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I'm doing a June Vow Renewal

Julie2013Julie2013
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Hello, all. My name is Julie and my husband and I are doing a vow renewal for our 15th wedding anniversary. I realize vow renewals are a bit controversial, but I'd love to hang out here and enjoy ceremony planning and party planning with you all, if you don't mind.

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  • ashlidieashlidie member
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    How fun!  SOOooo to be completely nosey (because honestly Im not in on what's hip or cool or anything) do couples usually do vowel renewals because their original wedding was not quite what one would have hoped?  Again, I apologize for my ignorance!

    OR is it just because after 15 years, you're still in love and it's wonderful and you simply just want to celebrate and share it with everyone? :-)

    I have never attended a vowel renewal, so other than you already being married, Im not really sure of the differences
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    [QUOTE]Of course you can join us! I personally think vow renewals are very romantic. Big weddings are fun the first time around, but I envision having a small, private vow rernewal someday. I just really like the idea of them. Tell us more about yourself and your H! 
    Posted by cnf2013[/QUOTE]

    Thanks, cnf! I think vow renewals are incredibly romantic, too. :) Due to way too much family interference, we eloped. We wanted a big wedding, but when my future mother-in-law went to planning, she completely took over. She told us this was HER wedding and she'd been planning it since my husband was a baby. We tried to let things slide until she let me know she'd picked out my dress and who I needed to get in touch with to get it altered. I never did make that call and didn't see the dress until years later. We called off the wedding that day. It was about a month later that we were headed to church and decided we looked good enough to get married! LOL We were literally on our way to the church when we decided to elope. My best friend's husband was a preacher and he did it for us. We don't regret eloping, but it wasn't at all what we dreamed of. We resented feeling like we had to call of the wedding we wanted, although it was our decision to do so, not anybody else's.In the end, we were just as married and it'll be fun to celebrate 15 years together next year.

    I'm a 42 yo, stay-at-home mom to four kids, ages 8-18. I homeschool my 8 yo son, 11 yo daughter, and homeschooled my 18 yo, too, but he graduated and is doing the whole college thing in a few weeks. I also have a 13 yo, but she prefers public school. We live in a fantastic school district, so I'm perfectly fine with her public school choice. My husband is a 41 yo long-haul truck driver for a company that works big name concerts. He's only home 1 to 2.5 months in the winter, but the company is letting him take a couple of weeks off in June to celebrate our anniversary.

    I look forward to getting to know people here!

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  • MeghannsixMeghannsix member
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    Ash, it's vow, not vowel!  A vowel is like A, E, I, O or U.

    Welcome to the group Julie!
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    [QUOTE]How fun!  SOOooo to be completely nosey (because honestly Im not in on what's hip or cool or anything) do couples usually do vowel renewals because their original wedding was not quite what one would have hoped?  Again, I apologize for my ignorance! OR is it just because after 15 years, you're still in love and it's wonderful and you simply just want to celebrate and share it with everyone? :-) I have never attended a vowel renewal, so other than you already being married, Im not really sure of the differences
    Posted by ashlidie[/QUOTE]

    I don't really know why most people do them. I think the reasons vary a lot. In our case, the first 2/3 of our marriage came with a lot of drama and illness, not to mention 3 more kids on top of the one I brought to the marriage! It was tough, but we made it through. Now we want to celebrate the life we've built together despite some serious hurdles many couples wouldn't have made it through (although never infidelity, thank goodness!). And what better way to celebrate than to treat our family and friends who have been with us through thick and thin with a wonderful meal? 

    That explains the anniversary party, but the vow renewal has a whole different meaning for us. You all may not go through this, but we weren't prepared for the problems we had no idea were coming. We failed to be what the other needed in a spouse quite often. It's amazing we stayed together. We can't go back and do better, especially now that we are in a different part of our lives. We are no longer establishing careers, adding to our family, raising demanding babies, or figuring out where we stand as a couple. Now we want to promise each other forgiveness for the past and make vows that are relevant to the people we are now and our future together. A vow to do our best to be the spouse the other needs. I'm sure we still won't be perfect, but after being together this long, we have a much better grasp on who the other person is and how that person needs us. Funny, but we are more serious about the vow renewal than we were the wedding! Maybe it's because we now realize we THOUGHT we knew what we were getting ourselves into then, and now we KNOW. 

    Sorry if I over-explained that. I tend to ramble. LOL

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    [QUOTE]Ash, it's vow, not vowel!  A vowel is like A, E, I, O or U. Welcome to the group Julie!
    Posted by Meghannsix[/QUOTE]

    Thanks for the welcome, Meghannsix! :)

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  • cassienoel022cassienoel022
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    I think vow renewals are awesome!  Welcome to the group.  I don't see why they would be controversial personally. 
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    [QUOTE]I think vow renewals are awesome!  Welcome to the group.  I don't see why they would be controversial personally. 
    Posted by cassienoel022[/QUOTE]

    Thanks, cassienoel!. :)

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  • rooney2012rooney2012 member
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    Congrats on the time together and the vow renewal! You are most certainly welcome to join in here!!
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  • Julie2013Julie2013
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    Thanks, rooney, for the congrats and the warm welcome!  :)

    Julie
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  • bar10521bar10521 member
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    Congrats and welcome! I think vow renewals are so romantic I'd like to do one someday. I can't wait to hear more about yours. 
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm doing a June Vow Renewal : I don't really know why most people do them. I think the reasons vary a lot. In our case, the first 2/3 of our marriage came with a lot of drama and illness, not to mention 3 more kids on top of the one I brought to the marriage! It was tough, but we made it through. Now we want to celebrate the life we've built together despite some serious hurdles many couples wouldn't have made it through (although never infidelity, thank goodness!). And what better way to celebrate than to treat our family and friends who have been with us through thick and thin with a wonderful meal?  That explains the anniversary party, but the vow renewal has a whole different meaning for us. You all may not go through this, but we weren't prepared for the problems we had no idea were coming. We failed to be what the other needed in a spouse quite often. It's amazing we stayed together. We can't go back and do better, especially now that we are in a different part of our lives. We are no longer establishing careers, adding to our family, raising demanding babies, or figuring out where we stand as a couple. Now we want to promise each other forgiveness for the past and make vows that are relevant to the people we are now and our future together. A vow to do our best to be the spouse the other needs. I'm sure we still won't be perfect, but after being together this long, we have a much better grasp on who the other person is and how that person needs us. Funny, but we are more serious about the vow renewal than we were the wedding! Maybe it's because we now realize we THOUGHT we knew what we were getting ourselves into then, and now we KNOW.  Sorry if I over-explained that. I tend to ramble. LOL Julie  
    Posted by Julie2013[/QUOTE]

    Welcome to the group!! Also, all of this above is making me tear up a little bit. I think it's great that you guys are doing a vow renewal.
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  • ems27ems27 member
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    :-) Welcome to the group- and emilyb beat me to the punch, I was thinking the same thing reading your posts! 
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    [QUOTE]Congrats and welcome! I think vow renewals are so romantic I'd like to do one someday. I can't wait to hear more about yours. 
    Posted by bar10521[/QUOTE]

    Thanks, bar! I was just reading in Wedding Wednesday that your dress came in yesterday and your BM dress shopping was a huge success. Yay!!!! I imagine you are so excited. Hopefully your trip to the florists will go just as well. :)

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  • Berry327Berry327 member
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    Welcome!! I think your vow renewal sounds like a wonderful idea! Looking forward to getting to know you. :)
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm doing a June Vow Renewal : Welcome to the group!! Also, all of this above is making me tear up a little bit. I think it's great that you guys are doing a vow renewal.
    Posted by emilyb213[/QUOTE]

    Aww.. thanks, emilyb!! Our lives seem so much different when we tell it than when we are actually living it, don't you think? It was hard living it, but looking back I can clearly see the love there. :)

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    [QUOTE]:-) Welcome to the group- and emilyb beat me to the punch, I was thinking the same thing reading your posts! 
    Posted by ems27[/QUOTE]

    Thanks for the welcome and kind words, ems! :)

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    [QUOTE]Welcome!! I think your vow renewal sounds like a wonderful idea! Looking forward to getting to know you. :)
    Posted by Berry327[/QUOTE]

    Thanks, Berry! I look forward to getting to know you all here, too! I feel so much more comfortable knowing quite a few people on this board aren't feeling like I need to leave. I wish we had our own Vow Renewal board in the TK community so I could meet others who are doing this. There are a lot of us here on TK, but there's no specific place we can talk and exchange ideas. You guys might also be surprised (or not!) to find out there are people here planning renewals but are afraid to say so because of how mean some people can be about their choice to do that. I get PMs from ladies who'd like to share what they are doing and get ideas, but don't want to do it openly.

    Thanks again, everybody! I love reading about what you all are doing and will jump in with suggestions and ideas where I can! :)

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    [QUOTE]Ash, it's vow, not vowel!  A vowel is like A, E, I, O or U. Welcome to the group Julie!
    Posted by Meghannsix[/QUOTE]

    haha I'm so glad somebody else caught that. I saw it last night but didn't want to say anything. Made me giggle a bit.
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  • anastassiiatanastassiiat
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    Welcome to the group, Julie! Look forward to getting to know you better on this board!
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    Welcome and Congrats on the renewal! My parents will be married 30 years next year and they renewed their vows at 15 years. It was so cool to be able to witness my parents renewing their vows and their love for one another :)
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    [QUOTE]Ash, it's vow, not vowel!  A vowel is like A, E, I, O or U. Welcome to the group Julie!
    Posted by Meghannsix[/QUOTE]



    Hahahaha wow, I know that, must have been showing my fatigue. I swear I'm not normally an idiot lol

    OP, after reading your story, I am sooooo glad you finally get to have the big day you deserve! That's terrible what happened to you guys, seriously, she picked out your dress!? I'm kind of glad you stuck it to her but it's unfortunate it left you short changed. I hope so much that the VOW (lol) renewal is wonderful!
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    [QUOTE]Welcome to the group, Julie! Look forward to getting to know you better on this board!
    Posted by anastassiiat[/QUOTE]

    Thanks, anastassiiat! :)

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    [QUOTE]Welcome and Congrats on the renewal! My parents will be married 30 years next year and they renewed their vows at 15 years. It was so cool to be able to witness my parents renewing their vows and their love for one another :)
    Posted by kellyeliz[/QUOTE]

    Thanks, kellyeliz! Our kids are sooo excited about this, too! Well, except for the 18 yo who isn't much into dressing up or going to parties. But he'll do it for us. :)

    Julie

    P.S. I'm even thinking about getting the before mentioned 18 yo to escort me down the isle!
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm doing a June Vow Renewal : Hahahaha wow, I know that, must have been showing my fatigue. I swear I'm not normally an idiot lol OP, after reading your story, I am sooooo glad you finally get to have the big day you deserve! <strong>That's terrible what happened to you guys, seriously, she picked out your dress!?</strong> I'm kind of glad you stuck it to her but it's unfortunate it left you short changed. I hope so much that the VOW (lol) renewal is wonderful!
    Posted by ashlidie[/QUOTE]

    Thanks, ashlidie! Yes, she sure did pick out a dress for me! And her being so controlling was just a sign of things to come, but we made it through. And controlling relatives know not to mess with us, too! LOL

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm doing a June Vow Renewal : Thanks, Berry! I look forward to getting to know you all here, too! I feel so much more comfortable knowing quite a few people on this board aren't feeling like I need to leave. I wish we had our own Vow Renewal board in the TK community so I could meet others who are doing this. There are a lot of us here on TK, but there's no specific place we can talk and exchange ideas. You guys might also be surprised (or not!) to find out there are people here planning renewals but are afraid to say so because of how mean some people can be about their choice to do that. I get PMs from ladies who'd like to share what they are doing and get ideas, but don't want to do it openly. Thanks again, everybody! I love reading about what you all are doing and will jump in with suggestions and ideas where I can! :) Julie
    Posted by Julie2013[/QUOTE]

    <div>You should pose this idea to the TK Gods. Send Knot Lilli a PM, they may make a board under special topics.</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm doing a June Vow Renewal : You should pose this idea to the TK Gods. Send Knot Lilli a PM, they may make a board under special topics.
    Posted by cnf2013[/QUOTE]

    I have actually done that, cnf! I've sent emails to a few people on TK and the moderator for the March 2013 board (which I came from after we had to change our renewal date) has brought it up on the moderators' forum. I've also tried to encourage others doing renewals to send emails. It would be so wonderful if some of this went somewhere.

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