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futuremrscsrfuturemrscsr member
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Things have been drama free with the wedding planning... until yesterday. Invites went out a couple weeks ago and I guess there was some surprise when FMIL got hers due to the fact that her and FI's dad's names weren't on it. My parents are paying for everything so of course we went with the traditional, "Bride's parents request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter XX to XXX." FMIL claims she has never seen it done like that. She mentioned this to both FI and my mom and then apologized to me for bringing it up. I simply told her that I was sorry it wasn't worded the way she was expecting but that I went according to my etiquette book and that of course her and FI's dad would be listed in wedding announcements and programs.

I am really hoping that this isn't a preview of the entire week leading up to the wedding!
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  • SCogs18SCogs18 member
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    Oh good lord, I hate when people do this kind of stuff.  In my opinion, if only the brides parents aren paying, only their names appear on the invites.  She needs to get over it and perhaps consult Emily Post before she pitches a fit and is a drama queen.  If she wanted on the invite, she sould have helped pay.  You don't need to feel bad, but I do hope for you that she doesn't continue like this!  Good luck!
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  • CreoleBride30CreoleBride30 member
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    I initally thought this was going to be a problem too. Basically, the invite is from my parents in which they are inviting the guests, but then I put the son of xxx & xxx (for his parents) so that there would be no hard feelings. FI and I are paying for 90% of the wedding. I just figured it would be nice to honor my parents by having their name on the invitation.

    I'm sure this will blow over. She won't have any hard feelings...

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  • Jennybenny5785Jennybenny5785 member
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    I think I would have felt the same way.  Hopefully she will get over it quickly and it will no longer be an issue.  Neither my mom's name or FI dad's name appeard on our invites since we are paying for the entire wedding ourselves.
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    Just remember that very soon your big day will be here and all the drama that comes with it will be a thing of the past! You will be happily married and none of this will matter anymore :)
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  • vickel08vickel08 member
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    We went ahead and put my both sets of parents on the invite even though we were paying for the majority of the wedding ourselves and my parents helped out a good amount. I didn't want to make my FMI feel bad because I know they financially could not help. It made my fiance feel better also because I know it bothers him that his family doesn't have it to give. However, if I did decide to do it the correct way, I would hope that she would respect that decision and what it represents and not mention it to us.

    I'm hoping for a drama free August/September for everyone!
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  • vickel08vickel08 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_groan?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:8b20860c-1cd5-4035-990e-60ec666bc5dfPost:239d0c63-1ecb-4c6d-b59f-8faa3ef5f471">Re: Groan...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I initally thought this was going to be a problem too. Basically, the invite is from my parents in which they are inviting the guests, but then I put the son of xxx & xxx (for his parents) so that there would be no hard feelings. FI and I are paying for 90% of the wedding. I just figured it would be nice to honor my parents by having their name on the invitation. I'm sure this will blow over. She won't have any hard feelings... Cha
    Posted by CreoleBride30[/QUOTE]

    I wish I would have thought of this!!!
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  • kmleon83kmleon83
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    i put my parents on the invite because we have different last names and i feel some of my dad's side would be like "who is this person"..HAHA. also, i wanted to honor my parents in that way even though they weren't able to help out financially (i never expected this anyway!). FI's parents have helped us out generously, and while we are paying for 90% of it, i wanted to include them.
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  • futuremrscsrfuturemrscsr member
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    Yeah, I definitely wasn't trying to make anyone feel badly or left out. My parents have just been such a huge support for us in every part of the wedding plans and they have really gone above and beyond for us. I wasn't expecting that kind of reaction because FI's family hasn't been involved much in really any of the wedding plans. It just sucks because I put hours into designing those invites and wasn't expecting a negative reaction from anyone. Thank you ladies for your positive words!
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