No honeymoon Family vacation instead?

Re: No honeymoon Family vacation instead?

• Jells2dot0 mod

  

  November 2012

  How does your FI feel about it? I would sit down and talk to him and discuss the options. Noone on here can tell you what is right for your situation.  If you both agree to spend time with family, then good for you! If he feels strongly about having alone time, then compromise somehow- maybe 2 nights alone after the wedding and 2 nights with family.

   

  

  
  
  
  

  
  
  
  

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• Krys_mathews member

  

  November 2012

  I was thinking we all stay at the same b&b. we can go do our own thing and get together for dinners and what no. Im sure hell be ok with it he may also want a few night alone. Just wondering if anyone has done something like this b4

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• AdeleDazeem member

  

  November 2012 edited November 2012

  I think you're celebrating a committment between the two of you and deserve some alone time.  What about arriving a few days early and spending some time together before your brother and his wife arrive? 
  
  I will be honest, though, since your fiance has never met your brother, I find it odd that the first time they will spend any time together will be on your honeymoon, but hey!  If everyone is cool with it, then there's nothing wrong with it.
  
  I have read on here that some people invite other couple friends on their honeymoon for a fun vacation.  Many of them do it on cruises for the same reason you say - choice in activities and no need to spend all their time together.  It worked for them!

  
  

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• RamonaFlowers member

  

  November 2012

  You guys can take whatever kind of trip you want that you can afford. Personally, I'd feel really weird if I'd been with DH for 11 years, never met/barely spent time with his siblings, and then suddenly for our first trip as a married couple, he sprung it on me that he wanted them and their S/O to come along. I doubt I'm the only person who would feel this way.
  
  We really aren't the ones you should be asking. This is 100% a conversation that should be between you and your FI only. And if he doesn't like the idea, you shouldn't do it.
  
  

  
  

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• Summer2011Bride member

  

  November 2012 edited November 2012

  Definitely have an honest talk about it with FI. I would not want to spend my whole honeymoon with H's sibling and he might feel the same way. How has he managed to never meet your brother when you've been together a decade? That's just so odd to me. I would find it weird to meet a brother-in-law for the first time on my HM as well.
  
  Anyway, if FI says he's OK with it, I might still make the first few days alone time and then maybe invite the family to join you after a few days.

  
  
  
  
  

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• hz80408 member

  

  November 2012

  We got married on our 11 year dating anniversary too!
  
  Even though we'd been together so look, we looked forward to getting away, just the 2 of us, to celebrate being husband and wife.
  
  Like pp's said, talk with FI and get his honest opinion.  Talk to your siblings, they may not be interested in this as they may want you to have alone time together. 

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• alithebride member

  

  November 2012

  first you need to find out if your FI and all other family members are ok with this.

   

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• hoffse member

  

  November 2012

  Yeah I hear about people doing this, but you need to talk to your FI and not try to change his mind if he's not enthused.  To be honest, I would not want to spend time with family members of my FI that I have never met for days on end, even if it's just getting together for dinner.  If he's cool with it then go for it, but I would be prepared for the possibility that he's not going to want to be with people who are strangers to him on his honeymoon.

  

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