... I might be sending the shower gift ahead (usually a registry item) and bring a card with money for the wedding.

DianaM27 · February 2011

I was MOH for a friend and she was having her wedding in NJ but lived in Colorado and then all her friends and family were scattered around the country and world (military bride and groom). We did her shower & b-party Thursday, rehersal Friday, wedding Saturday. A lot of people were willing to come up on Thursday because they travelled so far they wanted a little more time with the bride/groom and family/friends in the area. It worked out really well to get all her friends and family there and a lot of guests mailed the gift to her house or and then did a picture with a card or bought smaller things for the shower and then for the wedding did cards or sent the gift early.

I don't know if 2 days ahead is an option but 1-2 days before the wedding works for "destination" type weddings.

KimBG · February 2011

I would hate to have my bridal shower the day before the wedding. To many last minute things need to be done. I would have it early if they cant be there they can always send gifts.

Stacylynn702 · February 2011

I'll be honest here, I would not have liked that. I would have gone along with it as I hate to cause drama but on the inside, I would have been stressed out.
The day before the wedding, I was doing all sorts of last minute to dos and running things up to the reception site. I was supposed to be getting my nails done but I'll save that drama for another post. I would have been overwhelmed. JMHO. I just feel like you never know what's going to come up on that day and I feel like it should be saved for any last minute things that might occur. If she has a lot of people willing to help out with last minute details, she might not have a problem with it. I'm just remembering what I went through.

happywithhim715 · February 2011

I think as long as the bride is okay with it... it's fine. If alot of people are from out of town than I think it would be like a "welcome party".. I have heard of those for destination weddings.

I know the morning before my wedding I spent getting stuff ready for RD (dropping off beer and liquor) as well as a manicure and pedicure BUT if I knew I was having a shower that day I would of done those errands on Thursday.... So I think as long as the brides knows in advance it's fine! Just nothing crazy...

I would bring two gifts as they are two events. If they were spaced out more you would still give two gifts so it's not different...

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