I have a question for you all. When you hear that a young married couple is in a long-distance marriage, what do you think of their relationship?
I'm having trouble telling people that my husband and I will be doing long-distance for the next two years. As you all know, he is Brazilian, and even after graduating from Harvard Business School this past May, he has been unable to find a single job (or get a single interview) here in the U.S., much less Boston where we live. He has been offered a really great position in Brazil, where he would get equity in a company that has a lot of potential. I can't go down there because I'm in school, but he hopes that he can work for this company and in two years work from the U.S. once it has grown. We're doing this, because this is the only way he can break into business, and it's not fair for me to keep him in Boston when I'm so busy with school I can't interact with him much. But he plans to visit frequently and telecommute from Boston every couple months or so.
When I tell older people about this, I get this sense of disapproval or skepticism, and it is really driving me nuts. It is driving me to the point of not even telling people we will be long distance. Even a friend in school went on a tirade about him moving to Brazil. I also get a sense that my parents aren't entirely happy. What do you guys think of this situation, and how would you advise handling it? I feel like our generation has to have more flexibilitywith these things because the economy is awful, but people don't seem to get it. Our love is strong enough to be long-distance for a while, but we have committed to settling down afterwards.