Ring Bearer-Real or Fake Rings?

em01092 · March 2012

What are you ladies doing about your ring bearer? I originally wanted ours to carry fake rings, but I'm afraid his mother (my aunt) might get offended...

rlavach · March 2012

I'm not having a RB or FG, but if I did, it would definitely be fake. I really could care less if the mother was offended. It's a kid. I have a hard time trusting an adult with our rings, definitely not a child.

em01092 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm not having a RB or FG, but if I did, it would definitely be fake. I really could care less if the mother was offended. It's a kid. I have a hard time trusting an adult with our rings, definitely not a child.
Posted by rlavach[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah, I think she would understand. I have just heard of the parents getting butthurt because they think you're saying something about their kid and thus their parenting by not trusting them with the real things. I guess I wonder if I should even have him carry a pillow then? Maybe just escort the FG? I'm afraid she will say what's the point of him carrying fakes? Plus, the aisle is short, it's not like he's going to run away, and I could secure the rings by tying them to the pillow. </div>

StephHelie · March 2012

Our officiant won't allow the ring bearer to carry the real rings just in case so that makes things easy! He is still carrying a pillow though along with escorting the flower girl.

chickenbut143 · March 2012

Ours will be carrying fake rings. With a beach wedding and quite a walk from the boardwalk to the aisle (lots of sand)...yeah no. We have 2 ring bearers who are both five years, both mothers suggested fake rings.

mmy101 · March 2012

We are tying fake rings to the pillow, we have an awesome RB, BUT that is a good hunk of change to trust to a 5yr old! The mother should understand, I also like the idea of escorting the flower girl as another option.

kmac821 · March 2012

We aren't using a ring bearer, however I would use fake rings. Also I like StephHelie 's comment about her officiant not allowing that-- I'd use that as my excuse if I were you!

Chrismben0716 · March 2012

We are going with fake. Like rlavach it is hard enough trusting our rings to adults. I just don't think I could even a very responsible child with them.

inhisname2010 · March 2012

FAKE!!! Can you just imagine if he tripped...

bridalgal50 · March 2012

I think the only wedding I've been to that had the real rings on the pillows was mine 30 years ago- and that was only because he was 10! LOL

DD is not having a RB, but if she was, there is no way that I would let a kid be trusted with their expensive rings!!

[Deleted User] · March 2012

I am the one real vote. My RB is my niece who is nearly 7 and the rings will be tied in securely. I also know that she won't lose them. I am fully aware that this is NOT the common practice but it is what it is. FWIW, when my best friend got married last year, the look on the best man's and my face when we simultaneously realized that we didn't have the rings was pretty priceless. We let the officiant know discretely during a reading, and the groomsmen played Telephone so that when the last guy, luckily, went to perform a song during the ceremony, he was able to let the DOC know and by the end of his song, she passed them to him to pass back up the line. The B&G didn't have any idea until we told them afterwards.

em01092 · March 2012

Thanks ladies. After talking with my FI, I think we're going to go with letting him carry the real rings. They will be securely tied onto the pillow (MOH and BM can untie them when he gets up to the front), so we won't have to worry about him tripping, dropping them, etc. And we will make sure he doesn't get the pillow until very shortly before the ceremony.

robinsauro · March 2012

Ours will be carrying the real rings, but only because he's 7 (a little old than most RB's) and is the type of child that will take the job VERY seriously. However, we will not be giving him the rings until RIGHT before he walks down the aisle and they will be securely tied to the pillow. :-)

cfdittrich · March 2012

Oh gosh ladies! I DID NOT even think about this! So if the RB has fake rings, does the BestMan put the real rings in his pocket? Is that how this works? WOW, I don't know a ton of things apparently!

futuremrsdavies · March 2012

I'm the only other vote. My rinbearer is my 18 month old nephew....I'm not even having him carry a pillow. I have two flower girls and they will each hold one of his hands and walk with him down the aisle. No pillow, or rings needed.

chickenbut143 · March 2012

I was the MOH in my best friend's wedding (now she's mine) and I had her hubbys ring on my thumb the whole ceremony. I think it was given to me RIGHT before the wedding too (dang, i'm like a kid...) lol

blgrout · March 2012

I voted other--we're having our ring bearer carry a "here comes the bride" sign (I guess he's not technically a ring bearer, more like a sign bearer, but for simplicity's sake we're calling him the ring bearer), so no rings for him, real or fake. BM will have the rings. If we did have an actual ring pillow, I'd still probably go fake because I'm a control freak and I just don't think I could have him carry the real deals and not freak out about it.

faerylvr27 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]I was the MOH in my best friend's wedding (now she's mine) and I had her hubbys ring on my thumb the whole ceremony. I think it was given to me RIGHT before the wedding too (<strong>dang, i'm like a kid..</strong>.) lol :)
Posted by chickenbut143[/QUOTE]

LMAO!!

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