Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids

AnnK8y5 · June 2012

A while back I had posted about a bridesmaid being 8 months pregnant during my wedding and the concerns I had. In that post I discovered that many brides are disappointed and even angry that a bridesmaid will be pregnant. Well I ended up having two and I couldn't have been more grateful for them. While my other bridesmaids were getting drunk, these two were helping me in the bathroom, fixing my hair and makeup and bringing me water throughout the night. They were much more focused on me and the wedding than my other maids and truly were there for me. They both looked gorgeous with their little bumps. I've just seen a lot of negative comments about bridesmaids getting pregnant so hopefully my experience will change those thoughts. Having two close friends that will soon be mothers is such a blessing.

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_grateful-for-pregnant-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:7d5b4cb0-ce9a-4a21-9e8e-d0b0d381374aPost:a3553477-3a0d-4dba-9199-b3a9b01511e4">Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]A while back I had posted about a bridesmaid being 8 months pregnant during my wedding and the concerns I had. In that post I discovered that many brides are disappointed and even angry that a bridesmaid will be pregnant. Well I ended up having two and I couldn't have been more grateful for them. <strong>While my other bridesmaids were getting drunk, these two were helping me in the bathroom, fixing my hair and makeup and bringing me water throughout the night. They were much more focused on me and the wedding than my other maids and truly were there for me.</strong> They both looked gorgeous with their little bumps. I've just seen a lot of negative comments about bridesmaids getting pregnant so hopefully my experience will change those thoughts. Having two close friends that will soon be mothers is such a blessing.
Posted by JustinandHaleyKnapp[/QUOTE]

Well although I agree there is absolutely nothing wrong with having a pregnant BM ( I did!), you were 'grateful" for absolutely the wrong reasons.

For one, it is not a BM's job to fix your hair and makeup or wait on you hand and foot during your wedding. You are a grown ass woman and can take care of yourself. They are not your servants, and I think it's pretty sad that you had your pregnant BMs running around waiting on you during your wedding, unable to actually enjoy it themselves because they are still GUESTS at your wedding, too, you know. There is absolulely nothing wrong with WP members "getting drunk" or actually enjoying themselves, seeing as how it's a party, they've probably spent a lot of money on attire and what not to be in your wedding, might have attended pre-wedding parties and a rehearsal for you, so that means dedicating a lot of time to your wedding, and they just want to be able to enjoy themselves and have fun, like you should be doing instead of having people wait on you.

Future brides: please don't listen to OP. Yes, there is nothing wrong with a BM being pregnant, but please don't make her your personal slave and let her actually enjoy herself during your wedding, for crying out loud.

AnnK8y5 · June 2012

Wow that is not how I meant that at all. When I brought up questions about my pregnant bridesmaids I was concerned about how I could make them comfortable during the ceremony. In that post I found that some think having a pregnant bridesmaid could "ruin" their wedding. I did not ask my pregnant bridesmaids to wait on me. I was shocked that they ended up being more helpful than anyone else. All I was trying to say was that I really appreciated them that day. So I apologize that it came across to you as it did.

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_grateful-for-pregnant-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:7d5b4cb0-ce9a-4a21-9e8e-d0b0d381374aPost:2648ba6c-aca1-4733-a3e9-e668be165abf">Re: Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow that is not how I meant that at all. When I brought up questions about my pregnant bridesmaids I was concerned about how I could make them comfortable during the ceremony. In that post I found that some think having a pregnant bridesmaid could "ruin" their wedding. I did not ask my pregnant bridesmaids to wait on me. I was shocked that they ended up being more helpful than anyone else.<strong> All I was trying to say was that I really appreciated them that day. So I apologize that it came across to you as it did.</strong>
Posted by JustinandHaleyKnapp[/QUOTE]

It came across exactly as you wrote it. I'm not sure how else you could take the fact that you said unlike your other BMs who were too busy getting drunk, your pregnant BMs could focus on YOU and YOUR wedding. Those were your words. It isn't their job to be focused on YOU. That's incredibly selfish. I really don't understand how else you could have meant that statement at all.

shara486 · June 2012

Haley,
Althought I should probably stay out of this post so that Summer does not jump down my throat also. I'm going to voice my opinion anyways...
I just want to say that it was very nice that you were trying to redeem yourself after being concerned about having pregnant BM's.
I was at wedding just this weekend and I can see where a non-drunk bridesmaid would be enjoyable as they are there to celebrate with you.... not just get drunk.
A wedding is all about the celebration of the two lives becoming one. Each person should celebrate as they feel fitting. If that means getting drunk, ok. If it means actually spending time with the bride and helping her enjoy her day, then thats even better!

acbp2011 · June 2012

OP - I get what you're saying. It's fantastic that they were supportive and were there for you on the wedding day.

I also must say that I'm finding the whole "your maids are not servants" rants annoying. Obviously they're not servants and are not expected to do anything other than show up in the dress, BUT if they WANT to do more (like the pregnant maids in the OP's post) I think it's great. Everyone seems SO sensitive to the mantra that the BMs shouldn't do anything other than show up that it has now become taboo if they actually WANT to plan shower, bachelorette parties, help the bride out on the wedding day, etc. AND it seems that the bride gets ripped a new one if she appreciates it, enjoys it and feels special.

*steps off soap box*

GoodLuckBear14 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_grateful-for-pregnant-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:7d5b4cb0-ce9a-4a21-9e8e-d0b0d381374aPost:b46ee36f-8095-4b8c-90e2-30c92a71b819">Re: Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]OP - I get what you're saying. It's fantastic that they were supportive and were there for you on the wedding day. I also must say that I'm finding the whole "your maids are not servants" rants annoying. Obviously they're not servants and are not expected to do anything other than show up in the dress, BUT if they WANT to do more (like the pregnant maids in the OP's post) I think it's great. Everyone seems SO sensitive to the mantra that the BMs shouldn't do anything other than show up that it has now become taboo if they actually WANT to plan shower, bachelorette parties, help the bride out on the wedding day, etc. AND it seems that the bride gets ripped a new one if she appreciates it, enjoys it and feels special. *steps off soap box*
Posted by acbp2011[/QUOTE]

Nobody is saying that them wanting to do extra is taboo. It is wrong to say that pregnant BMs are better than nonprgnant ones because they will focus on you and do things for you that you should be capable of doing yourself.

acbp2011 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_grateful-for-pregnant-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:7d5b4cb0-ce9a-4a21-9e8e-d0b0d381374aPost:7f3f7b25-3ea5-4a20-9791-0f42f0ee7f0c">Re: Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids : Nobody is saying that them wanting to do extra is taboo. It is wrong to say that pregnant BMs are better than nonprgnant ones because they will focus on you and do things for you that you should be capable of doing yourself.
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

I honestly didn't see the OP's post as saying that pregnant BMs are better than nonpregnant ones. I think she's just saying that she'd previously thought that pregnant BMs wouldn't perhaps be as active in participation as nonpregnant BMs, but in the end they ended up being more involved and thoughtful so she's appreciative that she had them. Not that they're better for being pregnant because they could focus on her.

Again, that's just my opinion.

jnjmommy0609 · June 2012

LOL! All I see here is a woman who was very grateful for two of her bridemaids and posted a sweet note about them.

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_grateful-for-pregnant-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:7d5b4cb0-ce9a-4a21-9e8e-d0b0d381374aPost:b46ee36f-8095-4b8c-90e2-30c92a71b819">Re: Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]OP - I get what you're saying. It's fantastic that they were supportive and were there for you on the wedding day. I also must say that I'm finding the whole "your maids are not servants" rants annoying. Obviously they're not servants and are not expected to do anything other than show up in the dress, BUT if they WANT to do more (like the pregnant maids in the OP's post) I think it's great. Everyone seems SO sensitive to the mantra that the BMs shouldn't do anything other than show up that it has now become taboo if they actually WANT to plan shower, bachelorette parties, help the bride out on the wedding day, etc. AND it seems that the bride gets ripped a new one if she appreciates it, enjoys it and feels special. *steps off soap box*
Posted by acbp2011[/QUOTE]

Them wanting to do more still doesn't excuse OP's "sweet note" about how her non-pregnant BMs were basically second rate because they chose to get drunk at her wedding (which is a PARTY, by the way, where alcohol is available and provided for the purpose of people imbibing) rather than focus on HER all day.

If OP just came on here and said, "You know what, I'm sick of everyone complaining about pregnant BMs. I had two BMs who were pregnant and they were awesome!" I think that would have been nice. But no, she posted to say they were nice because they had to stay sober, and therefore could dote on her (whether by choice or not--doesn't matter) all night and focus solely on her. Give me a break.

colemanml · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_grateful-for-pregnant-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:7d5b4cb0-ce9a-4a21-9e8e-d0b0d381374aPost:590b31ad-c43f-43ff-90a0-ef06e78457a8">Re: Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids : Them wanting to do more still doesn't excuse OP's "sweet note" about how her non-pregnant BMs were basically second rate because they chose to get drunk at her wedding (which is a PARTY, by the way, where alcohol is available and provided for the purpose of people imbibing) rather than focus on HER all day. If OP just came on here and said, "You know what, I'm sick of everyone complaining about pregnant BMs. I had two BMs who were pregnant and they were awesome!" I think that would have been nice. But no, she posted to say they were nice because they had to stay sober, and therefore could dote on her (whether by choice or not--doesn't matter) all night and focus solely on her. Give me a break.
Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>WOW! Do you even read your reply before you post them? You sound like a cynical, jerk. I read OP's response and I found NOTHING offensive about her post. I think OP sounds like a wonderful person, not ingrateful or self-centered at all. You are the only one who seems out of line with your replies. Chill out.

</div>

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_grateful-for-pregnant-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:7d5b4cb0-ce9a-4a21-9e8e-d0b0d381374aPost:7118ccc8-abee-4445-995c-1c0369f43469">Re: Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids : WOW! Do you even read your reply before you post them? You sound like a cynical, jerk. I read OP's response and I found NOTHING offensive about her post. I think OP sounds like a wonderful person, not ingrateful or self-centered at all. You are the only one who seems out of line with your replies. Chill out.
Posted by colemanml[/QUOTE]

I'm sure you feel sorry for my husband too, right? Haha.

BTW, "ingrateful" is not even a word.

redheadtmk · June 2012

OP-I did not read your post as being spoiled and insensitive. I think you are out numbered Summer. All posts are open for interpretation when you use forums like this. You choose to read it in a negative light and find fault. We choose to read it in a positive light which is how the OP meant it.

You can choose to read it how you want but that does not make it true. The person who wrote the original post gets to decide what they really meant and she said that she meant it
nicely.

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_grateful-for-pregnant-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:7d5b4cb0-ce9a-4a21-9e8e-d0b0d381374aPost:34409e41-f4ca-4fad-9390-822fcaee2275">Re: Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]OP-I did not read your post as being spoiled and insensitive. I think you are out numbered Summer. All posts are open for interpretation when you use forums like this. You choose to read it in a negative light and find fault. We choose to read it in a positive light which is how the OP meant it. You can choose to read it how you want but that does not make it true. The person who wrote the original post gets to decide what they really meant and she said that she meant it nicely.
Posted by redheadtmk[/QUOTE]

I like how you're lecturing me on how the boards work when you have 600 some posts and I have over 6000. I think I know how the boards work. Being "outnumbered" doesn't really mean anything to me. If she didn't mean what she said, then OP needs to work on expressing herself and her true meaning better in writing. And I still think it's crappy to imply the value of a BM is somehow connected to how much they do for you. I won't stop thinking that,, so it doesn't really matter who here agrees.

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_grateful-for-pregnant-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:7d5b4cb0-ce9a-4a21-9e8e-d0b0d381374aPost:a3553477-3a0d-4dba-9199-b3a9b01511e4">Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]A while back I had posted about a bridesmaid being 8 months pregnant during my wedding and the concerns I had. In that post I discovered that many brides are disappointed and even angry that a bridesmaid will be pregnant. Well I ended up having two and I couldn't have been more grateful for them.<strong> While my other bridesmaids were getting drunk, </strong>these two were helping me in the bathroom, fixing my hair and makeup and bringing me water throughout the night. <strong>They were much more focused on <u>me</u> and the wedding than my other maids and truly were there for <u>me.</u></strong> They both looked gorgeous with their little bumps. I've just seen a lot of negative comments about bridesmaids getting pregnant so hopefully my experience will change those thoughts. Having two close friends that will soon be mothers is such a blessing.
Posted by JustinandHaleyKnapp[/QUOTE]

Not sure how else you could take the bolded. Seems very "me" focused if you ask me. Again, OP if you were truly grateful they are such good friends, you could have said that. But no. You related their worth as a BM to how focused they were on you. So you either were very superficial or you don't know how to communicate your meaning well at all in writing form.

ElisabethJoanne · June 2012

If OP can't write well, we don't have to insult her moral character. She posted a clarification clearing up the amibiguity in the original post.

I'd also point out that just as some people show love by doing little things, like bringing a glass of water, some people show love by focusing on a "guest of honor." Some people also enjoy parties when they can be helpful, rather than by doing typical party things. Had the bride too forcefully rejected these shows of love, she could easily have been rejecting the bridesmaids' love itself, or so they'd feel.

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

What you're not getting is that this isn't about what the BMs did or didn't offer to do. It's not about that. It's about the fact that OP's first thought when deciding who her "better" BMs and therefore better friends were was to see who did what for her the most. How dare her non-pregnant BMs carry on dancing and getting drunk and not focusing completely on her. That's what her first post was saying. If she (or anyone) can't handle people telling her that that's a sucky thing to say, this probably isn't the best website for her. And this board is pretty tame. I would highly suggest not going on the WP or E boards spouting this stuff if she gets sensitive over this thread.

redheadtmk · June 2012

I am sure what others think doesnt matter to you. After all there really is only room for one on your high horse and self righteous soap box. OP- the rest of understand what you were trying to convey. Dont let one person who CHOOSES to look for the worst in your post get you down.

MangoSong · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_grateful-for-pregnant-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:7d5b4cb0-ce9a-4a21-9e8e-d0b0d381374aPost:88596cbe-de4f-4c60-bf19-9b4e401af7ac">Re: Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]LOL! All I see here is a woman who was very grateful for two of her bridemaids and posted a sweet note about them.
Posted by jnjmommy0609[/QUOTE]

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_grateful-for-pregnant-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:7d5b4cb0-ce9a-4a21-9e8e-d0b0d381374aPost:0c53846e-4150-4317-bd91-d8edb00cd0e2">Re: Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]I am sure what others think doesnt matter to you. After all there really is only room for one on your high horse and self righteous soap box. OP- the rest of understand what you were trying to convey. Dont let one person who CHOOSES to look for the worst in your post get you down.
Posted by redheadtmk[/QUOTE]

Not sure where one person comes from GoodLuck also agreed with me, or did you overlook that? So obviously I'm not totally crazy if someone else who I don't know personally saw the same thing. There isn't really much to interpret. The OP WROTE those words. End of story. But I'm done arguing because it's like arguing with a brick wall. You have a nice day.

acbp2011 · June 2012

Thanks! We'll have a great day!

tkddddddddd · June 2012

Op - I thought our note was sweet. PP - seriously, how do you possibly have so much time to stalk a thread and give long ass replies to every post "against" you? Where do you work - would love a job with suc liberty and so much free time post-work to do that.

Meghannsix · June 2012

OP, I'm glad you had a nice wedding! As I read it, your point was, pregnant BM's are not the root of all evil, and will not ruin your wedding, so if one of your BM's announces that she's pregnant, it's a blessing in her life and not a curse to your PPD. Honestly, some people are just "glass half empty" kind of people, and will look for any excuse to rip into a post.

AnnK8y5 · June 2012

Ok so I'm not the best at putting thoughts into words. I didn't mean to say anyone was better than anyone else in my wedding. I also never expected anyone to wait on me because yes, I am a grown ass woman. I have wonderful friends and two that will very soon become wonderful mothers. Like I said, I just heard a lot of brides that were upset with bridesmaids being pregnant. One in particular was asking if she should ask that BM to step down. I feel honored to have such wonderful bridesmaids and I'm sorry that what I said actually made me seem grateful for the wrong reasons. I was simply trying to say that whether someone is pregnant or not, they can still be a part of your day (as long as they are up to it). I also understand that it is a party and bridesmaids are allowed to drink. I was just saying that it was nice to have help. Going to the bathroom with a wedding dress isn't the easiest task in the world.

Thank you to everyone that actually understood what I was trying to say. To those that didn't, I apologize that it came off as it did. I truly am grateful for my friends and family.

joe&cassie · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_grateful-for-pregnant-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:7d5b4cb0-ce9a-4a21-9e8e-d0b0d381374aPost:a3553477-3a0d-4dba-9199-b3a9b01511e4">Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]A while back I had posted about a bridesmaid being 8 months pregnant during my wedding and the concerns I had. In that post I discovered that many brides are disappointed and even angry that a bridesmaid will be pregnant. Well I ended up having two and I couldn't have been more grateful for them. <strong>While my other bridesmaids were getting drunk</strong>, these two were helping me in the bathroom, fixing my hair and makeup and bringing me water throughout the night. They were much more focused on me and the wedding than my other maids and truly were there for me. They both looked gorgeous with their little bumps. I've just seen a lot of negative comments about bridesmaids getting pregnant so hopefully my experience will change those thoughts. Having two close friends that will soon be mothers is such a blessing.
Posted by JustinandHaleyKnapp[/QUOTE]

I would be mad that the friends I picked above everyone else would get drunk and not remember my special day. Call me selfish if you want; however I would never get drunk at my friend's weddings whether i was in the WP or not. In fact the only reason we are going to have alcohol is because my mom wants us too because our side likes to drink and she is paying for it. OP you have every right to be thankful for friends who wanted to celebrate with <strong>you</strong> and not just get drunk. That's my opinion and I would much rather have sober friends then drunk friends.

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_grateful-for-pregnant-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:7d5b4cb0-ce9a-4a21-9e8e-d0b0d381374aPost:7336f370-c376-4f9d-ac1c-a0e0e848810a">Re: Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids :<strong> I would be mad that the friends I picked above everyone else would get drunk </strong>and not remember my special day. Call me selfish if you want; however I would never get drunk at my friend's weddings whether i was in the WP or not. In fact the only reason we are going to have alcohol is because my mom wants us too because our side likes to drink and she is paying for it. OP you have every right to be thankful for friends who wanted to celebrate with you and not just get drunk. <strong>That's my opinion and I would much rather have sober friends then drunk friends.</strong>
Posted by joe&cassie[/QUOTE]

You sound fun. Do you always police your friends, i.e. grown adults, on how they should behave at social outings? I really hope not. If you wouldn't pick a good friend to be in your WP because they enjoy drinking at social gatherings where alcohol is provided, you need to get over yourself. You sound like you micromanage way too much and have a funny way of determing "friendship." And you do know (and would know if you've been around these boards) that the wedding reception is a thank you to the guests who attended your wedding, right? The idea is for them to have a good time. If that means some of your friends, WP included, want to drink the alcohol you're providing, then that's what that means. If you wanted a totally sober wedding, you should have a dry one, but you can't offer alcohol and then police who should and should not be drinking it according to your "standards" for good friends.

How exactly would that conversation even go? "Well, we are providing alcohol, but only for our other non-WP guests. Because you are one of our closest friends and therefore are in the WP and have spent money on attire as well as time to be part of our day, you don't get to drink! Sorry, you can't imbibe because you need to be focused on <u><strong>my</strong></u> special day and be able to remember it for years to come." Wow what a buzz kill. If you seriously judge the quality of your friends by how much they drink at social gatherings, then you're a crappy friend and they'd be better off not being in your WP anyhow.

colemanml · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_grateful-for-pregnant-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:7d5b4cb0-ce9a-4a21-9e8e-d0b0d381374aPost:d2d6193a-fa5e-4285-b492-0fa82255b49b">Re: Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids : I'm sure you feel sorry for my husband too, right? Haha. BTW, "ingrateful" is not even a word.
Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>Actually ingrateful is a word:</div><div>From Websters Online Dictionary </div><div><h2 style="margin-bottom:0px;color:#000000;font-family:'Times New Roman';line-height:normal;font-size:medium;" align="center">Definition: Ingrateful</h2><div style="color:#000000;font-family:'Times New Roman';line-height:normal;font-size:medium;"><div><table border="0" cellpadding="1" width="90%"><tbody><tr><td colspan="2"> </td></tr><tr><td class="head" width="15%" style="border-bottom-color:gray;border-bottom-style:solid;"><strong><strong>Part of Speech</strong></strong></td><td class="head" width="85%" style="border-bottom-color:gray;border-bottom-style:solid;"><strong><strong>Definition</strong></strong></td></tr><tr><td valign="top"><strong>Adjective</strong></td><td valign="top"><strong>1</strong>. Ungrateful; thankless; unappreciative.<font size="2">[<a href="http://www.websters-online-dictionary.org/credits/websters1913.html#" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">Websters</a>]</font>
<strong>2</strong>. Unpleasing to the sense; distasteful; offensive.<font size="2">[<a href="http://www.websters-online-dictionary.org/credits/websters1913.html#" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">Websters</a>]</font>
<strong>3</strong>. Being ungrateful. <font size="2">[<a href="http://www.websters-online-dictionary.org/credits/Eve.asp#" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">Eve - graph theoretic</a>]</font>
<strong>4</strong>. Being disagreeable. <font size="2">[<a href="http://www.websters-online-dictionary.org/credits/Eve.asp#" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">Eve - graph theoretic</a>]</font>
<strong>5</strong>. Rarely used base adjective of the adverb ingratefully.<font size="2">[<a href="http://www.websters-online-dictionary.org/credits/Eve.asp#" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">Eve - graph theoretic</a>]

Actually yes, I do feel sorry for your husband. Hopefully you are not as rude and chasastising to him as you are to the women in all the forums you feel the need to comment on. Seriously, every comment you make is negative and that seems pretty pathetic to me. Try looking on the brighter side of things and not always reading into things as being negative. You might have a better time in life. </font></td></tr></tbody></table></div></div></div>

acbp2011 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_grateful-for-pregnant-bridesmaids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:7d5b4cb0-ce9a-4a21-9e8e-d0b0d381374aPost:62af66fa-613e-486d-aaaa-e924262a9623">Re: Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Grateful for pregnant bridesmaids : You sound fun. Do you always police your friends, i.e. grown adults, on how they should behave at social outings? I really hope not. If you wouldn't pick a good friend to be in your WP because they enjoy drinking at social gatherings where alcohol is provided, you need to get over yourself. You sound like you micromanage way too much and have a funny way of determing "friendship." And you do know (and would know if you've been around these boards) that the wedding reception is a thank you to the guests who attended your wedding, right? The idea is for them to have a good time. If that means some of your friends, WP included, want to drink the alcohol you're providing, then that's what that means. If you wanted a totally sober wedding, you should have a dry one, but you can't offer alcohol and then police who should and should not be drinking it according to your "standards" for good friends. How exactly would that conversation even go? "Well, we are providing alcohol, but only for our other non-WP guests. Because you are one of our closest friends and therefore are in the WP and have spent money on attire as well as time to be part of our day, you don't get to drink! Sorry, you can't imbibe because you need to be focused on my special day and be able to remember it for years to come." Wow what a buzz kill. If you seriously judge the quality of your friends by how much they drink at social gatherings, then you're a crappy friend and they'd be better off not being in your WP anyhow.
Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]

Please - relax. Why the excessive aggresiveness? Why not express your opinion in a way that doesn't belittle or attack others? Differences in opinion are perfectly fine but when we express them as though we're in middle school with what seems to be spiteful vindictiveness, things just get rough.

EDIT: Trust me, I'm no saint. I have quite a few bitchy, mean and snarky things I'd like to throw out there but I don't because: 1.) It's not very nice; and 2.) It isn't productive in any way, shape or form and doesn't benefit those posting on these forums. One can disagree without "getting on her broom", so to speak.

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

LOL All I have to say is you are lucky this thread is on the M&M board and not WP or E if what I wrote hurts your sensitive feelings. It's not my fault or any of the other poster's if you can't take someone telling you when you're being a rude, crappy friend. Maybe if people weren't rude, crappy friends we wouldn't have to tell them that. I feel like I'm back in first grade with the "be nice" lecture. No. We're not in first grade. And if what I've said in this thread greatly offends and hurts you, I honestly question how you function day-to-day in the real world. Buck up.

Thanks for the laugh, ladies. Really.

acbp2011 · June 2012

No, no. What you're saying doesn't hurt feelings - it's how you say it. And, honestly, it's not even the way you say it that hurts feelings. The way you voice your opinions simply makes them very easy to dismiss and ignore because anyone who must constantly expel that much snark doesn't come across as being a very balanced person, nor does that person's opinion hold much merit.

And now for a smidge of my own snark because honestly I simply can't resist: "Never argue with an idiot. They'll only drag you down to their level and beat you with experience." <---you'll prove that when you are compelled to provide another response telling me to buck up and learn how to function day-to-day in the real world OR a response in which you say something along the lines of, "Oh how ironic that you should say that since you're obviously an idiot who has drug me down to your level". There, I already provided responses for you.

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

Oh FFS. I'm just a big bad biiitch and if you have a problem with it, you should probably stop responding to the thread. It's not that damn hard.

And the broom I ride on is made of pure gold and sparkles.

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