This might get ranty so I'm sorry.
FI wants to invite three coworkers from his previous job to the wedding. I'm seriously thrilled he wants to do this because he's so shy, he almost didn't want to invite them because he was afraid they wouldn't want to come.
Anywho, one of these coworkers is engaged, and is actually getting married the week before us. When I went to address the invite, I asked what her FI's last name is. He didn't know. I asked him to ask her. He's mortified to do so. He insisted I just address the invite to her. I refuse to do so. That's rude. He doesn't get wedding etiquette and is very much of the mentality that she wouldn't care.
I do care. I think it makes me look like crap if I only address an invitation to our wedding to her. Then what, she's supposed to assume he's invited? No.
Now, this coworker sent us invites a couple of weeks ago. It was obvious that she either didn't know my name or didn't know how to spell it because she addressed the invite to him and to "Ms. Smith to be." I thought that was cute.
Unfortunately, I don't think they would appreciate it if I addressed their invite to Ms. Jane Doe and Mr. Jane Doe to be.
blerg.
What should I do? He seriously won't ask her FI's last name. He's embarrassed.
So sorry about the length. I really needed to vent about that/get some advice.