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Attendant at the gift table?

Blz016Blz016 member
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We're having a pretty small wedding, about 75 people, and they're all family and close friends. Obviously we trust all the people we have invited, so I hadn't thought at all about an attendant at the gift table, but a bunch of family members have suggested it being a good idea. What do you all think? I hate to think such ill thoughts about our invited guests, but I'd hate to have a bad situation later...what should i do???
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  • gailpetegailpete member
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    As long as your gift table isn't located right next to the door in a venue with many other groups in the building, I don't think is necessary.
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  • hoffsehoffse member
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    I've seen both.  Personally I think and attendant would get rather bored so we are having the DOC deal with them.  That said, you can never be too careful.  I have a friend who had a bunch of wedding gifts stolen (even boxed gifts) because they were all on a table by the door and nobody was paying attention to it.
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  • HobokensFuryHobokensFury member
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    Put yourself in the attendant's shoes.  Would you want to be stuck standing and sitting in the same place all night watching gifts?  If you are going to do this you need to hire someone. It would be terribly rude of you to ask one of your friends or family to do this as they are there to enjoy the night, not to be bored out of their mind.
     
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  • TKzillaTKzilla member
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    I had a similar concern because my dad wanted me to invite everyone in the family to my wedding. I was worried because my cousin has a drug problem and has gone so far as to steal money from my 83 year old Nana's purse. I kinda put my foot down and said he wasn't coming. I haven't heard any complaints for anyone since he's also kind of a jerk.

    I agree with having your DOC move them elsewhere. If you don't have a DOC, maybe ask a member of your bridal party to help. With a guest list of 75, it shouldn't take too long. Also, keep your gift table away from the door.
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  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    Our gift table was right next to our sweetheart table and in plain view of all of our guests.  Nobody stole anything.  I've never heard of a gift table attendant before this post.
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  • Kristin789Kristin789 member
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    This must be a regional thing.
    Here in the south, everyone gets their wedding gift and either delivers it or has it sent to the bride's parents' house - or bride's house before the wedding.
    There is no such thing as a "gift table" at the ceremony site or the reception venue.
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    Unless security is already in your contract, I can't see how it would really be worth it to hire someone to attend the gifts.  

    Our DOC moved the gifts to the trunk of my parents' car during the meal.  Is there a secure vehicle or other secure location where you can have gifts moved once everyone arrives?  It's nice to have the gift table broken down and out of the way anyway.  
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  • LDubHawksFanLDubHawksFan member
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    Don't have an attendant.  Most venues are pretty good about this if they have weddings frequently.  Gift tables are either in the reception room, or the DOC or a family member moves them into a secure room or car once the reception begins.  Our DOC did just that for us after the cocktail hour.  And when we were doing our final walkthrough, there was a beautiful wood table along one wall that I asked if we could use for the gift table instead of a fold up one with a tablecloth, and the coordinator stated that they always have the gifts on a table in the other location because they have a security camera on it (it was near the front desk of the golf club entrance).  Made sense to me and I bet a lot of places are aware of those sort of things too. 

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  • hoffsehoffse member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_attendant-at-the-gift-table-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:fa33a35b-5b5d-4baf-8212-6534cb8adedaPost:a12141bb-4952-4bb7-a45d-fa532bd12b59">Re: Attendant at the gift table?</a>:
    [QUOTE]This must be a regional thing. Here in the south, everyone gets their wedding gift and either delivers it or has it sent to the bride's parents' house - or bride's house before the wedding. There is no such thing as a "gift table" at the ceremony site or the reception venue.
    Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]

    <div>Sorry but west coast florida isn't what the rest of the south considers to be southern.  In Georgia, Alabama, Tennessee, South Carolina, etc. we like to see a full gift table at the wedding.  It's one of the few etiquette rules that many of us consistently break, because there's a bit of a showcase aspect to it.  </div><div>
    </div><div>Just be careful with where your gift table is going to be.  Don't have it close to the entrance, and once guests are inside, have somebody quietly secure them.  This is especially true for the cardbox.</div>
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  • AjulianaAjuliana member
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    I even had cards missing at an engagement party with 75 people in attendance.  Like I legitimately was hand given a card from a cousin, and then when we opened everything later on it was no longer there.  I recommend a HEAVY box with a slit for cards, and having the table well inside the venue in a visible area so that you don't need an attendant.  
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