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Just a vent

1mobags1mobags
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What do you do when the girls don't get along? I only have two and the drama is unreal. I had texted the girls to let them know we got a discount on their dresses because the BM got her wedding dress at the same shop a week later. The BM replied with a picture of her dress when the MOH asked if it was the same dress she tried on while we were shopping for bridesmaids dresses.

MOH.... Didn't realize it was a group text and replied her dress was like mine..... Interesting. It was a snarky comment because she (incorrectly but very defensive of me) feels the bridemaid is either copying me (wedding colors) or trying to one up me (she got re engaged the day we went for my wedding dress).

BM immediately texted me asking if I felt that way, and I assured her I did not. However now there are bad feelings between the two of them. MOH will not listen to her ideas for the bridal shower and it gets awkward when I hear about it.

How can I be switzerland and keep the peace?
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Re: Just a vent

  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
    Eighth Anniversary 10000 Comments 500 Love Its 25 Answers
    Well they sound fun.  Just stay out of it, WAY out of it.  Like CMGr said, they are both adults.  They do not have to like each other, they do not have to be best of friends.  As long as they act cordial to each other on your wedding day then that is all that matters.

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  • 1mobags1mobags
    100 Comments First Anniversary
    I just want to tell them to keep me out of it. I don't want to hear about how one isn't listening to the other etc..... You would think two would be drama free.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Then that's exactly what you do: "Ladies, I'm not a referee.  As long as you two are civil to each other, I'm sure we can work things out with grace, maturity, and respect for each other.  Why don't you go ahead and give it a try?"
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  • madeline&mattmadeline&matt member
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    I would just ignore everything.

    On a separate note- what on earth does "re-engaged" mean?
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  • dtbluvdtbluv member
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    I'd just sit down with each of them seperately and tell them how much it means to you that they are standing up with you.  Let them each know how much you care about them, and tell them you feel like there was a horrible misunderstanding/inappropriate thing said to be snarky, but nobody set out to deliberately hurt the other person.  Tell them you know it's hard to get past these slights, but you'd really appreciate them getting along, and you love them both so much it makes you sad to see them fighting.

    Maybe that will help?
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  • 1mobags1mobags
    100 Comments First Anniversary
    All great ideas, thanks ladies!
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