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Premarital Counseling

BabyBlueNTexasBabyBlueNTexas member
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We are going to our Premarital Counseling with our church this weekend, because we have to in order to use one of their Pastors. I am nervous, and excited all at the same time, because I have never been to anything like it. Has anyone else already gone through something similar? What were your thoughts about it?
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Re: Premarital Counseling

  • richelleleigh11richelleleigh11 member
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    edited December 2011
    FI and I took a 7 week class at church. It allowed us to get the marriage license for $11 instead of $71, plus we were both interested in taking it. If you are doing a single session, I'm not sure if it will be similar to what we did but we enjoyed it.
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  • BabyBlueNTexasBabyBlueNTexas member
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    edited December 2011
    It is 8 hours total.. over the weekend. So 4 hours one day and 4 hours the next.. what did you learn from it? What did you not like?
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  • MnMShawMnMShaw member
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    edited December 2011
    DH and I did an 8 hour course before we got married.  I liked it.  Some things were repetitive because we had a good relationship and had already discussed a lot of important things prior to getting engaged.  Basically, we just discussed "tough" questions from who has what chores, what we expect of a spouse, what are our thoughts on having kids and raising kids, who will control the finances, etc.  Since you are doing it with a pastor, I assume that the pastor will go through all of these things and relate them to the bible, like ours did.  I actually enjoyed it.  The things that we had already discussed just reiterated in my mind the reasons why I loved DH and we were getting married.  The things we hadn't really discussed just made me feel more prepared and more confident in choosing DH as my husband.  We too got our marriage license for only like $11 or something instead of the $71 for doing pre marital counseling.
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  • akg0053akg0053 member
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    edited December 2011
    FI and I went to pre-cana classes through our church as well. The classes were largely quite boring, but that's mainly because we have been living together/been dating for almost 5 years now, and have learned how to solve our problems and fight fair lol. 

    But as far as everything else, there is nothing to be nervous about! 

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  • BabyBlueNTexasBabyBlueNTexas member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks guys! This helps me out a lot. It is more excited than nervous, but we have a unique situation because we live in 2 different cities, and average seeing each other about 2 times a month. So.. if we have to be somewhere, why not make it about us? LOL I am looking forward to it. Thanks for answering!
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  • richelleleigh11richelleleigh11 member
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    edited December 2011
    It sounds like it is all along the same lines - mine went over the same thing as MnM's we just had it for an hour each week instead of one long weekend. FI and I had already talked about everything they went over at some point in our relationship but it just put some things in another light. Plus ours was a large class with 8 or 9 other couples so it was interesting to hear other peoples perspectives on things.
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  • laleighmoorelaleighmoore member
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    edited December 2011
    We are going to do this to save on the marriage license cost but it isn't with a church since our schedules are so difficult. I was sent an email this week from the regional contact for TwogetherinTexas and I think we are going to drive down to San Marcos for a class Dec 12th... all the Austin one's were on Saturdays when he works and the church groups took place during the week while he is still at work.
    It will be one day 8 hours....
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  • BelennBelenn
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    edited December 2011
    My fiance and I did Pre-Cana classes with our church, and we LOVED it!!  Yes it will entitle us to get our marriage license for $11 instead of $71, but we actually learned a lot about eachother...I think every couple that is getting married should have to do this...Its very beneficial, and you have nothing to lose.  They're not going to tell you not to get married, they just want to make sure that you're both on the same page with finances, communication skills, and the other tit bits... Have fun with it, and don't be nervous...It will all work out!
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  • twinksicletwinksicle
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    edited December 2011
    Yes, we went through that. We chose the sponsor couple option through our local Catholic church. We met at the couple's home about 5 times and went through a book. It was good! We talked about alot of things but one thing that stood out to me was when we discussed heading into the marriage with different expectations. And we talked about our home environment growing up, and how that affects our expectations of what we consider "normal" for family dynamics.
    I liked it alot, too, because it really put me into the proper mindset going into marriage. Made me focus on how to be a more selfless person as well.
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