Anyone doing online RSVPs?

toomanychoices17 · April 2012

We're having a fairly formal wedding but wanted to avoid dealing with the pain of response cards and thought our money could be better spent. So, we're having people RSVP on our wedding website. Most of our guests are pretty tech-savy, our grandparents told us at Christmas that they thought they could figure it out. It was going to cost us almost $2 a person for the response cards and stamps, so that would've been about $220... we're going to put the money towards better welcome bags/baskets.

Terrible idea? It's too late to change it now, but I'm still unsure how all of our guests will feel about this.

Anyone else doing this? If not, but you thought about it, why did you decide to do response cards?

LADY324 · April 2012

I am not a fan of the online rsvp's and personally for a formal event I would have done the paper response cards.

Carla1019 · April 2012

Depends on the guests. 90% of our guests are computer savy and they loved the idea of responding online. The few older guests will just call our parents if they have a problem.
I know a few brides that consider online as going green.

We are doing online and google voice mail.

toomanychoices17 · April 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_anyone-doing-online-rsvps?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:ae9760b2-55dc-44e6-bde3-740d06211f89Post:906bdcb8-a56e-4b52-8cdf-820ec9722392">Re: Anyone doing online RSVPs?</a>:
[QUOTE]Depends on the guests. 90% of our guests are computer savy and they loved the idea of responding online. The few older guests will just call our parents if they have a problem. <strong>I know a few brides that consider online as going green. We</strong> are doing online and google voice mail.
Posted by Carla1019[/QUOTE]

That was part of the decision too, I don't like the idea of wasting all that paper.

bells24412 · April 2012

In Response to Re: Anyone doing online RSVPs?:
[QUOTE]I am not a fan of the online rsvp's and personally for a formal event I would have done the paper response cards.
Posted by LADY324[/QUOTE]

ditto.

penny12986 · April 2012

Some of our guests don't have computers so we were definitely going the paper route. Plus, I worry that websties can have glitches and then guest counts could get deleted.

ajmom2two · April 2012

We are doing RSVP postcards. I am too worried about issues with an online setup or guest difficulties to do it that way. We are doing 100% recycled paper and no envelopes to be more environmentally friendly.

mekiakoo · April 2012

It would not have worked for us- a lot of our guests aren't tech savvy!!

But I can see how it could be easier.

littlemoments324 · April 2012

We're not...I do agree that the online thing is going 'green' but not everyone has a computer or internet access...and I'm sure people know people who can respond for them online...but I think especially for the formal even, I would have chosen paper RSVP's with the option of online RSVP....A lot of our guests aren't tech savvy either!

YuMMMy721 · April 2012

I'm not a fan of the online RSVP. A lot of guests aren't tech savy. Also it seems very tacky to me. To me a wedding is a very traditional and formal thing, and the internet for RSVP's seems cheap and lazy.

But every bride is different and only you can make that decision for your guests.

butterflyjumper1 · April 2012

I am personally not a fan of online RSVPs. Yes, it is "green" - but it is confusing for guests, and it makes the event seem extremely casual. I had a friend who did online RSVPs and it was really confusing to get onto their website and enter an RSVP code and etc. etc. - even as a "green" guest who normally promotes recycling and waste awareness, I didn't like the online RSVP system at all.

AllyG303 · April 2012

We're doing postcard RSVPs, but I just RSVPed for an online RSVP wedding...it wasn't bad, except it was weird because they didn't list plus ones on there because I guess not all of theri guests got plus ones. If you did have a plus one, they asked you to email them their meal selection choices...it was just a little weird.

TChiumi · April 2012

I'm not fan of the online RSVPs I think a wedding is too formal of an event for people to RSVP online so we went with response cards. I do agree that is a great method for going "green" but I'm to much of a traditionalist to go that way on this matter. My own parents aren't very tech savvy so I can only imagine the problems our other guest may have experienced-lol.

We did use online RSVPs for my bachlorett party and that worked out nicely. I think you have do what you want and what will work best for your situation.

lvissers · April 2012

We are giving guests the option to RSVP via the self enclosed response card with stamped envelope or they can go on our website and rsvp and chose their meal. I think for a wedding being a formal event paper responses are favored. My guests can chose which option is easiest for them. I know it sucks that we may be wasting paper and stamps, but I figure as long as our guests rsvp is all that matters.

kidlets2 · April 2012

We are having a very casual wedding so we gave the option of calling us (listed both of our cell phone #'s) or emailing us at an email addy we created just for that. I'm hoping most will email. We're only inviting 58 people.

KimC1983 · April 2012

I'm in the minority here, but we were *THIS* close to ditching paper anything for green reasons and the expenses. We ended up doing paper invitations, but our RSVP is through our website. Everyone on the list is tech savvy-I actually communicate to my grandma and my future GMILs via email and they loved the idea.

Also, the last few weddings I've been invited to they used paper cards for RSVPs then all of them asked to sign in to a website and RSVP all over again.

It works for us and do whatever floats your boat.

Our wedding is casual with a Southern BBQ feel, so I don't think it's too far fetched or out of place for RSVPs.

toomanychoices17 · April 2012

Thanks everyone for your feedback! I'm surprised that there aren't more of us going paperless, but I'm happy I'm not the only one. To repond to what PPs said, I absolutely agree that it depends on the guests and their access to the internet- luckily for us that's an issue with probably only 3 guests.

I like the suggestion of publicizing our phone numbers, that's a great idea for those 3 aunts whose computer usage I'm not sure about. I'm going to play around with the website some more so hopefully it won't run into any of the glitches some of you mentioned. It's a template from google and seems pretty user friendly- guests enter their names themselvess (so no issues with the plus-ones) and there aren't any codes or anything like that.

Oh and thank (almost) all of you for recognizing that there are different ways to do things but offering advice without being judgmental. I am surprised myself that our elderly relatives were all for it, so I get why many of you have to/want to do the paper response cards.

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