rvsp deadine question

AngB1230 · July 2012

i know it is standard to wait a month for rsvps to be replied back by but can you make it sooner? what is the soonest you can get away with?

cronin85 · July 2012

I dont think there is any written rule, one month is just standard. Some people may be on vacation, have to check their schedules etc; Are you on a time crunch and need them back sooner?

AngB1230 · July 2012

well alot of things are depending on the head count and i dont want to wait a month before the wedding trying to get everything together

QueerFemme · July 2012

well, 3 weeks is pretty standard. Or the time you have to notify the caterer, plus one week. I know its frustrating to wait... but, some people just don't know their schedules more than a month in advance. From what I've seen... if you ask for an earlier RSVP date, you will have people respond "yes" and then not show up.

doublenn · July 2012

You could set it back earlier, but keep in mind that some guests might think it's rude.

What all depends on guest count? Are there things you could estimate a number on (like decorations)?

happe2gether · July 2012

Head count to the venue usually dictates the deadline. I padded my RSVP date with a 10 days so that I can call anyone who didn't respond. The guests don't know my deadline to the venue and they don't need to know.

AngB1230 · July 2012

ok so my plan is send them out july 23rd ..rsvp by aug 13th...wedding sept 22nd...that is more than enough time to request anything off right?

QueerFemme · July 2012

hmmm... that's about 5 1/2 weeks before your wedding. that is a little bit too early. For Sept 22nd, you should probably be between August 25th and September 2nd. (3-4 weeks)

morenachica110 · July 2012

My dat's the 22nd, too, but we need our caterer count 3 weeks prior to the wedding. Our rsvp date is Aug 18th because we wanted to give ourselves extra time to track people down. Looking back, I wish I would've pushed it back a little more, but I don't think it'll make that much of a difference. FYI we're sending our's out at the end of this week.

cronin85 · July 2012

My wedding is Sept 15th. I mailed out my invites on June 30th with a August 1 deadline for RSVP's. I need to know 3 weeks in advance a head count for my hall. I figured August 1 will give me wiggle room for calling people. I say if everything is all set to just mail them out now, I definitely dont see anything wrong with that.

Callmefia · July 2012

Ours is 9/22 and our RSVP date is Sept 3.
I think its a little ridiculous to expect an RSVP more than a month in advance.

You should estimate on things like favors etc, so you can get started. You will probably have enough on your plate in the last month without worrying about DIY projects and stuff.

One of the good reasons to NOT expect a super-early RSVP is because I hear a lot of people who have early RSVP dates have a lot of people who don't show. Its because they aren't sure if they can come, so they just respond YES and then don't show if they have to work or something else comes up. Some people forget, etc. Especially if they have to choose an entree on their RSVP card.

ejheart · July 2012

Mine is also the 22nd. We are sending out invites on 7/21 (hopefully), and our response date is September 1st. Then again, we don't have to have the final count to the caterer until the week before the weddding. I would like to have it to them 2 weeks prior though, so I figured a week in between would give me enough time to wrangle down any non-responders.

twotimemob · July 2012

Daughter's is Sept 22 - we are sending out invites around August 1-ish, with an RSVP date of Sept. 4.

volleygurl0306 · July 2012

I'd send them out now but with an RSVP of 3-4 weeks before the wedding (or whenever you need your earliest headcount minus a week to 10 days). People who know for sure one way or another will RSVP quickly I'd guess. And that will be most of your guests. The people on the fence you should give the fair amount of time to but if most of your guests have RSVP'd you should have a decent estimate.

AriesAngel86 · July 2012

My date is the 22nd as well. Our invites are going out today (Yay! We have more than half our guest list from out of state)- RSVP date is September 1st.

Dan&Holly12 · July 2012

My wedding date is 9/23. We sent out invites yesterday (and I'm hearing that a lot of people received them today). Our response cards are due back by September 1st. I'm glad others getting married around the same time haven't sent out their invites yet because I was getting a lot of pressure to get them out in the mail from family members.

jacquiroxx · July 2012

My wedding is 9/22 and we sent our invitations today. Our RSVP date is August 20th, but we needed a final count for our caterers by August 31st, so that gives us time to track people down if we don't hear from them.

Plus I think having that "early" of a date- at least in our case- is that it might help some people remember to book their rooms. We're having a semi-DW and if they wait too long, rooms may be booked.

CreoleBride30 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_rvsp-deadine-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:9a906d7b-1c76-4122-8c3d-493b01bcd159Post:8ba41cf8-616a-4fe1-b53e-d6fecad468c9">Re: rvsp deadine question</a>:
[QUOTE]ok so my plan is send them out july 23rd ..rsvp by aug 13th...wedding sept 22nd...that is more than enough time to request anything off right?
Posted by AngB1230[/QUOTE]

<div>This is exactly what I did. As a matter of fact, I mailed a few of mine off today July 19th (about 56 of them) Most people will receive them by the weekend. Our wedding is September 21, 2012. Deadline for RSVP is August 13th. My venue requires full payment and head count 30 days before the wedding...so I will be paying them on August 20th. This gives me a few days to call anyone (if I decide to do so) regarding their lack of an RSVP. </div><div>
</div><div>What was your final decision?</div>

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