Formal vs informal: Escort Cards

chumlee7478 · March 2012

How formal do I need to be when doing names on escort cards? I'm going to be sending my list to my vendor at the end of this week, and I'm unsure how formal I need to be when writing out the names. Is it as formal as writing out the invitations?

Is this OK (for a single guest): Kevin Jones, or do I need to do Mr. Kevin Jones?

For a couple: Jane and Donald Smith, or do I need to do Mr. and Mrs. Donald Smith?

And how do I write out the card for a doctor and his wife? Is it Dr. and Mrs. Tom Jenkins? Is there a way to do it in a less formal manner but still keep the Dr. in his title?

Thank you in advance!

jemmini6 · March 2012

I went informal for mine and just did names, no titles. I also did one card for each guest. I think it's a matter of preference and how formal you want your wedding to be.

Matty143 · March 2012

I had the cards written the same way the invitations were addressed.
For no reason other than I just figured I would be consistent.

chumlee7478 · March 2012

I have no intention of being formal, I just wanted to make sure it wasn't automatically expected on the escort cards!

I'm hoping to do one card per couple, as the majority of guests are coming together (and it would save a ton of money on the cards). I'm still trying to figure the Dr one out, but I'm sure I'll figure it out by Friday.

Thank you ladies!

mica178 · March 2012

It depends on the formality of your reception.

H was adamant that we skip titles on the escort cards, so that's what we did, except for the two priests, who got titles anyway.

wrigleyville · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_formal-vs-informal-escort-cards?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:2b18bd23-f088-42a0-91b7-48b9ec84cc73Post:74c14280-34ed-4573-a1a7-f5d2b17e0c2b">Re: Formal vs informal: Escort Cards</a>:
[QUOTE]Where the hell did my seals go??? This obviously has nothing to do with Chum's question, sorry. ETA: Now I look like a moron because they're back. I have no clue how my sig switched back to Weed Dog.
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

You aren't insane. I saw weed dog too.

chumlee7478 · March 2012

Eagles, I see seals. No weed dog.

Now if I start seeing seals or a weed dog IRL, and I'm NOT on TK, then I need help besides just escort card wording.

mbody · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_formal-vs-informal-escort-cards?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2b18bd23-f088-42a0-91b7-48b9ec84cc73Post:74c14280-34ed-4573-a1a7-f5d2b17e0c2b">Re: Formal vs informal: Escort Cards</a>:
[QUOTE]Where the hell did my seals go??? This obviously has nothing to do with Chum's question, sorry. ETA: Now I look like a moron because they're back. I have no clue how my sig switched back to Weed Dog.
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]
Haha! In the thread above, it was your weed dog. And I thought, oh look, Eagles changed her sig pic. So, when I saw this just now, I literally laughed b/c I saw the dog too. But, now I see the seals again.

Meegles4 · March 2012

Eagles, save the seals!!

I'm no help in this area. We're doing a seating chart and listing by last name, first name, so we're forgoing the prefixes/titles because it's ugly that way.

I honestly couldn't tell you how they've been worded at past weddings. I feel like I've seen it all. Titles, no titles, guests on one card, guests on their own card. It's a smorgasboard.

chumlee7478 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_formal-vs-informal-escort-cards?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2b18bd23-f088-42a0-91b7-48b9ec84cc73Post:94f0199f-03d6-4dbb-aa05-5ed2a6b50e66">Re: Formal vs informal: Escort Cards</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Formal vs informal: Escort Cards : Or it might mean that YOU are a weed dog. ;) How are you holding up there, buddy? Any more funny response card stories?
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

It would definitely mean I'm inhaling what my downstairs neighbors are smoking, that's for sure.

I'm holding up OK. My mom has turned into a one woman sideshow. My MOH is officially calling her Sybill. There was a deep end she dove into a few weeks ago about my shower, and she hasn't resurfaced since. I hope she goes back to being the mom I know before the wedding, but things aren't looking good.

Only two funny response card stories have happened since the last time I posted about it. One: my FBIL hand wrote in for his food selection "lasanga" as a reference to "Airplane". That was pretty funny when we saw that.

The other (not so funny)response was one of my mom's cousins responded for herself, completely X'd out her husband's name on the RSVP card, but checked off both entree selections. I was confused, so I called her to double check. Her response on our voicemail: "Oh, I'm coming alone, but I wasn't sure what I'd want for dinner so I checked both just in case. And no, Bob's not coming. He never goes to weddings or functions anymore. He's socially awkward and no one likes being around him".

ALRIGHTY THEN.

ECook25 · March 2012

I've seen it all different ways. For what it's worth, we are doing it the same way we did invitations (formally - Mr. and Mrs. John Doe, Dr. and Mrs. James Smith), partly because our wedding is formal, but also because I was able to use the invitation spreadsheet to create the placecard list, and I had no desire to modify that list too much after all the work that went into creating it!

chumlee7478 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_formal-vs-informal-escort-cards?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2b18bd23-f088-42a0-91b7-48b9ec84cc73Post:a15f2814-a603-43e8-bd70-724a05cf18c9">Re: Formal vs informal: Escort Cards</a>:
[QUOTE]DUDE. What the frig. Did you tell her she had to pick one? I am hand to God cracking up over this: "And no, Bob's not coming. He never goes to weddings or functions anymore. He's socially awkward and no one likes being around him". I'm sorry about your mom. Tell her Eagles said to pull it together. That should set everything right in two shakes.
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

I replayed the voicemail a good 4 times before it hit me what she said. My FI didn't know how to react to it. FI has settled on introducing himself at the wedding to her and then saying, "So...what about Bob?" And yes, I called her back and let her know that unless Bob was indeed coming with her, I needed to know her exact choice of entrees for the chef to prepare. As of Sunday night, she's having salmon. Stay tuned.

I'll let my mom know what you said. I'm sure between her knowing that Eagles wants her in line and my best friend looking for opportunities to spike her Tab with Drano, that'll get in her back to herself in no time.

myname1234 · March 2012

I think you can skip the Mrs/Mr but I'd do one card per person.

chumlee7478 · March 2012

I have no idea if they still make Tab, I'd have to look. It's my favorite quote from "Adventures in Babysitting".

My best friend freaking rocks. She had a "get it together" moment with my mom, a la Moonstruck, that was pretty epic.

I'll definitely post some pics. FI is shady about me posting stuff cause of his job, so I probably won't post face pics. Maybe some off focus ones will be ok though. I'll definitely post detail shots though.

chumlee7478 · March 2012

Oh, and please, laugh away! If FI and I didn't laugh about this, we'd both be insane by now.

I just say to FI, "I'm not laughing AT you, I'm laughing WITH you!" However, that only seems to go over well when he's actually laughing...

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