Will I regret not having a 1st dance?

jcamm11 · October 2010

My father has made it very clear he refuses to do a father/daughter dance. It hurts because I am a very sentimental person. My FI doesn't like to dance and would prefer not to have a 1st dance with me unless I really push it. Do you think I should push the 1st dance with FI, or let it go? We basically won't have any planned dances at all if we skip this.

bellebride116 · October 2010

I would push for it, but that's just me. I LOVED all the "dances" and wouldn't think of not doing them.

[Deleted User] · October 2010

Ditto bellebride.

Is there a reason why your Dad doesn't want a first dance with you? Maybe as time passes and you start doing your DJ song list, etc you FI will change his mind. I definitely wouldn't push it right now. I, too, enjoyed all of our special dances and would have never thought about not having them.

KaylaSue19 · October 2010

Yeah, I would try to bring him around closer to the wedding. I agree with Belle and Missy, I couldn't imagine not having them.

gypsybride2010 · October 2010

My husband wasn't so keen on the whole idea of a first dance either but we came to a compromise. We had a slideshow playing while we were dancing so people had something else to stare at besides us and about 30-45 seconds into the song, the MC invited other couples to join us on the dance floor so we weren't the centre of attention for the whole time. It worked well for us. Good Luck!

kimp67 · October 2010

I would try to bring him around too. Our first dance is one of the things I'm most looking forward to.

Crissyo · October 2010

I would bring him around also...
Ditto what some PP people said...you don't have to dance by yourself the whole song. We only did like a minute then the MC invited others in!

Jenni83 · October 2010

I think you should def have a 1st dance song it is just one of those "special moments" between the two of you,i agree with pp's you can dance along for a few then have others join,we danced half the song just the 2 of us then the mc invited our bridal party to join us.

golden1215 · October 2010

I didnt have a Father/daughter dance and only ended up having one w/ H at the pub after party to an Irish rock ballad so.... I say take em or leave em. :-)

I'd be more concerend w/ the men in your life not wanting to mke you happy on "your day"... do they have social anxiety or something?

megandjay · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-recap-withdrawal_will-regret-not-having-1st-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:12Discussion:daf14e83-1265-41a6-9473-635899af1410Post:347dd4ae-f637-48cf-bcfd-b2cce397bcaa">Re: Will I regret not having a 1st dance?</a>:
[QUOTE]What about compromising with your FI. Have a song where you guys dance alone for the first verse and chorus, and then have the DJ open the dance floor for everyone to join you for the rest of the song. That way, you still get your first dance, but he doesn't have to endure more than 2 minutes of it.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

Ditto.

I love the pictures, video and memory of the first dance. Just compromise and make it short for FI.

kpwedkk · October 2010

We didn't have a father/daughter dance, and it wasn't missed!

kaesha · October 2010

We also danced for about a minute by ourselves and then pulled everyone up onto the dancefloor. And, my Dad and I weren't into the whole father-daughter dance either.

SpookieCat · October 2010

I love our pictures from our first dance, and while we certainly did not practice and were not really good dancers up there, it was really nice.

I let DH choose the song that we danced to so that he would be more comfortable with it (I drew up a list of 11 or so songs that I would be ok with). He picked one that I thought was a little ambitious but it was fine in the end since he loves it and sang along with it. Kind of shut everyone else out that way.

schwoebr · November 2010

Like pp I let FI chose the song so that he would be more comfortable. I actually think at this point he's more excited about it than I am! We are NOT doing any parent dances though. I really don't think they'll be missed. Sitting through three dances is kind of boring as a guest, not gonna lie.

merivale87 · November 2010

My first dance was less important than I thought it was going to be. It didn't feel that special, but I think it was because my DJ started playing it and we were on opposite sides of the room with no warning. We had to find each other in the crowd, and then it felt ackward because everybody was like "oh..are they doing that now?"

I think it would be special for you though. I really think you might regret not doing it.

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