Proof some bachelorette invites?

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• HobokensFury member

  

  March 2012 edited March 2012

  I have no advice other than to say I've never heard of a formal (ie Paper) bachelorette party invite.  It's always been by word of mouth or evite. They look cute though.

   
   

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• unchatenfrance

  

  March 2012 edited March 2012

  I would put a comma after "drinks" so it reads "dinner, drinks, dancing" - even though it's on separate lines, it's all one phrase.

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• ceh789 member

  

  March 2012 edited March 2012

  I've often received printed invites for b-parties.

  
  

  The only thing I'd say is that there really isn't enough info there for me to decide if I'm going.  Where in Chicago?  What time is the meet up Saturday?  What time Sunday?  Is there a hotel?  Is this a hosted party or am I paying my own way?  Is all that info on the details card?  I don't get an insert for a b-party invite - put it all on one card.

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• LeiselEB member

  

  March 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_proof-some-bachelorette-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:45471b15-db3a-452f-9f1f-38169ddf450cPost:a3b987b2-7a4a-4c2f-b73a-dd6096f787ed">Re: Proof some bachelorette invites?</a>:
  [QUOTE]I've often received printed invites for b-parties. The only thing I'd say is that there really isn't enough info there for me to decide if I'm going.  Where in Chicago?  What time is the meet up Saturday?  What time Sunday?  Is there a hotel?  Is this a hosted party or am I paying my own way?  Is all that info on the details card?  I don't get an insert for a b-party invite - put it all on one card.
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  </div><div>The details card basically is the invite - the other is kind of like a graphic, if that makes sense. But I suppose the date and place are there.</div><div>
  </div><div>I wasn't sure if it was appropriate to list who is paying for what on the invite. The hotel and brunch will be covered, but dinner, drinks and shopping would be paid for by everyone individually. It just seemed odd to me to have that written on the invitation. How would you suggest I word that?</div><div>
  </div><div>I can definitely put hotel info, but people will be coming in from different cities, so I was afraid of saying "dinner starts at 7pm" because really we can have dinner at any time depending on when everyone is able to get there. Does that make sense?</div><div>
  </div><div>I guess in my mind (and the hostesses' minds) that sort of thing could be sorted out when people RSVP, but if there's a better way to go about it, I'd love to hear :)</div><div>
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• ceh789 member

  

  March 2012 edited March 2012

  I think I'd put something like:

  
  

  "Cocktails and dinner starting at 7pm at RestaurantName, followed by dancing at a venue to be chosen by the group.  Costs for Saturday evening's meal and entertainment will be divided among the attendees.

  
  

  The hostesses will be providing a suite to share at HotelName, please call PhoneNumber if you would prefer to make a private lodging arrangement.

  
  

  We will also be hosting a brunch at 11am on Sunday morning at RestaurantName.  After brunch the group will head to (Michigan Avenue?) for an afternoon of shopping and walking."

  
  

  Some might argue it is impolite to call out what costs are at a guests expense - but a b-party is a rather unique party as most people expect to pay at least some oftheir own costs.  I would much rather see called out what you are and are not hosting than have there be misunderstandings on the day of that could lead to disagreements or embarass an unprepared guest.  I didn't mention costs for shopping as I do not believe any reasonable person would expect that to be hosted (although if you're buying, shoot me an invite and I'll drive down

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• LeiselEB member

  

  March 2012 edited March 2012

  Ah, this is so helpful, thank you! I'm still not sold on putting what everyone's paying for on the invite itself - maybe I'll have the hostesses be clear about that when RSVP calls come in. But I'll certainly add something about the times/places. 

  
  

  Thank you so much! And hey, if you wanna make a trip down to Chicago feel free to join the party! I can't guarantee a shopping spree, though  

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• msuprincess04 member

  

  March 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_proof-some-bachelorette-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:45471b15-db3a-452f-9f1f-38169ddf450cPost:c61f093d-0e79-4f8f-b90d-afba65cab40b">Re: Proof some bachelorette invites?</a>:
  [QUOTE]I think I'd put something like: "Cocktails and dinner starting at 7pm at RestaurantName, followed by dancing at a venue to be chosen by the group.  Costs for Saturday evening's meal and entertainment will be divided among the attendees. The hostesses will be providing a suite to share at HotelName, please call PhoneNumber if you would prefer to make a private lodging arrangement. We will also be hosting a brunch at 11am on Sunday morning at RestaurantName.  After brunch the group will head to (Michigan Avenue?) for an afternoon of shopping and walking." Posted by ceh789[/QUOTE]
  
  
  I think the "Costs for Saturday evening's...." line is unnecessary. It will still say what is provided for, and I'm assuming people will figure out that if it's not listed, it's not provided.

  "There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness." -Friedrich Nietzsche, "On Reading and Writing"

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• ceh789 member

  

  March 2012 edited March 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_proof-some-bachelorette-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:45471b15-db3a-452f-9f1f-38169ddf450cPost:f80870fe-89cb-4c24-903e-8b733e4b558a">Re: Proof some bachelorette invites?</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Proof some bachelorette invites? : I think the "Costs for Saturday evening's...." line is unnecessary. It will still say what is provided for, and I'm assuming people will figure out that if it's not listed, it's not provided.
  Posted by msuprincess04[/QUOTE]
  Totally disagree.  If I receive a printed invitation to an event with hosts listed on it, I will assume they are hosting (which means paying) unless specified otherwise.

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• LeiselEB member

  

  March 2012

  Say we didnt put anything about who's paying for what on the invite, and instead discussed it when people call to RSVP: "were paying for the hotel and for brunch, but we're planning on just paying our own way for dinner and drinks Saturday night." Would that be something you'd find rude? I'm struggling to get on board with putting money info on the invite...

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• ceh789 member

  

  March 2012 edited March 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_proof-some-bachelorette-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:45471b15-db3a-452f-9f1f-38169ddf450cPost:b6563628-34dc-4113-89de-9200a76ab7c4">Re:Proof some bachelorette invites?</a>:
  [QUOTE]Say we didnt put anything about who's paying for what on the invite, and instead discussed it when people call to RSVP: "were paying for the hotel and for brunch, but we're planning on just paying our own way for dinner and drinks Saturday night." Would that be something you'd find rude? I'm struggling to get on board with putting money info on the invite... :/
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  </div><div>Well... how would you feel if I said "Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't understand that it wasn't hosted.  I really can't afford to eat there.  I guess I won't be able to attend, I'm sorry."</div><div>
  </div><div>I'm not saying it's going to happen and its not that it's rude to discuss over the phone, it's that you might put someone in a really awkward position that would be embarassing for both of you.</div><div>
  </div><div>ETA: You know your guests better than I do.  If you're all adults with good jobs and you're going to Applebees then that's different than what I often see happen for b-parties: young ladies not established in their careers wanting to go to a ritzy dinner place that is way out of their normal price range for a night out.  Just be careful.</div>

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