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Groomzilla Grumble

So FI and I are going to this wedding that he's in on Friday; we're driving over 6 hours to it.  I posted before about how the groom waited forever to pick out his tuxes and it ended up costing $200.  Still not happy about that one.

Well, last night he sent out an incredibly detailed timeline for the weeked and I am PO'ed!  First of all, he said that the rehearsal starts at 5:30 on Friday but he needs the groomsmen there at 5 to move alcohol.  We're already leaving NY early in the morning and we will absolutely not be there early, bucko.  Find someone else to do your dirty work.

The wedding is at 5pm and the groomsmen need to be there at 1:30 to start taking pictures.  They are taking many photos before the ceremony, but also many after the ceremony, so FI will be apart from me from 1:30 until 7:30.  6 hours!!  WTF is going on?  If this were a girl, I'd say okay, they're getting ready together, whatever.  But this is a man!  This is a horrible way to run a wedding and I am so glad that we are running things way differently for ours.  I would never ask someone to be completely separated from their spouse for that long -- it's just ridiculous!  I guess I'm going to go shopping or something all afternoon.  It's great to know that we're driving 400 miles to be apart for a lot of the weekend.  I have a huge desire to just stay home.
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  • ski2playski2play member
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    edited December 2011
    Hey you, come on, let's turn that frown upside down.  You are driving 6 hours with your FI to get to the wedding, enjoy that time with him.  Enjoy your free time the next day doing something that you have never done, or enjoying someone's company that is also in town that you have not seen in forever.....It sucks that you do not get to spend the weekend the way you want, but it is important that you take the high road on this one and keep your thoughts to this board and us.  Please do not tell the bride and groom that you think their schedule is a "horrible way to run a wedding and that you will be doing it differently". 

    I so understand the frustration you are feeling but do not let their poor planning ruin your fun.  Thats all. 
  • edited December 2011
    I feel your pain. FI was in a wedding a few weeks ago. It was the most poorly run shitshow I have ever encountered in my life. We traveled from NJ to RI for this Friday afternoon wedding. FI was expected to be there at 8 am for the 3 pm wedding (oh yeah, and he had to fork over $10 to help pay for the limo... whaat?).

    Trust me, enjoy the day (and make a list of all the things NOT to do) and you'll laugh about it later. We're still laughing... especially about the fact that there was no open bar but the bride wore a $10k dress. (And I could go on...)
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_central-new-york_groomzilla-grumble?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:621Discussion:d4a30cc4-2a03-4e9e-bdfb-b16f440cb861Post:a0feba2d-8369-4609-b421-a5cefd2fb194">Re: Groomzilla Grumble</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hey you, come on, let's turn that frown upside down.  You are driving 6 hours with your FI to get to the wedding, enjoy that time with him.  Enjoy your free time the next day doing something that you have never done, or enjoying someone's company that is also in town that you have not seen in forever.....It sucks that you do not get to spend the weekend the way you want, but it is important that you take the high road on this one and keep your thoughts to this board and us.  Please do not tell the bride and groom that you think their schedule is a "horrible way to run a wedding and that you will be doing it differently". <strong> I so understand the frustration you are feeling but do not let their poor planning ruin your fun.</strong>  Thats all. 
    Posted by ski2play[/QUOTE]

    I think, unfortunately, my wedding ended up with a very similar schedule.  Not so much because of a strict "timeline" but because of the distance between the 2 venues.  We didn't have enough room to accommodate SO's of the WP in the limo... so they were seperated from about 10am until after dinner was over.  Thank goodness everyone was all about chatting w/ other guests, partying it up and having a great time with or without their SO.  We had a great group.

    Don't be that SO that whines and pouts b/c she can't be attached to her man's hip throughout the day (You are SOOOO much more fun than that!!!!).  Have a great time yourself.  Chat it up with the other guests... be a party starter.  You AND your Fi will both have a waaay better time if he isn't obsessing over you being stuck by yourself and you spending the day being annoyed that you can't be with him.

    Like PP said... you have a nice, long 6 hour drive alone with him.  By the time you get there, you might WANT to be far far away from him for a while anyways.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" /> 
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  • ski2playski2play member
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    edited December 2011

    "poor planning" should have been in quotes in my original quote. And/or I should have used my sarcasm font.   Happy Day Ladies!

  • sbolger17sbolger17 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_central-new-york_groomzilla-grumble?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:621Discussion:d4a30cc4-2a03-4e9e-bdfb-b16f440cb861Post:f9d1d48e-9467-460b-ba61-a5a77935d361">Re: Groomzilla Grumble</a>:
    [QUOTE]I feel your pain. FI was in a wedding a few weeks ago. It was the most poorly run shitshow I have ever encountered in my life. We traveled from NJ to RI for this Friday afternoon wedding. FI was expected to be there at 8 am for the 3 pm wedding (oh yeah, and he had to fork over $10 to help pay for the limo... whaat?). Trust me, enjoy the day (and make a list of all the things NOT to do) and you'll laugh about it later. We're still laughing... especially about the fact that there was no open bar but the bride wore a $10k dress. (And I could go on...)
    Posted by ChelseaB425[/QUOTE]

    Wow, yeah, it's interesting to see what people choose to do sometimes and where priorities lie.  Thanks for sharing my pain.

    And don't worry everyone, I wasn't planning on complaining to the bride and groom about their schedule.
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_central-new-york_groomzilla-grumble?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:621Discussion:d4a30cc4-2a03-4e9e-bdfb-b16f440cb861Post:be3178db-72fb-402f-9680-a873d9f1a998">Re: Groomzilla Grumble</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Groomzilla Grumble : <strong>Wow, yeah, it's interesting to see what people choose to do sometimes and where priorities lie</strong>.  Thanks for sharing my pain. And don't worry everyone, I wasn't planning on complaining to the bride and groom about their schedule.
    Posted by sbolger17[/QUOTE]

    Totally agree with that.  It makes me want to scream when the bride is bragging about her super expensive deisgner dress.... and then holds a cash bar.  Or when girls whine about how they can't afford this or that.... but have a guest list of 300+.  Sooo annoying.

    And I know you would never say anything to the bride & groom.  You seem waaaay classier than that.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />
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  • ski2playski2play member
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    edited December 2011
    And I know you would never say anything to the bride & groom.  You seem waaaay classier than that. 
    Posted by kevinandmonica2011[/QUOTE]

    What she said!  You were my first ever and only  **ski2play**
  • edited December 2011
    Most the weddings I have been to have timelines like this. Luckily you will be at the rehersal dinner and you will be able to meet people there. Then maybe you could do something with them while you wait for your man. For our wedding, the girlfriends all got together and spent the day at the pool and had drinks. Our timeline might have been even stricter.... The boys had to get dressed at 1 meet at 12:30 for a catered lunch. Then we took the limo all over town taking pictures before the 4:30 ceremony and post ceremony- you got it- more pictures. Everyone had a blast but the girlfriends/fiances/wives did too... just not with the men. We were all back together for cocktail hour around 6:45 and enjoyed the rest of the night. But coming from a bride who had a timeline like that..... they agreed to be in the wedding... and paying an arm and a leg for photos... I wanted to get all teh shots. I hope that you have a blast regardless. The pool day was a fab idea and I wouldn't mind doing that at one of our upcoming weddings! Good luck!!!
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  • sbolger17sbolger17 member
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    edited December 2011
    So I stopped my grumbling because the wedding took place in the middle of a hurricane!  I felt bad for the bride and groom and a bunch of people had to cancel.  The photos didn't end up being that big a deal as I sat in my hotel room watching the news forever beforehand and then met a girl that knew my FI in college and was there alone and I talked to her for the rest of the time FI and I were separated before/after the ceremony.
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