Seating arrangement for bridal party and parents

lawgrl13 · March 2013

After much thought and backandforth with parents, my fiance and I have drafted 2 seating charts. Chart 1 has us sitting with our bridesmaids and groomsmen. Our parents will sit together with 4 other close family members at another table. Chart 2 has us sitting with our parents and MOH and best woman not man. Our bridesmaids and groomsmen will sut together with their SOs at another table. Tables are limited to 9 people, so we can't seat parents, bridesmaids, groomsmen, and us together. My parents like Chart 2 because they want to sit with me. My fiance's parents like Chart 1 because it lets my fiance and I sit with our close friends. We like both charts and can't decide. Any thoughts?

[Deleted User] · March 2013

Does chart 1 include SOs at the table with you and your bridal party? If not, go with chart 2. It's rude to not seat bridal party members with their dates/SOs.

lawgrl13 · March 2013

Tables are limited to 9 max, 8 preferred. We have us 2, 4 parents, 1 MOH and her SO, 1 BW and her SO who is also a GM, 3 bridesmaids and their 2 SOs, 1 GM alone... and other GM is fianc's father. So either chart, someone is gonna have to sit without their SO... Any suggestions so as not to be rude?

AddieCake · March 2013

Then I suggest a sweetheart table. There's no way around being rude if you split up SOs.

lawgrl13 · March 2013

Chart 2 leaves out MOH and BW SOs, and 2 BM SOs, who would be sitting at other tables with friends of theirs

beardownbchs · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_seating-arrangement-for-bridal-party-and-parents?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:c3735957-5a52-4453-a559-7d8c221d0ebbPost:52c53dcf-d634-4c9a-aa08-3cd4ad9cd8ce">Re:Seating arrangement for bridal party and parents</a>:
[QUOTE]Chart 2 leaves out MOH and BW SOs, and 2 BM SOs, who would be sitting at other tables with friends of theirs
Posted by lawgrl13[/QUOTE]

They'll be fine sitting with their SOs and friends. I'd be willing to bet that they'd prefer this than a "head table" where they're on display.

Maggie0829 · March 2013

You should not split up couples period.

Why not you, your FI and both sets of parents sit at the same table and leave it at that.

Then when it comes to your wedding party, sit them and their SOs (if they have one) with people that they know and like.

lawgrl13 · March 2013

Because that's 2 of us, 4 parents, MOH and husband, and BW and husband. So 10 people. We can do 8 or 9 at a table max.

[Deleted User] · March 2013

Do a sweetheart table or do you two with JUST the parents or JUST the MOH, her SO, BW, and her SO. Don't split up couples. It isn't only rude, it's uncomfortable and not fun for your guests.

vanityink · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_seating-arrangement-for-bridal-party-and-parents?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:c3735957-5a52-4453-a559-7d8c221d0ebbPost:fa1f52f4-d552-4878-be5e-8343c43fd3e2">Re:Seating arrangement for bridal party and parents</a>:
[QUOTE]Because that's 2 of us, 4 parents, MOH and husband, and BW and husband. So 10 people. We can do 8 or 9 at a table max.
Posted by lawgrl13[/QUOTE]

With a sweetheart table it would work. You two off, and then 4 couples=8

Simply Fated · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_seating-arrangement-for-bridal-party-and-parents?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:c3735957-5a52-4453-a559-7d8c221d0ebbPost:fa1f52f4-d552-4878-be5e-8343c43fd3e2">Re:Seating arrangement for bridal party and parents</a>:
[QUOTE]Because that's 2 of us, 4 parents, MOH and husband, and BW and husband. So 10 people. We can do 8 or 9 at a table max.
Posted by lawgrl13[/QUOTE]
You can seat MOH and husband, and BW and husband elsewhere, if need be.
You can't go over the limit and that's totally understandable. No one wants to be squished.
But you can certainly go <em>under</em> the limit.

Jessa617 · March 2013

I would suggest either a sweetheart table (just you and groom) or a table with your MOH and BW without the parents.

I personally am doing sweetheart because we have a big bridal party. I've never really seen parents up with the bride and groom to begin with, so in doing a sweetheart I don't parents will be offended/hurt.

MrsMuq · March 2013

Don't split up any couples. If tables are limited to 9 max with a preference for 8 (you have the smallest wedding tables I've ever heard of), then make smaller tables - 6, 7, 8, 9 people, it doesn't matter.

Have a sweetheart table and sit your BP members with their SOs/dates, otherwise, you're being an azzhat.

winelover123 · March 2013

This is why I love sweetheart tables. They make everything so much simpler. Just have your and FI at one table and everyone at another table. Problem solved.