I posted a few days ago about FMIL wanting to invite randoms to "fill space at our wedding" and so "FI and I can get more gifts" all because several guests have stated they will not be coming due to cost or other obligations.
She called today to tell FI she did not want her BFF to come to the wedding anymore and to not send her an invite. She said this because her BFF said she would be coming to our wedding ever since we got engaged over a year ago and then when she recently calculated all of the travel costs she realized it would be too much to come to our wedding and take a family vacation in February. FMIL hung up on her BFF when she heard this and has not spoken to her since.
FMIL wants to unitive her to the wedding and invite other people in her BFF (and her husband's) place. FI explained he didn't feel right about doing this because we already sent her a STD. FMIL explained that they were "no longer friends" and that "she (FMIL) was never speaking to her again." FI asked FMIL what she would do if we did invite other people in her BFF (and her husband's) place what would happen if they suddenly made up and now the guest list added 2 more people that were unplanned for. FI explained to her that we can't plan on people not coming because plans and financial situations can change.
She didn't care as she is adamant that those saying they won't come will not. She figures that 8 or so from FI's side won't be coming so she has that many "spaces to fill." She starts listing friends that FI has never met nor heard his mother mention before. She also mentions her uncle and his wife who she recently saw when they visited other family a few months ago for the first time in 20 yrs. FI said that FMIL never would have mentioned them had they not visited. She then says that she had to "cut people off from her original list".
Completely untrue. She gave us her list over the course of several months, we did not give her a specific number, she told us it was final on several occasions. Therefore our wedding has been budgeted for our original list. It's just annoying that she is being such a drama queen and (again) missing the point of our wedding. On one hand I see how she feels about her friend but she is acting like an immature high school girl about it. It's not that she is inviting people she wants to be present on her son's wedding day but people who can come to our wedding to give us a gift in the place of those unable to come but that still send a gift. Her un-etiquette-ness makes me feel very icky.
Thank you ladies for listening! I know that I am really lucky she doesn't ask me these questions (that would be awkward!!!) and that FI handles her so well and doesn't give in to her whims! I bet she will call this week and say her and her BFF made up or she will have the exact same conversation with FI that they had today...