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Not really a proposal

Lisag72Lisag72 member
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So my fiance and I are finally engaged after 3 years.  We had talked about getting married a couple of times this past year ( always brought up by me), and then one afternoon he said we could go look at rings. I picked a ring that I loved and he bought it. *Poof* engaged.. No proposal ..Now I kind of feel like like I missed the best part of getting engaged, and he laughs it up when I mention it.. Any advice ?
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  • SlothGoalsSlothGoals member
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    My advice is to enjoy your engagement and not dwell on what you didn't get.
    Happy planning!
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  • thejucheideathejucheidea member
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    The best part of being engaged is knowing that at the end of it, you're going to be married to the person you love. You don't have to have some fancy proposal story, and you shouldn't feel sorry for yourself about this. He loves you and wants to marry you! Congrats!

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  • staar987staar987 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_not-really-a-proposal?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:0e8f5d78-40eb-4c84-8e54-3dc01c418c64Post:a8379708-f353-43dc-9a5c-b7f9c6ff0861">Re: Not really a proposal</a>:
    [QUOTE]My advice is to enjoy your engagement and not dwell on what you didn't get. Happy planning!
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    This. Fancy proposals don't make an engagement. You got something better. You got a fiance and will get married to someone you love.

    Congrats!

     

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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    My husband proposed to me by changing our Facebook statuses. I loved it. To me, that WAS a great proposal. He didn't need to ask. We've always just known. Congrats and happy planning!
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  • tiny specktiny speck member
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    I didn't get a proposal either. We just decided we wanted to get married, no need to surprise me with a big to-do. I wouldn't have it any other way. The wedding and marriage is far more important to me than the proposal/being engaged.
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  • ZiggyZosZiggyZos member
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    My DH proposed in the parking lot behind the work bays at the car dealership I worked at. I can't even tell you what he said. Hardly the romantic scene you see in the movies. Getting engaged is what makes proposals special. You're engaged. Congrats
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  • cbrown828cbrown828 member
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    Think about this- would you feel better if you convinced him to plan a re-proposal (I don't know what to call it because it really isn't a thing)? Probably not. My FI cried and barely got the words out in the middle of a crowded restaurant (where we had our 1st date) and I think it was perfect because he did it the way he wanted.
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  • Sierra524Sierra524 member
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    My FI didnt get down on one knee, or really even say "will you marry me?" He just pulled the ring out and put it on my finger and I freaked out and cried. That was good enough for me. What matters is that you will be marrying him!
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  • kerbohlkerbohl member
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    Did he at least ask?  Because if he just bought a ring, put it on your finger, and as you said "poof" you were engaged, that seems a bit presumptuous.  You know what they say about "assuming" . . . You don't need the big crazy proposal, but a guy should at the  very least ask the question!

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  • GB520GB520 member
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    i think my bf may do is... i think the important art is that he loves you and wants to spend his life with you. a lot of people have 'normal' proposals. it doesnt have to be extravagant.
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  • Knottie_22382590Knottie_22382590
    I know how you feel...you basically told my "proposal" story. What my thing was, was the fact that I felt like I'm missing out on the declaration of his love. My FI told me I'd get that at the wedding. Touche, I answered him ;
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  • Knottie_22386076Knottie_22386076
    Can't you just tell him that it's important to you?! I mean if you just want to hear the words he should be able to say them. Bring it up during pillow talk! That's when we get all our best talking done.
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  • jamesandsteph09jamesandsteph09 member
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    That's pretty much how it happened for me.

    We were talking about it one day and decided to go an look. We picked one out and he bought it. Told me that I'd have to wait for it because he wanted to do something big.

    He picked up the ring one day and he asked me when I got home from work. Poof we're engaged.

    I'll admit, there are days where I wished he had planned something cute and romantic. These days are normally after someone asks me how he asked, or a day of reading proposal stories on pinterest or here. Then I think about this....he got the ring and was so excited that he just had to ask me right then. He's all in, heart and all. Then I smile, look at the ring we picked out together, and continue on with what I was doing, be it planning our wedding or snuggling with him on our couch.
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