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Shower Question

[Deleted User][Deleted User]
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My aunt and a cousin (on my dad's side) have informed me that they would like to host a shower for me. That's nice of them, no one else probably would, so I'm happy and everything. Buuuut, that aunt doesn't like my mom. My parents are separated so my dad talked poorly about my mom and now my aunt's not her biggest fan. So... does this mean I can't invite my mother to my bridal shower? I don't want to make my aunt feel uncomfortable since she's doing such a nice thing for me....but it's my mom...

advice? opinions?
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Re: Shower Question

  • OBX2011OBX2011 member
    2500 Comments Fifth Anniversary 25 Love Its First Answer
    edited January 2012
    Your mother should definitely be at your shower, regardless of how said Aunt feels.

    She is very gracious in hosting this shower for you, but this does not mean she gets to create the invite list. 

    This is your mother....enough said :)

     

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  • MobKazMobKaz member
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     The bride is usually consulted as to who should be invited, because the bride knows who will be invited to the wedding.  As a matter of courtesy, the mother of the bride is always invited to every shower.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
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    Okay, good! I think my mom would be really hurt if she wasn't invited. My aunt is not mean and wouldn't make anything out of it, but I know she doesn't like my mom, so... I just didn't want her to feel uncomfortable.
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  • mandctaftmandctaft
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    They are old enough to just avoid each other if they have unresolved issues. But your mom should definitely be there.
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  • CorrieDudeCorrieDude
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    If it came down to either choosing your mom to be there or your aunt holding the shower, I would pick mom. It's not to say that you can't appreciate what your aunt is doing and letting her know so, but, like you said, she's your mom.
    I would verify with your aunt that you can have control or partial control over the guest list before allowing her to make any plans. I don't think you should come out and say, "Is my mom invited?", because I think if you hint at wanting to control the guest list, she'll get the point.
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