2 Bridal Showers?

Re: 2 Bridal Showers?

• OBX2011 member

  

  April 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_2-bridal-showers?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:35d4d8f2-ebfc-4b3d-b400-18754e1c08cePost:53f0cd1b-0c8a-4897-ae2a-5046ca801bfc">2 Bridal Showers?</a>:
  [QUOTE]My fiance's family lives about 3 1/2 hours away. My future MIL is offering to throw a second bridal shower with his side of the family for me since they won't be able to make it to the one in my hometown with my family and friends. I appreciate his mother's offer, but now I'm wondering if I should decline and just have 1 shower. I understand they would have to travel for my bridal shower thrown by my bridesmaids, <strong>but am I wrong to feel a little disappointed that they won't come out for it?
  </strong>Posted by Rittelc[/QUOTE]
  
  It's understandable to be disappointed if someone cannot attend your shower, however, they have a really really good reason for not being able to make it.  That's about 7 hours round trip and that doesn't even include the time spent at the shower and bathroom breaks along the way, etc.
  
  If your FMIL is offering to throw you a shower, you should go to it.  I personally would not decline a shower that my mother in law was hosting for me.  THAT would be rude and she could possibly be offended.

   

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• pgcp member

  

  April 2012

  Have you ever driven 3 plus hours for a party?  I haven't.  A wedding is one thing a shower is another, it's just a little party.  Let your fmil throw another shower, don't put the expectation of travel on other people.

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• pkontk member

  

  April 2012

  I think its great your FMIL wants to throw you a shower!  This gives you a more intimate chance to get to know your FI's side of the family.

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• klar4230

  

  April 2012 edited April 2012

  I am having two...I live a little further than 3.5 hours away from my home but I think having two if she is offering is just fine!  The one my FMIL is hosting will be a couple's shower though. 

  
  

  I have friends (and a bridal party member) who won't be able to make it to either of mine...it happens! 

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• toothpastechica member

  

  April 2012

  I am having 2, a friend of my FI's mother threw one (that was a suprise) and the only people invited from "my side" was my mom and my MOH, ( i guess she got thier info from my FMIL), my mom still wants to throw me one because she thinks some of her friends would be hurt not to have been invited, so now we are having a "my side" one with a completely seperate invite list, the only dpuplicates being my FMIL and my MOH (and  my mom). I dont think its rude, since I am not throwing either of them, someone else is, and theres good reason to have 2 (the guests are different, I already told my MOH and FMIL that if they come to the one my mom is throwing they dont need to feel obligated to bring a gift, and it would offend more people to not have invited them to the one that passed, which I had no idea about and no control over making sure people from my side would be invited). I think its sweet of her to have offered.
  
  If you were planning on having/hosting a second one, I would take issue with it, but since the guests would be different and others have volunteered, I'd accept it.

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• Santorini2011 member

  

  April 2012

  I did 2 parties for the same reason and it was wonderful.  The only negative comment I received was MIL said they wish they could have met more of my family prior to the wedding.  However, she could have made the drive to the other shower if she wanted so I didn't put much thought in the comment.
  One benefit of 2 showers was that most of my fam wouldn't have made the long drive so I was really happy to have them attend, esp the older ones that couldn't make the wedding.

  

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• arco13 member

  

  April 2012

  I think it's great that she wants to throw you another one! My step-sister had 3, one thrown by her mother and MOH, one fun lingerie shower thrown by her sisters, and one done by her church. As long as you're not hosting multiples for yourself, I think this it's a great idea!
  
  And I wouldn't be disappointed in her not wanting to drive out; since she's willing to throw you a shower, it's obviously not a problem of she doesn't want to make the effort to be a part of it.

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