MoH venting

Alisha9544 · July 2012

So I'm not really sure what to do here. My MoH keeps venting to me that the bridesmaids aren't helping her with anything & says she's been FBing them. I suggested giving them a phone call. My MoH said she was planning my Bacholorette party & Bridal Shower. Doesn't she just need to tell them when things are? I'm kinda nervous with how close it's all getting & she's not set dates for anything. But I don't know what she wants me to do. She keeps sending emails about "your freaking sisters & Ashley are going help". I don't want to be a bossy rude bride & tell my bridesmaids they must throw me parties cause it's not like that. Do I want to have them, well duh! But do I want to force people to be involved in them or plan them? No way. I'm not really sure what to tell her besides pick up the phone instead of FBing them.

Ashleigh828 · July 2012

I went through something similar... my MoH was venting to me about all of the things the BM's weren't doing. I finally told her to stop telling me about it because it was making me mad at the BM's. I would tell your MoH to either pick up the phone and talk directly to them, or let it go. Tell her that it's really upsetting you and since you're not supposed to be involved in planning these things, you don't want to know about the drama being caused by them.

Hope this helps... no need to add more stress to you!

Ashleigh828 · July 2012

Btw, we have the same wedding date!! Yay! So excited... hope you are too!!

mrshall1027 · July 2012

I'm kind of going through the same thing, except my MOH isn't bitching. My other bridesmaids just haven't been responsive.

You have to tell your MOH that she needs to make the decision on how she wants to move forward with it. Maybe she's waiting to hear back from them because she needs to know if anyone will be able to contribute financially. It may be too much for her to do all on her own which is causing her to not fully commit by setting a date.

All you can do is call the other BM's and ask them to get in touch with your MOH and then leave it alone.

Alisha9544 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_moh-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:2205f4d3-0d9e-4d07-b8ad-a3c1d9125b78Post:4019ed18-8fe6-4679-893d-2d3073473ec5">Re: MoH venting</a>:
[QUOTE]Btw, we have the same wedding date!! Yay! So excited... hope you are too!!
Posted by Ashleigh828[/QUOTE]
LOL This just made me do the geeky-ist smile & clap ever!! I looked at our tickers & noticed we're down to less then 2 & 1/2 months!!!!! YAY!!! I've very excited!

Alisha9544 · July 2012

Thanks ladies! I'll probably start with asking the Bridesmaids if they'd gotten a chance to talk to MoH recently.

shoebie · July 2012

Your bridesmaids should be helping her with all the planning and finances of pre wedding parties. I would just let them know she is trying to reach them feel them out and if no one wants to be involved decline to have the parties.

Ps: Yay for date twins

Alisha9544 · July 2012

Yay!! triplets now!

fishinflagrl · July 2012

Sorry, not a quadruplet here...but I agree with Shoebie. I have the same issue. My MOH and my other BM are wondering, but my sister (other BM) is horrible. She hasnt even thanked me for paying for her dress, nor has she even asked what it even looks like or if it is in yet. She could care less. My MOH contacted her via email, text, and VM and she hasnt answered. All she was asking was if these certain dates worked for her for my Bridal Shower and B-Party. She told me after two weeks of her trying to get a hold of her and no success, and I said the dates work for me, my MOH, one BM, and mom so go ahead and move forward with planning. I am over it. I did tell my sister she needs to talk to her, and it still didnt work. Anywho, good luck.

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