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VGamskyVGamsky member
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My FH and I have been engaged for about three weeks now, we met at the beginning of Freshman year of college through a mutual friend. We are both supporting ourselves through work and grants from our schooling and have decent credit rates as we have been renting for two years now and paying our bills on time, I actually bought "financially ever after" and William my FH and I have found it really helpful so far. we have even started saving for a down payment on a house and have opened a account for retirement.

I'm just wondering if we are missing anything, We aren't in a hurry to get married and have set a tentative date for four months before we both graduate with our bachelors degrees, we both have AA's currently, his in computer science and mine in Anthropology. Some people are telling us we are still to young to be getting married, although we are the same age as my parents were and they are doing quite well for themselves and have been married for 30 years. I know the times have changed but if 22 is to young even if we are financially ready then when is old enough? Personally I want children and I don't want to be Fifty trying to rein in teenagers.

So I guess my question is are we missing anything? Do you think our age is still a major player if we have everything financially ready? We love one another and are ready to tell the world we are in this together.

Thanks

VG
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  • jaycee7389jaycee7389
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    i'm your age, and my BF is 26, and quite honestly i don't think age has much to do with anything (within reason). i feel your maturity level, financial stability, and your relationship are the major factors which matter. BF and i plan on marrying in a year or two when we are financially able to afford it, but we own a house together, a business, all of his college loans are paid off, and i have a good job. i know plenty of people much older than we are who do not have the stability i feel we do.
    one random thing i noticed in your post i wanted to ask about was your good credit from renting..(dont quote me on this cause i'm just asking not telling) but does renting an apartment/house affect credit? we used to rent and it never appeared on any credit report or anything like that for us.
    anyways..if you feel that you love each other enough for the committment of getting married and are well established..you already answered your question! :)
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  • VGamskyVGamsky member
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    Thanks for replying as for the renting thing, we rent through a company that specifically told us they will report to the credit buroughs for us. I don't think it is a normal thing for a rental agency to do. This agency works specifically with colege students and helps them raise their credit.

    Thanks again for the time you took to reply

    VG
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  • desertmomnmdesertmomnm
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    I think being financially responsible is very important.  It sounds like you are.  The age thing is more about maturity, but it sounds like you have maturity and stability going for you too. 
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  • meganb1977meganb1977 member
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    Agreed that it sounds like you are making efforts to manage your lives in a mature and responsible fashion.  But to that end, if you're not in a rush to get married, once you decide how much you want to spend and what kind of weddding you want, and how long it will take you to save for it, that will help you set a date!
    Whoever said it was supposed to be happily ever after is a big fat liar.
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  • mandi921vhmandi921vh member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_advice-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:ee0ea32c-8d5e-487a-9cec-513e48f91bcePost:f1c61c56-bfe8-45ef-8dee-4a7cbdc345aa">Re: Some advice?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think being financially responsible is very important.  It sounds like you are.  The age thing is more about maturity, but it sounds like you have maturity and stability going for you too. 
    Posted by desertmomnm[/QUOTE]

    <div>This, and I would wait until you finish school to get married. </div>
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    If you both are ready to get married then you should do it. But since you're saving for a house, are you paying for the wedding yourself? There are people who were planning for a wedding but purchased a home and had to cancel their wedding. You should just think if no one is helping with the wedding, will you able to save for you house AND pay for your wedding. Just something you could think about. Maybe set aside a savings account for the wedding , so when you start planning you have it.
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