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July 2013 Weddings

Speaking of crazy

As some of you know, FI's gma recently passed. Living with her was her obese dog (who has been rehomed) and FI's disabled cousin (who has not).

FI are currently in discussion of we want to extend our old house (5 blocks from us) to the cousin. He's a bit of a recluse but can take basic care of himself. We would just need to check on him once or twice a day and drive him to go shopping once a week or so.

It would solve our problem of finding something to do with the house and he could pay for utilities and his own groceries with his SSI so we aren't stuck paying two sets anymore. It would also keep him away from a group home and family who would otherwise just take him in for his money, I bet if we could even save some of it up in case his circumstances ever were to change. His dad is out of the picture and his mom is dead. It would almost be like adopting someone my own age.

It's sort of crazy to think about but he is family and it wouldn't be too much responsibility and it feels like the right thing to do.
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Re: Speaking of crazy

  • go for it if not too much. 
  • What an extremely noble thing to consider doing.  I know I could never handle doing something like that. Just make sure that you consider all eventualities.  What happens if you decide to move? What about when/if you have children, and your life becomes busier? Will he have someone who can care for him more 'round the clock should he get sick or something?

    Please don't think that I am in ANY way trying to talk you out of this, just make sure you consider all your options, some group homes are actually very nice places, and offer opportunities and activities that can be good for people with disabilities.
  • i agree with gabs.  do a pros/cons list. 
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2013-weddings_speaking-of-crazy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a322ad2c-25cd-4d52-b123-096e1e4ecda5Discussion:a4fd8fe0-c9f1-4ba1-b29b-279071384d87Post:a59c69d0-0876-4a6a-9338-1663dfda1257">Re: Speaking of crazy</a>:
    [QUOTE]What an extremely noble thing to consider doing.  I know I could never handle doing something like that. Just make sure that you consider all eventualities.  What happens if you decide to move? What about when/if you have children, and your life becomes busier? Will he have someone who can care for him more 'round the clock should he get sick or something? Please don't think that I am in ANY way trying to talk you out of this, just make sure you consider all your options, some group homes are actually very nice places, and offer opportunities and activities that can be good for people with disabilities.
    Posted by Gabrielle76[/QUOTE]

    this exactly. and really, good for you for considering it!
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  • Agrred with Gabs! Id want to be with family. What an amazing thing youre taking on!
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