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Mom vs. Step-Mom
I'm wondering how to incorporate my stepmom into our wedding. My parents were divorced when I was four because my dad cheated with my stepmom, but they've lasted 18 years. Obviously, my mom still loathes them both, especially her. I actually love her to death, and she's been really helpful with the wedding planning, which my real mom hasn't been. I was thinking of having my brother, an usher, walk them both down together and sit between them in front, so Audra won't feel wierd not knowing anyone at the wedding and have to sit alone. My mom is probably going to FLIP OUT if I tell her this. I know it's supposed to be what I want, but I really don't want to start any wedding drama, or have my mom feel less important, but Audra is really a big part of my life now. Options, please!
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Re: Mom vs. Step-Mom
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[QUOTE]Stepmoms are usually seated just prior to the MOG. They are still part of the processional and recognized as such. Is there a problem with going that route? As a MOB and a stepmom, I would be seriously peeved.
Posted by kmmssg[/QUOTE]
I am not a MOB but I agree with this.
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[QUOTE]Stepmoms are usually seated just prior to the MOG. They are still part of the processional and recognized as such. Is there a problem with going that route? As a MOB and a stepmom, I would be seriously peeved.
Posted by kmmssg[/QUOTE]
ditto!
It seems like they are both special women in your life and they both deserve to be recognized. Unfortunately, the situation with your mom/step mom and what happened makes it tricky. I would have them walk separately escorted by brother/usher (whoever is doing escorting) and have them sitting in different rows maybe or at least further down in the same row. I would have step mom escorted second to last and mom escorted last.
[QUOTE]<strong>Stepmoms are usually seated just prior to the MOG.</strong> They are still part of the processional and recognized as such. Is there a problem with going that route? As a MOB and a stepmom, I would be seriously peeved.
Posted by kmmssg[/QUOTE]
Ditto!
Ashley - forcing your mom to share that honor with a woman that she loathes will probably make both your mom and stepmother feel uncomfortable.
[QUOTE]It seems like they are both special women in your life and they both deserve to be recognized. Unfortunately, the situation with your mom/step mom and what happened makes it tricky. I would have them walk separately escorted by brother/usher (whoever is doing escorting) and have them sitting in different rows maybe or at least further down in the same row. I would have step mom escorted second to last and mom escorted last.
Posted by MelissaC315[/QUOTE]
I do think this might be a slap to the MOG. MOG should be seated directly prior to MOB as this is the only recognition she is afforded. SMOB should be seated prior to MOG.