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Invite Vent!

 We mailed out our invitations about 2 weeks ago and just yesterday my fiance's Grandma let me know that a few extended relatives weren't invited (she was the one who had given me addresses for his side of the family in the first place). So, she gave me their addresses last night and I put their invites in the mailbox this morning. 


Then, she calls me this morning at work to tell me that she changed her mind and doesn't want to invite two of the couples! I told her I had already mailed the invites and it was too late now. She was concerned b/c one of them doesn't have a lot of money (they live in Orlando). I told her they can just decline if they are unable or don't want to come to the wedding. Jeez! 

 

And we've also received two response cards back from people saying that they might bring a guest but they're not sure yet but will let me know!! They were not invited with an "and guest" since they're both single and not in any relationships! I would understand if they had just started a relationship and knew who they wanted to come with them but to say they might bring someone and they don't even know who yet is very annoying! 

 

So frustrating!

 

But on a happier note, several big items were bought off our registry this week, much to my surprise! And my shower's not until March 19th!

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Re: Invite Vent!

  • edited December 2011
    Wow...unbelievable!  I do not understand why this happens to use.  i had a similar situation.  I guess this drama comes along with wedding plannig....grrrrrrrrrr!!!!
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  • edited December 2011
    people just don't seem to think!!! They believe they can do whatever they want!! argh!!
    Thats exciting about the items bought off the registry! I know the feeling! I am a registry stalker!! : )
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-west-coast_invite-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:62Discussion:3fe4900c-8e05-465f-b9d9-42911fb386f2Post:58145381-6abe-4107-84d9-c6941aac2672">Re: Invite Vent!</a>:
    [QUOTE]people just don't seem to think!!! They believe they can do whatever they want!! argh!! Thats exciting about the items bought off the registry! I know the feeling! I am a registry stalker!! : )
    Posted by jet2paris85[/QUOTE]

    I'm a total registry stalker as well, I can't help myself! And it's so much fun to see what items have been bought!
    Anniversary
  • erinbc87erinbc87 member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    That's so frusturating about them thinking they can bring a guest.
    I swear no one knows wedding invite ettiqutte anymore!
    Why do people think they can bring someone the couple doesn't even know and they should have to pay everything for them??!

    Sigh...I'm going through this too!
  • cmeyer3946cmeyer3946 member
    Tenth Anniversary 500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    No worries, people like that haven't planned a wedding before and realized how expensive it is.  As frustrating as ignorance is, they just don't know!!   I think you can political and just let then know that while you'd like to invite everyone, you can't invite everyone with an open guest.
    BabyFruit Ticker
  • edited December 2011

    I agree with CMeyer, you might just have to politely tell them that are not able to bring a guest.  I still have a hard time warpping my head around these things.  I know that when I was invited to weddings whenI was single and it didn't say and guest, I knew that i would be going stag.


    On a lighter note, congrats on the registry..woo hoo!

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
  • edited December 2011
    I am with you!!
    I had a close friend e-mail me and say that my invite was confusing. It didn't indicate if she could bring a date ( she is a serial dater- and juggles about 4 men at a time (not judging). The invite was addressed to just her- isn't that the indication?

    I was wondering if others were having the same issues.

    Don't people know how expensive it is if you just bring a random date?
    PLus I have politley put it out there several times - that our wedding is intimate and we just want our closest friends and family to come.

    The only way I would extend that offer is if the guest didn't really know anyone else.

    I got your back girl!!!
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_florida-west-coast_invite-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:62Discussion:3fe4900c-8e05-465f-b9d9-42911fb386f2Post:4c5ea205-0935-473a-90a0-3db1799e60ec">Re: Invite Vent!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I am with you!! I had a close friend e-mail me and say that my invite was confusing. It didn't indicate if she could bring a date ( she is a serial dater- and juggles about 4 men at a time (not judging). The invite was addressed to just her- isn't that the indication? I was wondering if others were having the same issues. Don't people know how expensive it is if you just bring a random date? PLus I have politley put it out there several times - that our wedding is intimate and we just want our closest friends and family to come. The only way I would extend that offer is if the guest didn't really know anyone else. I got your back girl!!!
    Posted by redklein[/QUOTE]

    It really seems like hardly anyone knows etiquette anymore! Both of these people are family and will know plenty of other people at the wedding too! I really am surprised this happened, since I was pretty liberal with the +1's for people I knew wouldn't really know anyone else there.
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