I am 99.99% certain that I am about to end my friendship with my MOH. There has been so much drama surrounding her since I first met her almost two years ago.
I will first say that it has become apparent that she has a drinking problem. She doesn't know when to stop and becomes pretty crazy when she's had a bit too much to drink. Just a few examples - she tried to sleep with my brother at my parent's house last Halloween, she tried to sleep with one of my FI's friends in my guest bathroom at my birthday party after grabbing huge pieces of birthday cake and having a food fight (also in my guest bathroom), she threw up in several areas of a friends house on New Years, she got into a screaming match with another friend of FI's that resulted in him refusing to be around when she is around (he's in the wedding so I've been pretty nervous about them being around each other that day), and she has refused to go home on more than one occassion because she wants to keep drinking.
She recently gave up her floral shop which has caused her to become financially unstable. I have no judgement towards her for that. I've been through some rough times and I know how it is. But she really crossed the line after my shower this Saturday (which was at my mom's house).
First, she broke down to my Matron of Honor and I and explained that she felt so bad for not being able to contribute to the shower and to the bachelorette party. I told her that I would rather have her presence there then to have her money anytime. She went MIA for a couple of months and didn't return phone calls, texts, emails or fb messages to my mom or my Matron of Honor and apologized saying that she felt ashamed for not being able to help. Of course, after hearing all of that, I accepted her apology and we decided to move on and I just asked her to keep me in the loop from here on out.
Well, after that, we all said it was time to go home, so my Matron of Honor left and my MOH went out to smoke a cig. I told her again that I wanted to leave and she said she wanted to go in to say good bye to everyone. Instead of that, she poured herself a drink, and then another after that. I finally said, I am leaving and you need to as well. I finally got out of there an hour after we said we were initially leaving.
At 2:45am, my phone rings - it's her and she is in a parking lot at a bar with the police there not allowing her to drive home and she is asking me to come pick her up. So I get up and out of bed and drive 20 minutes to go get her. I am beyond pissed at this point. Not even 7 hours earlier, she was complaining about not having gas money but having the money to go to a bar is not a concern.
I don't want her at my b-party, I don't want her to come to any other social gatherings, and I don't even feel comfortable having her at or in my wedding. She is nothing but drama and even though I feel bad because I am ending our friendship when she probably needs me the most, I just can't handle her anymore.
Thanks for reading if you made it through all of that. I really needed to just let it all out.