I really want to elope!

Pixel'sMom · September 2010

I think we'll just elope in Europe somewhere now, I hate this planning business! It's taking weeks for venues to respond, the minute they hear 'w' word the prices go up.
I'm cranky every time the subject comes up... Is this normal or am I just being a drama queen?

mgoss228 · September 2010

Is it possible that vendors are taking forever to respond because it is still in the middle of wedding season? I did most of my booking (that I've done so far) from January to March this year, and all potential vendors were really good at getting back to me by 1-2 days at the latest. But communication with my photog last month for our e-session was sucky, to put it nicely. I still have to book our caterer, but I'm waiting until November, maybe January... really not looking forward to putting a deposit down on that one

I would try to avoid using the "w" word whenever possible... but a lot of times you need to use it... because why else would you be trying to book something 8+ months in advance. I've found that it's best to go non-traditional whenever possible, depending on what wedding-y stuff you really want. Like, we plan on having BBQ style food served from a BBQ restaurant that caters on the side (just have to decide which one we want).

Pixel'sMom · September 2010

OH we're throwing traditional out the window. We're going with 20-30 guest list. Friends only, no family. We're trying to figure out if we can just a cocktail party with fingure food and cake at our favorite speak easy.

mgoss228 · September 2010

That seems like something that shouldn't be ridiculously hard to do...

I take it the speak easy owner is being flakey and trying to overcharge you. What area of WA are you trying to have the wedding? Are there any other similar venues that could work? If the first one is already being so difficult, you might want to try for elsewhere, imo.

EDIT: Thinking more about it. Since you aren't involving family in the wedding, you should do what you want. If you want to throw a party for your closest 20 to 30 friends, do it. If you would rather spend the money on a wedding/extended honeymoon in Europe, do that.

jennuinne · September 2010

Do whatever you want! Don't get sucked into all the wedding business drama and should do's. If you want a small, simple party, have a small, simple party!

Tygirljojo · September 2010

Ditto PPs. It's your day. Don't feel obligated to have a full on wedding just because it's "tradition." If you don't like the planning & everything and neither does your FI, I would look into other options. There are tons of people who have a DW with very limited guests and then have an at-home-reception of sorts afterwards when they return.

I do agree with PP though - right now is NOT a very good time to try to get info from vendors since it's still wedding season. It'll likely get easier in several weeks.

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