Ok. I am not Catholic or any specific religion for that matter. (I am very faithful and have a strong spiritual connection with God. let’s just say I have had my experiences) That is going off topic. My issue is I do not understand general things about the catholic religion. I have learned a little here and there from church each week, but other than that I am pretty lost. Not to mention catholic priests ALWAYS make me feel uncomfortable. I feel belittled because I am not catholic even if that is not their intention. My question is what should I expect from the ceremony? We would like the absolute minimum. So if readings are not necessary I would prefer not putting his brother through the anxiety. We will only have the ceremony and not the actual service...but what is each called? I know the priest asked my Fi on the phone if we wanted a something or a something else ceremony. Which is the right answer? My Fi went to a catholic school and was raised catholic but he does not practice it as much as he should I guess. Well anyway he does not know the answer and he just picks one and tells the priest so he doesn't look like he is not knowledgeable of the catholic terms. I would just rather not deal with the entire catholic wedding, but it is important to my Fi and his family so I absolutely do not mind giving them what they want. Oh and one last question, we live together and I do understand that it is a big NO NO in the catholic religion. HOWEVER, my morals do not allow me to lie to the priest or be deceitful just in order to get married. My Fi on the other hand wants to use his mothers address for himself and tell the priest we do not live together. Will the church not marry us if we live together? I won't bring it up to the priest but if he asks me I am sorry I am not lying. I would feel more sinful lying to the church to get married than I would for admitting we live and sleep together already. if any of this offends anyone that is not my intention at all. I really just want to know what to expect. How long is a typical catholic wedding without the service? AND what is the minimum we are going to be required to do?