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FaerieStoneLove1842FaerieStoneLove1842 member
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So, one of my bridesmaids cut her hair into a mohawk today.
She decided she wanted to do this yesterday.
Before I had a chance to say anything to her, she told me she was nervous about getting the mohawk, so she sent me pictures of what she wanted. I told her that my wedding is only 3 months away, asked if she wanted to shave the sides of her head completely. She said she wanted a "girly" mohawk, where the sides aren't completely bald.
Now, I will admit that I did not come right out and say "no you can't do this because you're in my wedding" because I knew that would probably make her go out and do it sooner. I did tell her that it "wasn't as bad as I was imagining" but I didn't  like the idea.
She said she was nervous and probably wouldn't get it anyway.
She just posted pictures a half hour ago of her newly mohawk-ed head.
What the frick am I supposed to do with that?
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  • wormy42wormy42
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    edited December 2011
    Well, it is her head. Does HER hair really matter all that much anyway?
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  • HandBananaHandBanana member
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    edited December 2011
    I wouldn't worry about it.  There are still ways she could wear her hair down if it is that important.

    I think I would take it more as something done to annoy you if she did it the morning of your wedding.
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  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    edited December 2011
    I understand your frustration to a point, but the fact of the matter is you chose her for who she is, not how she wears her hair.  it's her hair, you do nothing.
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  • allisonkbyeallisonkbye member
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    edited December 2011
    i'd be damned if one of my girls had a mohawk. guys, ok, whatev. but girls, cya later. 
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  • VarunaTTVarunaTT member
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    edited December 2011
    I'd keep my mouth shut.  Your wedding isn't until November and she might change her hair again in that amount of time.  You really want to lose a friend over wedding pictures?
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  • Summer2011BrideSummer2011Bride member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_mohawk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:1d5f063d-a6d5-4364-903c-1bcc2e558e83Post:93304478-ae4b-492c-8a31-06ddb30db8fa">Re: Mohawk</a>:
    [QUOTE]i'd be damned if one of my girls had a mohawk. guys, ok, whatev. but girls, cya later. 
    Posted by allisonkbye[/QUOTE]

    So you'd put her appearance in your wedding pictures over her relationship to you and the fact you CARE about her? ouch.

    OP: If she wears a mohawk at your wedding, she does. Assumedly, and hopefully, you picked your BM's because you love them, want them to stand up with you at your wedding and honor them for their importance in your life, NOT because of what they look like. It is her head and her hair, and you really have no say in that.I think it would be a jerk move to ask her to not do it just because of your wedding.


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  • Tanq&TonicTanq&Tonic
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_mohawk?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:1d5f063d-a6d5-4364-903c-1bcc2e558e83Post:f94284bd-9be6-4bb9-bb1c-0d92b9389436">Re: Mohawk</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Mohawk : So you'd put her appearance in your wedding pictures over her relationship to you and the fact you CARE about her? ouch. OP: If she wears a mohawk at your wedding, she does. Assumedly, and hopefully, you picked your BM's because you love them, want them to stand up with you at your wedding and honor them for their importance in your life, NOT because of what they look like. It is her head and her hair, and you really have no say in that.I think it would be a jerk move to ask her to not do it just because of your wedding.
    Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]
    Ditto this, 100%.  It's HAIR.  And not even yours.  It's her own expression of who she is (and supposedly that is a person you love).  I really don't see why there is a need to be upset or frustrated.   
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    edited December 2011
    The reader in my wedding (and BFF) bleached streaks in her brown hair and then dyed those streaks green and purple one week before the wedding. By the time of the wedding most of it had washed out and it actually looked worse than the first day she dyed. She had no idea that I thought she looked ridiculous. I smiled and went on with things. 

    Just because you are getting married for ONE DAY does not allow you dictate what people do every other day. It will be fine. 
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  • GBCKGBCK member
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    edited December 2011
    If this isn't amazingly out of character for her (which I'm assuming it isn't), then...what did you expect?
    You are close to and care about someone who does crazy hair stuff--close enough that you asked her to stand up in your wedding.

    And she did crazy hair stuff.  Which has NOTHING to do w/ your wedding.  Sure, it'll show her, as she is, w/ crazy hair, in pictures...but why is that important?  she's a crazy' hiar type person, right?
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  • caseykinscaseykins member
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    edited December 2011
    Smile, tell her she looks great, and take a deep breath.
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