apologize or bad bridemaid

marketkr · January 2013

itzMS · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_apologize-or-bad-bridemaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:1fbead3a-0541-4bf9-aa78-d5e2528169c9Post:1c75baa5-828a-4a17-96bd-dabbd8a50a77">apologize or bad bridemaid</a>:
[QUOTE]My wedding has passed and I've had the worst bridesmaid ever. My sister was the maid of honor. But my one bridesmaid who is a friend though she should be maid of honor and needs to plan everything. Every time my sister ask her opinion about something, my sister would get "well you’re the maid of honor you decide". Well my sister would decide then my friend would come back and hate the entire idea. Now when my friend asked my sister opinion they wanted it right now today and no "I don’t know" answer. I was ready to kick my friend out of the wedding before the shower. My sister gave up on asking her what she thought because she never gets an answer. So my friend got even madder. She completely ruined my bacherlette party to. She wanted to go just bar hopping so she can pick out all the hott guys, and I told my sister I just didn't want to go bar hopping. So we came up with a wine party at someone house. No one showed up because my friend told everyone not to come. Then we left after the restaurant, her and some peeps left a good 20 mins before me. I show up at the first bar with my maid of honor and mom and my other friends. My other two bridesmaids didn't show up till hour later. My mom chewed them out because I was already upset and wanted to go home, and then she had the nerve of tell me my mom had to apologize. At this point I was so afraid she was going to ruin my wedding day. I was more nervous about her ruining it them the other stuff. My day came and went perfect minus my friend bitching because I didn't have the right food for her. 6 months later my friend keeps texting me demanding I apologize for the way she was treated during the wedding process. I think she owes me, my mom, and sister and apologize. Opinions?
Posted by marketkr[/QUOTE]

My opinion is that you don't need this so-called friend any longer. Just stop acknowledging her texts. Most everyone deals with a few hurt feelings along the way in the wedding planning process. It's an emotional time. Good friends stand by your side and don't cause a scene. Really, what good would any sort of "apology" do anyone 6 months later?

You're already married, you had a great wedding day, it's time to move on.

Maggie0829 · January 2013

At this point you should just ignore her texts/phone calls and maybe even block her number. She sounds like a crappy friend and someone you really don't need to in your life anymore.

It is time for you to move on. What is done is done. Just remember the great times from your wedding and look forward to the good times ahead.

itzMS · January 2013

CN:

OP's Bridesmaid "Friend" thought she should've been MOH, but OP asked her sister to be MOH instead.

"Friend" apparently thought she would've made the awesomest MOH and wants to plan everything, but refused to help anytime MOH-sister asked.

"Friend's" attitude problem "ruined" some pre-wedding events.

Now, 6 months later "Friend" still wants an apology from being passed over for MOH and being called out on her attitude problem.