I need some help with what to do about children at our wedding! We're getting married on Cape Cod which is where I grew up and most of my family lives there however my fiance's family is from ALL OVER the US and are making long trips to come to our wedding. Also, since we live in Connecticut most of our friends are traveling to the Cape for the wedding as well. SInce we are both in our 30's we are pretty much the last of our friends and family to get married and lots of our guests have children under 5 years old. Many of my friends from CT have asked about bringing their kids and I have told them all we aren't having kids at the wedding with the exception of our nieces and nephews who are in the wedding party. Now my fiance's friends from the midwest who are making a trip out of it are calling up and asking HIM if they can bring their kids. He is telling them that we prefer no kids, but that if they have to then they have to. I don't want kids at the wedding because it's a 5-11pm reception and I know kids need to go to bed and don't want our guests to leave early...I want them to come and enjoy the whole celebration with us. I know that sounds selfish but I don't know what to do about all these kids that are now possibly going to show up on his side when I told all my friends no they can't bring their kids! HELP! How do I handle this???