maid of honor dilemma

Pookieson · February 2013

So I have a bridesmaid and one of my maids of honor (I have three....yeah I know....I'm a weirdo) who have yet to be fitted for their dresses. The store told me they have to be fitted by next saturday (so a week) in order for their dresses to be guaranteed to arrive in time to be altered, etc.

Backstory-
I've been engaged for 3 years. I asked all of them to be my bridesmaids, MOH about a year and a half ago, I told them I'd keep the dresses around $150 and asked if that was okay with everyone, they said yeah, awesome, we have time to save if needed, yadda yadda.

The bridesmaid has flaked three times about ordering because she is low on rent money

The MOH wouldn't text me for two months, then I finally got a-hold of her, she confessed to having money worries and couldn't afford the dress, I said, "hey I'll by the dress, we've been friends for 14 years, it's important you are by my side." She just said, "well I can do saturday I think."

Now....bridesmaid said she is going Monday, she's swamped with work...okay. Works for me.

Maid of honor: "oh I totally forgot about it. Can we do it during the week."

I just responded that I was swamped, which isn't a lie, I really can't do it. If she makes it down there before sat, have them save the size and I'll call and pay for it and order it. She didn't even text me back after that.

I don't want to kick her out or anything dramatic like that, but am I justified to be a little upset about all of this??? I'm just looking for validation that I am not being an over-emotional, "wah I want my pretty princess day and why aren't people doing what I want" bride. *sigh*

That's all. Going to drink wine and vent to my other maid of honor, who is awesome. (at least I've got a few good maids

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Pookieson · February 2013

sorry, when I say "I told them I'd keep the dresses around 150" it is because the lowest budget someone gave me was $150, so to keep all of them on track I let all of them know the dresses would be no more than that. Then they looked around, showed me ideas, and we narrowed it down to the one they all liked.

In regards to ahold...it shows up in my dictionary. It isn't a-hold (the knot spell check did that and I didn't feel like scrolling back up to change it) the correct spelling is ahold.

MairePoppy · February 2013

Shannon, it looks like you've done everything correctly. You were considerate of everyone's budget. You got the 'order by' date from the salon. You even offered to pay for the girls who were having unexpected money problems. There is nothing more for you to do. Make sure everyone has the info and leave it up to them to follow through. If they don't, they will be taking themselves out of the wedding party.

Peledreamsofrain · February 2013

ok, so I'm going to be shamelessly useless on the original topic.

I researched 'ahold' because I'm a nerd and curious. Apparently it's kind of a grey area, and considered an informal word by most dictionaries. Maybe the Pluto of grammar? :P

Pookieson · February 2013

yeah. ugh. It's just upsetting. All I want is for her to get a dress, is that too much to ask???? sheesh!

slgirl21 · February 2013

Ok..i'm confused with all the post, are we all in english class or responding to " a post"

, anyways, You have done all that you can do, you all picked out the dresses and they had plenty of time to save money for the dress itself and 150 is a reasonable price to pay for. I do understand that money issues do come up, and things do happen, though you did offer to pay for one of the girls like other post have mentioned if they don't purchase the dress in time, then then have choosen to be "out" of the wedding, is it all of the girls or just two of them? How many girls do you have in total? I've seen post where its ok to have uneven sides, which is what might have to happen, unfortunately. GL and try not to let it get you down, even though I know it might be hard to do, since you consider these women to be close friends and it is hurtful.

Pookieson · February 2013

I have 5, and it is just the two. One of them is going to get sized tomorrow (we'll see) she's at least answering me, but she is getting married one month before me, so I understand her being busy The other one just never answers and blows me off constantly. It's hurtful more than anything.

Peledreamsofrain · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_maid-of-honor-dilemma-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:7d29cf46-ccea-40fd-b1b8-8d3c1a05dfb3Post:894ec04e-1451-4298-8c5b-79023e37d5e5">Re: maid of honor dilemma</a>:
[QUOTE]Ok..i'm confused with all the post, are we all in english class or responding to " a post" , anyways, You have done all that you can do, you all picked out the dresses and they had plenty of time to save money for the dress itself and 150 is a reasonable price to pay for. I do understand that money issues do come up, and things do happen, though you did offer to pay for one of the girls like other post have mentioned if they don't purchase the dress in time, then then have choosen to be "out" of the wedding, is it all of the girls or just two of them? How many girls do you have in total? I've seen post where its ok to have uneven sides, which is what might have to happen, unfortunately. GL and try not to let it get you down, even though I know it might be hard to do, since you consider these women to be close friends and it is hurtful.
Posted by slgirl21[/QUOTE]

It's actually an open forum where people can post whatever they feel at the time as long as it's not abusive. If I feel that a question has been fully answered, but another element of the thread catches my attention, I will post on that. As is my right to. And yours as well, which I will never question, or look down upon.

Pookieson · February 2013

so "ahold" is slang? I would never use it in a formal paper, so I suppose so. Either way, I don't proofread these posts as well as I should. I just scan them and hit submit. I hope on here when I can and I'm so busy (and in school) so I hate proofing when it isn't homework hahaha! Yeah, I'm lazy like that.

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