Online Dating

bbeenz · October 2011

Does anyone know someone who has had success with those online dating websites? A close friend of mine is in her 30s and is still on the dating scene. I recently suggested trying out one of those websites to see if she could maybe meet decent guys there. I met H on fb, so I still consider us one of those people who got to know each other online. We had a common friend and his halloween costume was quite interesting. (Yes, I messaged him first).

How did you and your FI or H meet? For those who have tried or know someone who has tried the online dating websites, were there any success stories there? Which website did they use?

HobokensFury · October 2011

1 friend met his wife on Match.com and another friend met his wife on Eharmony. I would start there.

mariasemail86 · October 2011

My fiances brother met his wife on match.com

jcg98 · October 2011

My MOH met her husband through Match.com. FI and I met in grad school, but I was on the verge of signing up for both Match and eHarmony before I met him (and he was on Match so I might have met him anyway!)

sh228955 · October 2011

I met my fiance on JDate. We actually have a lot of friends who also met on JDate and are getting married.

MCM1012 · October 2011

My sister met her bf on match and my MOH met her FI on match as well.

sgdc2011 · October 2011

I know a lot of people that got married after meeting on an online dating website. I say give it a try!

Shan1214 · October 2011

I met my fiance on EHarmony. It worked for us!! LOL

DoubleAS · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_online-dating?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:22a6b65b-18ee-430a-9112-10e04099fec0Post:3d8e3acd-4c04-4e8d-94d5-e622d6d7b1cd">Re: Online Dating</a>:
[QUOTE]I met my fiance on JDate. We actually have a lot of friends who also met on JDate and are getting married.
Posted by sh228955[/QUOTE]

JDate is totally legit... One of fiance's college friends met his now wife on Jdate, and her sister met her husband on eHarmony. So yes, we know ppl who have had success, as well.

Chobot · October 2011

I know two close friends/coworkers who found their husbands on eharmony and match. My FSIL found her boyfriend on Eharmony and ..countless others.

One word of advice. If she is not into dating or even looking, it doesn't work. I have a friend who really believes that if he is out there, he will come to her. She gave the whole "it's another job to look online/talk/meet new people" deal..she never used the 3 month eharmony membership.

It takes two.. you know?

kristen8040 · October 2011

My sister and I both met our DH's on match.

Danes983 · October 2011

Met my DH on Match.com!

ashlieandfrank · October 2011

I met my FI on Match.com - had to kiss quite a few frogs on there first, but I found him!!

cindyn9178 · October 2011

I met DH on Myspace..but before I met him I was using Match.com and Yahoo personals for about 2 years.. dated a few people through those sites.
My sister is currently using Plenty of Fish and OK Cupid, and is currently dating the last person she met on there. (both sites are free)

I personally found that a large majority of guys on those sites are just looking to screw around, and really aren't looking for anything serious, even though they say they are. BUT, there are some who are serious about it.

GiGiV2012 · October 2011

I met my FI on CraigsList. Buy a couch, get a job, find your life partner..all on the same website! LOL

Reilly626 · October 2011

I did! As did all of my close friends. We met through Yahoo personals, but Match bought them out. GL to your friend.

NicoleAnita · October 2011

I met Chris on match.com

I didn't have the best experience on eHarmony - but I think because I was in nyc match was a better fit for what I was looking for.

TripleJTobe · October 2011

One of my friends met her now husband on JDate. My Fiances cousin met her now husband on EHarmony.

USER876 · October 2011

I think they are pretty good ways to meet people, but the problem I see with them from hearing stories from friends, is that many of the people on there suffer from the "ebay syndrome." Basically, they want everything. Now a huge newfound dating population is available to them, so if this one match isn't 100%, well maybe the next 3 they have lined up later in the week will.

I think it's a good way to meet people and network, so you will meet more people, and get out there and have fun. I don't seemany people that actually made a long term match, and if they did, it was after doing it a long time.

cindyn9178 · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_online-dating?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:22a6b65b-18ee-430a-9112-10e04099fec0Post:0d4b1b97-badb-4c41-98af-53d9dc5826c1">Re: Online Dating</a>:
[QUOTE]I think they are pretty good ways to meet people, but the problem I see with them from hearing stories from friends, is that many of the people on there suffer from the "ebay syndrome." Basically, they want everything. Now a huge newfound dating population is available to them, so if this one match isn't 100%, well maybe the next 3 they have lined up later in the week will. I think it's a good way to meet people and network, so you will meet more people, and get out there and have fun. <strong> I don't seemany people that actually made a long term match, and if they did, it was after doing it a long time.
</strong>Posted by USER876[/QUOTE]

As you can see in this thread, a bunch of people met their husbands online, including myself. Yes, I had been on there awhile, but that doesn't apply to everyone. It definitely works.
Also, I know many people have that "ebay syndrome" way of doing it.. but I was never like that, and I don't know any girls that were ever like that either. Obviously, I was only dating guys from online, but I found that many of the guys had that attitude, so it might take awhile to find someone who doesn't have that attitude.

USER876 · October 2011

I think this being a wedding site, results here are scewed. Of course you will hear many success stories here, people are planning their weddings!

It can work, but like anything else, there are tradeoffs and a certain amount of hassle you have to put up with. From the guys I talk to, it's mostly the women that have that attitude, having 5 dates a week, and not giving someone a decent chance of a second date. I hear them complain all the time, esp when they fork over the cash for a dinner time and time again and never hear from them again. I suppose that goes with the system though.

Now I know everyone is not for everyone, but some of these people have told my friends that they have met over 40-50 people on there or have been doing this for a few years. I'm sorry but out of 50 "pre screened" people, I have to think one of them is worth getting to know and past 1-2 dates. The search for the PERECT mate...........ha

Honestly though, I HAVE seen it myself in both girls and guys. Especially those that are in their 30's where most of their friends are already hitched. The mindset is, well I wanted this long, so why settle now, and there seems to be some sort of competition where they have to now outdo their friends. Like I said, it's only an observation, but I have seen it in both girls and guys where they have no interest in someone that seems like a great catch because of Y, X, or Z (which are probably pretty minor things to be picky about).

akcrrr · October 2011

My coworker met her husband on Craigslist and I have 2 good friends who met their boyfriends on Match.com.

cindyn9178 · October 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_online-dating?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:22a6b65b-18ee-430a-9112-10e04099fec0Post:a3c2a497-00f4-4ad0-9cd5-211fca1d23b7">Re: Online Dating</a>:
[QUOTE]I think this being a wedding site, results here are scewed. Of course you will hear many success stories here, people are planning their weddings! It can work, but like anything else, there are tradeoffs and a certain amount of hassle you have to put up with. From the guys I talk to, it's mostly the women that have that attitude, having 5 dates a week, and not giving someone a decent chance of a second date. I hear them complain all the time, esp when they fork over the cash for a dinner time and time again and never hear from them again. I suppose that goes with the system though. Now I know everyone is not for everyone, but some of these people have told my friends that they have met over 40-50 people on there or have been doing this for a few years. I'm sorry but out of 50 "pre screened" people, I have to think one of them is worth getting to know and past 1-2 dates. The search for the PERECT mate...........ha Honestly though, I HAVE seen it myself in both girls and guys. Especially those that are in their 30's where most of their friends are already hitched. The mindset is, well I wanted this long, so why settle now, and there seems to be some sort of competition where they have to now outdo their friends. Like I said, it's only an observation, but I have seen it in both girls and guys where they have no interest in someone that seems like a great catch because of Y, X, or Z (which are probably pretty minor things to be picky about).
Posted by USER876[/QUOTE]

You have to deal with the same thing when you meet someone any other way - like in a bar, or anywhere else in your everyday life. Since these websites are set up for the purpose of finding someone to date, you'd think you have a better chance that the person you meet actually wants a relationship, as opposed to someone you randomly meet in a bar, at the grocery store, or wherever else.

Sure, there are those people who try to take advantage of the system and use online dating as a means of going on dates with as many people as possible, with no intention of a relationship. But I just think that in the end, you have a better chance of meeting someone who DOES want a relationship, as opposed to meeting someone in a bar, store, or wherever.

This might sound weird, but only three times in my life did I ever meet someone randomly somewhere (at a bar) that I ended up dating. Every other person I ever dated was someone I met from online.

k8888 · October 2011

I met my FI through match.com, but we met face to face pretty much immediately after our initial online introduction. I wanted to expand my search outside of my circle of friends and I was sick of meeting guys at bars/parties/etc. My FI was actually the last guy I spoke with before my membership ended (only did the 3 months), but thankfully we clicked, because our paths probably would never have crossed otherwise!

tropicalpalmleaf · October 2011

I met my fiance on match. We just got engaged on our one year anniversary.

kristen8040 · October 2011

I think that men and women can approach it differently. There are people who schedule dates every night (and no it's not just women, I've heard of plenty of men doing it.) And there are people like myself who would weed guys out through e-mail and over time would figure out who the creeps and weirdos were (and there were plenty) without ever going on a date with them. I only went on four dates when I had match for two years, one of which was DH whom I started talking to in November, but didn't actually meet until January. I think people have to approach it with enough sensibility to not get their hopes up, but to also have an open mind.

NJhousewife22 · October 2011

I met my FI on eharmony! I tried both that and Match and (at least in my area at the time (NYC), Match was where you went to hook up and Eharmony was more for people looking for something long term.

cindyn9178 · October 2011

Wow! I know these boards are obviously for engaged/married people...but it seems like SO many of us here met our FI or DH online! That is pretty surprising to me!

wendyo112 · October 2011

I met my fiance on eHarmony. My cousin also met her husband on eHarmony.

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