Sorry that I haven't been posting too much, but I think this deserves a vent!
I plan on having an open bar or a limited open bar (beer, wine and margaritas.) We haven't picked which one yet due to budget, but either way we've decided we want to cover the bar. It's not because I have some etiquette stick up my bum, I just didn't want a cash bar. I've been to cash bar weddings, and I didn't talk trash about the couple (unless water, tea, soda etc wasn't provided, that sucked.) But I'm not doing it to be hoighty toity, I just wanted to treat my friends and family to the best of my ability and thankfully, that amount was enough to cover the bar. Good enough, right?
WELL.
I've already had some friction from FI's side of the family because of the limited guest list. In his social circle, weddings are usually open affairs and people will drop in during the dancing portion. Invitations are usually "come one come all." I spoke to his mother about this and explained that it's a sit down dinner with an open bar, we have a really limited list to accomodate that. FI's cousin has already said that "he doesn't go anywhere alone." No, I didn't give him a plus one (yet) because he's single, I didn't see the need to. My MIL's sister is confused as to why we don't have a cash bar so we don't have to worry about extra people coming. They've asked me why we don't just do open for 2 hours if we just have to have it and then cash bar the rest of the night. While this isn't something unheard of, it's just not what I wanted to do. We've cut some of our own friends (not close ones) from the guest list in order to have the type of wedding that we really wanted.
I just get really irritated when they start complaining that they can't invite people (really, why would my FMIL's sister be able to invite people anyway?!) because of an open bar? Wouldn't you think they would be happy to not have to worry about paying a crazy amount of $$ for banquet hall drinks? I'm just flabbergasted that I'm getting gossiped about and questioned for this. Of all the things to cause drama, I *really* didn't think me choosing to cover the bar would be an issue. I knew that us choosing a smaller wedding wouldn't sit well, but I didn't think that it would ruffle that many feathers or that anyone would be rude enough to complain to us about it!
GAHHH!