I am having a small-ish wedding (around 70-80)... my reception is going to be about 100. This is only because we wanted a small wedidng, but of course our parents wanted their friends to be there to party with. So I already feel as if I am inviting people I don't really want there... but I'm ok with it. I started my new job a couple months after I got married, and it took me a couple more months to get close to anyone. I invited my best friend from work and that's it. However, all my other coworkers have made comments about not being able to wait to see me in my dress, etc. I have explained that I'm having a small wedding and they're not going to be able to come. They understand. However, they've asked me where I'm registered and such. I have expressed that they need not buy me gifts and it has been left at that.
Now, comes my question. I'm planning my bridal shower in the next few months and was wondering if it was ok to still invite work friends who aren't invited to the wedding. I wouls stress that they don't have to bring gifts... but I want them to be included in my wedding somehow, but I just can't afford to have them at my wedding. Is this wrong to invite them to the shower and not to the wedding even though they know in advance that they aren't invited and they don't have to get a gift? Please help!