The one thing I asked my groom to completely take care of without assistance from me, are his groomsmen gifts (he only has three, so it shouldn't be a huge deal). We are two weeks out to the day of our wedding day, so I asked him last night, what he's planning on doing for these gifts... For his best man he's planning on getting a nice bottle of wine (fair enough, but I thought these gifts were supposed to last), for his Jr. Groomsman (he's 13) he was going to get a videogame (not thrilled with this, as this is the kind of thing we get him for his birthday... but again, leaving it up to him...), but for his last groomsman he wasn't planning on getting him anything.
Now, we have had a bit of a falling-out with this groomsman and his family as of late... they have been quite offensive during this wedding and have made a LOT of demands of our wedding, and have not been helpful at all with anything we have requested (even something as small as when he needs to pick his tux up... we are having to do this for him, so hopefully it fits). I have written about some of the problems we have had with this groomsman in other posts, so I won't go into that in too much depth here.
My question is, how do I handle this with my fiance? He said, "Show me ONE thing that he has done for this wedding, and I'll get him a present." Admittedly, the only thing I could think of is "he's coming," but to me that's not a good enough reason not to the customary thing. Everyone else will be getting gifts - my bridesmaids (which includes his wife) will be getting quite nice jewelry and clutches, flower girls getting personalized handkerchiefs and dolls that are modeled to look like them (wearing a dress that looks like their flower girl dress), parents also getting nice gifts... He will literally be the only person not getting a present if my fiance gets his way.
Now, I understand why my fiance feels the way he does - I have been furious at this groomsman for quite awhile - but to me that doesn't mean we need to stoop to the level of 'sending a message' that would probably come across as downright mean/vindictive. So, what should I do? I'm considering just going and getting some nice, engraved thing (for all groomsmen), and just telling my fiance "here are your gifts for them," but I don't know if that's the right thing to do...
I need some advice :-/