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VENT- Cake tasting

marksle84marksle84
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in Texas-Dallas and Ft. Worth
So tomorrow we are going to our cake tasting at Sugar Bee Sweet in Arlington. My Aunt has offered to purchase the cakes as our gift. This is a great help to us except she in turn invited my parents and my cousin with her 1 year old baby! This will be 6 people. How am I supposed to sit down with the baker and talk about designs and changes, ect... And I'm sad because my FI was really into it and even wanted to invite his Best man so they could plan a crazy grooms cake, but there are too many people. 

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  • Tiffany618Tiffany618
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    edited December 2011
    Honestly, I would politely tell them all thank you for their support but that the meeting is really important to you and you need to be able to focus.

    Does the bakery know you are bringing that many people?   Typically they have samples for 2 people or so... not a half dozen.   The extras may not even be getting cake.
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  • bsn1752bsn1752 member
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    edited December 2011
    Calm down, breath.  :)

    If she's paying for it, then you have to accomodate to an extent.  Maybe mention something like "I was really hoping to have just you, FI and me there... do you think we could meet up with the others afterwards?" 
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  • fallbride1109fallbride1109 member
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    edited December 2011

    ITA with Tiffany.   You might even want to call the bakery and confirm--hopefully they'll ask that you only bring 1 or 2 people to the tasting.

    And even if they don't, tell your aunt they did.  Ok, maybe that's too harsh.  But I would definitely say something.

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  • bigbabyfacebigbabyface member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_vent-cake-tasting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:1911ba0a-577b-4545-977c-eced64c95124Post:8108a221-3688-4c59-9a43-4c4e844ebe48">Re: VENT- Cake tasting</a>:
    [QUOTE]Honestly, I would politely tell them all thank you for their support but that the meeting is really important to you and you need to be able to focus. Does the bakery know you are bringing that many people?   Typically they have samples for 2 people or so... not a half dozen.   The extras may not even be getting cake.
    Posted by Tiffany618[/QUOTE]

    I'm with Tiff on this one. They usually don't have samples for this many...you may want to just tell them they can't accomidate that many people at once for a tasting.
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  • nickandmerrittnickandmerritt
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    edited December 2011
    At a lot of places you can purchase cupcakes or an extra sample cake to go.  So as a compromise maybe you could offer to have the other family members over for dinner afterwards.  You can tell them how it went, show them sample pictures if you have any, see if they have any suggestions, and then they can try some of your flavors for dessert.

    If your aunt is sitll insistent you could talk to the bakery about the number of people and see if they think it's do-able.  If not, you can tell your aunt the bakery said no!
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  • marksle84marksle84
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    edited December 2011
    I asked the caterer and she said "the more the merrier" I tried to tell my mom, but she got upset because she really wants to be involved (my sister did hers in another state). And I went to my cousins tasting so I guess its only fair. I just feel bad telling my Aunt no when she's about to shell out hundreds of dollars on cake.
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  • Tiffany618Tiffany618
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    edited December 2011
    Merritt's idea is fantastic!  You think they'd go for that?

    I'm just telling you now... everyone is most likely going to LOVE a different one and your going to leave confused and frustrated.   (Well, I don't know you or your family...but that's how it would be with mine)

    ETA:  Bring your Mom.  Leave Dad, cousin, and baby at home if by any means possible.
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  • marksle84marksle84
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    edited December 2011
    I like the cupcake idea! Maybe I can talk to my mom again tonight. Maybe she can mediate. 

    I did read in the cake contract that you can change the cake up to 2 weeks before, so I guess we can narrow down flavors at least and get the cost narrowed down. Ugh, its just not what I had planned, but nothing is this wedding is how I want to I'm just going to have to go with it. 
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  • fallbride1109fallbride1109 member
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    edited December 2011
    I got samples from my cake vendor and served them at my "Meet the Parents" dinner so both sets of parents could try the cake flavors we had chosen.  It was a big hit.
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  • NMac2010NMac2010
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_vent-cake-tasting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:1911ba0a-577b-4545-977c-eced64c95124Post:2dda53b9-a814-4fc6-8629-b52c6b6a0784">Re: VENT- Cake tasting</a>:
    [QUOTE]Merritt's idea is fantastic!  You think they'd go for that? I'm just telling you now... everyone is most likely going to LOVE a different one and your going to leave confused and frustrated.   (Well, I don't know you or your family...but that's how it would be with mine) ETA:  Bring your Mom.  Leave Dad, cousin, and baby at home if by any means possible.
    Posted by Tiffany618[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>ITA with Tiffany. It's like bringing every woman you know to pick out dresses with you. You don't want all those different opinions if you can avoid it. And having a 1 year old there will be distracting in itself. </div><div>
    </div><div>Hopefully your mom will be able to mediate for you and you can come to a compromise! Good luck! 

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  • marksle84marksle84
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    edited December 2011
    Stephie- I wish I would have known before this was all planned! Thats a great idea! At least I will know how to handle the catering tasting, ie; NO ONE is invited, lol!
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  • fallbride1109fallbride1109 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_vent-cake-tasting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:1911ba0a-577b-4545-977c-eced64c95124Post:ae7bc45f-21e6-4631-b9ef-d1e8e5a69f92">Re: VENT- Cake tasting</a>:
    [QUOTE]Stephie- I wish I would have known before this was all planned! Thats a great idea! At least I will know how to handle the catering tasting, ie; NO ONE is invited, lol!
    Posted by marksle84[/QUOTE]

    We had done our tasting a few months before but I just called them up when I was planning the dinner. They said as long as I came and picked them up, I could have them.  And they gave me a TON of cake.

    I hope  you can come to some agreement and that this will be a fun experience for you. 
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