Wedding canceled update

ewhiteman06 · May 2011

After packing up and leaving Wednesday night I officially canceled our wedding Thursday, called all the vendors let my family know etc. My grandma has been ill in the hospital and crashed Friday and we didn't know if she was going to make it. Troy knowing how close I am with my grandma came and met me there, cried with my family with me and was really supportive. Once we knew she was going to make it and just needed some rest, he and I talked.

He was upset with me for canceling the wedding but I feel relieved. It has been such an incredible source of stress for us for mostly financial reasons. We realized that by taking the wedding out of the equation we are able to better work on our relationship. We are remaining "engaged" with no set wedding date for now.

Here comes the interesting part. We will not get married until he graduates, which would be next summer, so a wedding next summer would be a possibility if not the next summer. Part of me feels like since I've planned 90% of the wedding (our wedding date was 8/20/11) I should just hold onto the stuff and basically have the same wedding next year. The other part of me wants to just get it out of the house and have my life back and then plan another wedding.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on what I should do with all the "stuff".

Edit: I am sad about the wedding. I have planned pretty much all of it and I'm sad realizing I won't be getting married and having a wedding in 3 months. That being said, I know we are doing the right thing and his family and my family are all very supportive of us putting on the brakes to re-analyze.

ZombieNates · May 2011

I think waiting is the right decision. The fact that you said you are relieved about the wedding and happy to be speaking with him/working with him makes me think that you guys want to be together, but just aren't ready for the whole wedding thing yet. Postponing could be a relationship-saver for you guys.

Plus a year is a long time and gives you some breathing room (not that you'll go out and date other people, but just time to enjoy each other without the stress of school AND wedding).

Keep us in the loop--we're here for you!

Milsey32 · May 2011

I would keep it but you can "hide it" if you don't want to look at it for the next year or whatever. It's a bummer that you cancelled it but some vendors may let you use the deposit you already put down on your new date change, so that'll save you money in the long run (as well as keeping wedding stuff in your house) aaaaaand don't let planning stress you out. I'm glad you two could talk things out, though! [:

crash2729 · May 2011

If your vendors allow you a date change it's probably not too late to call back and ask to just change the date vs. cancel it.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · May 2011

Keep the stuff. You might not end up having the "same" wedding but it can give you ideas or you might end up using some of it and not all of it.

I'm glad you guys are sticking things out and will still be getting married. It sounds like you made a good decision!

EmilyW416 · May 2011

Im glad you two worked things out. I understand the financial stress, it totally blows

both the FI and I are broke, me paying for school, his work being slow. So I understand the $$ stress it sucks

LeslieMPC · May 2011

I think you should keep it. If you dont want it at your house see if you can store it at your Moms or somewhere else. When you start planning again, pull it all out and then decide if you want to use it or not. At least that way you still have the choice kwim?

Glad yall are working things out. Good luck!

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