Not a party person

Re: Not a party person

• ceh789 member

  

  March 2012 edited March 2012

  Getting married on a cruise won't keep you from having a photographer.  You can either hire one to go with you or hire the cruise ship staff who frankly, are not reliably good.  

  
  

  Similarly - you can get many ceremony options on a cruise.  The only option you'd be ruling out would be a traditional church mass full religious ceremony.

  
  

  Typically when one has a DW, each guest pays their own travel and lodging costs so you would not be required to pay for your guests.  You do, however, risk that they will not be able to afford to attend.

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• melodybachman member

  

  March 2012

  My parents with a bit of warning could save up to go and my fiance's dad is a doctor and they go on a cruise yearly so if they were to pay for themselves that would illiminate a lot of the issue. 

  I'm really close with some of my extended family and I think if I were to invite them they would come. Should I invite all of my parents siblings and there families and let them decide whether thay can afford it? Or do I make the decision to only invite thoughs who can. I don't want to upset them, but I feel that it could go either way. They might get upset if they aren't invited or if they are invited they may be mad thinking that I didn't keep them in mind when I planned my wedding.

  Also my fiance is not very close with his family would he invite his aunts and uncles as well even though he doesn't really speak to them?

  Nora Marie born Monday, March 5, 2012 at 5:25pm weighing 7lbs. 2 oz. and 20.5 inches

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• ceh789 member

  

  March 2012 edited March 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_not-a-party-person?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:817c4ba7-a7b2-49d5-92cd-851c42f37d06Post:03f0d96e-4c51-452d-b23a-5f2fd5c4d1d5">Re: Not a party person</a>:
  [QUOTE]<strong>Should I invite all of my parents siblings and there families and let them decide whether thay can afford it?</strong> Or do I make the decision to only invite thoughs who can. I don't want to upset them, but I feel that it could go either way. They might get upset if they aren't invited or if they are invited they may be mad thinking that I didn't keep them in mind when I planned my wedding. Also my fiance is not very close with his family would he invite his aunts and uncles as well even though he doesn't really speak to them?
  Posted by melodybachman[/QUOTE]
  What if they all decide to go?  Isn't the whole point to avoid a huge party?  Always assume that 100% of your invited guests will accept.<div>
  </div><div>Invite the people you want to attend and let them decide if they can afford to go.</div>

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• sunnylilme

  

  March 2012

  My fiance and I aren't traditional wedding people either.  Instead, we are having a summer picnic with a very traditional, but outdoor, ceremony.  After that we are having a pig roast, yard games, etc.  There will be a dance floor but we are skipping the first dance and all that stuff. 
  A friend of mine is doing something similar but she is have a very very small ceremony (immediate family and friends only) with a dinner after and then more guests are invited to the main reception (a picnic like mine) the next day.  That would allow you to spend quality time with those closest to you but not leave anybody out.
  There is also the option of portait sessions with a photographer before and/or after the big day.

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• kmstev03

  

  March 2012

  I love the picnic idea @sunnylilme!!
  I definitely hear what you're saying... I am really nervous about being the center of attention at the wedding. But everyone says that you will be so happy that day, that you'll forget about it, and just have a great time!
  ...Just know that you aren't the only one who feels that way
  
  

  

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• saharnshard

  

  March 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_not-a-party-person?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:10Discussion:817c4ba7-a7b2-49d5-92cd-851c42f37d06Post:3edfac0c-2628-49e7-beac-bc731ded6eb0">Re: Not a party person</a>:
  [QUOTE]<strong>Getting married on a cruise won't keep you from having a photographer.  You can either hire one to go with you or hire the cruise ship staff who frankly, are not reliably good.</strong>   Similarly - you can get many ceremony options on a cruise.  The only option you'd be ruling out would be a traditional church mass full religious ceremony. Typically when one has a DW, each guest pays their own travel and lodging costs so you would not be required to pay for your guests.  You do, however, risk that they will not be able to afford to attend.
  Posted by ceh789[/QUOTE]
  
  Before you hire a photographer, make sure the cruise line allows outside photographers. When I looked into a cruise ship wedding, the line I was considering didn't allow outside photographers to take photos on the ship. But I think it would have been fine if you got married off the ship.

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• weddingdress0424

  

  March 2012

  I think every girl only have a important wedding  in her life, that must be a very precious memory.

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• scorpgirl1120 member

  

  March 2012

  To eliminate some of your worries.  You can't get married overseas so you would have to actually have the ceremony on land (where you can have a photographer) and then get on the ship and go have fun!  I don't think you should feel obligated to pay for anyone either.  Maaaybe your parents and maid of honor/best man but I'm sure if you suggested it to them they would not be expecting you to pay for something like that.

  

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• kstirton

  

  March 2012

  I would have a destination wedding, let everyone know how much it's going to be, and if they can make it great - if they don't then no worries and you will send out an announcement when you get home. this is YOUR day and you should make it exactly how you want it, where you want it with closest family/all the family whatever you desire! W/ a destination wedding you can still have a traditional type wedding and all of the money that would go into a big wedding can go into a vacation instead. Good luck!

  

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• Bay21

  

  March 2012

  Have you considered doing a wedding that's not in the evening? Like a brunch or lunch wedding? Having a wedding and the reception during those times of day will signal to people that there won't be booze and dancing like there are at the later in the evening-nighttime reception. And if you're afraid of being the center of attention, since a Lunch wedding is earlier in the day, you could set up fun games or something else for your guests to do. Either way, there are other options than to attempt a DW in the hopes that most people won't show.

  

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