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Arngbride330Arngbride330
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My Fiance is in the Army national guard and he doesn't feel like its as important as active duty members. We are doing a military/delta zeta my sorority wedding and I wanted some ideas. Also, how can I show him his service in the guard is very important, especially to me?
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  • ggirl2001ggirl2001 member
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    In Response to Re:National guard:[QUOTE]My Fiance is in the Army national guard and he doesn't feel like its as important as active duty members. We are doing a military/delta zeta my sorority wedding and I wanted some ideas. Also, how can I show him his service in the guard is very important, especially to me? Posted by Arngbride330[/QUOTE]
    First question, just to clarify, your FI definitely wants military touches in the wedding?

    Next question, is he planning to wear his uniform?

    Final statement: do small touches, like maybe your garter.
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  • Arngbride330Arngbride330
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    He does, he wants us both to be represented in our wedding. He is wearing his class as because he still doesnt have his blues. My garter is camo and has a little army medal on it. It's very cute. I tell him all the time I appreciate him serving my country, but he thinks I am ridiculous because "he doesn't do anything". He wants to go active, but  he wants to wait till we get married and finish school and I go to the police academy, but honestly I think he is scared to. I don't know what to do.
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  • Sammy0709Sammy0709 member
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    I have found that all you can really do is voice and show your support for whatever decision he makes assuming it's not totally ridiculous.  He will do what he is most comfortable with in his military career.  MH is dealing with some huge decisions right now (to stay in or get out) that will probably be semi-dependent on what happens to my MC application in July and, while he does ask for my input and does base some of it off of my career goals as well, I just tend to give input but let him know I support him no matter what he wants to do and that we'll make it work either way.
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  • Sammy0709Sammy0709 member
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    Oh and for your wedding questions.  I'm with ggirl.  Small touches are nice and classy.  If you overdo it then it can get cheesey.
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  • crownsuperstarcrownsuperstar member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_national-guard-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:535b4d7b-3354-4f9f-a1f3-0f778518367bPost:9794d15f-d014-430a-ba0d-0eaea0215777">Re: National guard</a>:
    [QUOTE]Oh and for your wedding questions.  I'm with ggirl.  Small touches are nice and classy.  If you overdo it then it can get cheesey.
    Posted by Sammy0709[/QUOTE]

    Ditto all of this!

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  • Arngbride330Arngbride330
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    Thanks guys. He is having so much trouble deciding what to do, he doesn't know what he wants but it doesn't seem that he like civilian life. I am trying to help, but I don't want to be pushy.
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  • divinemsbeedivinemsbee member
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    As far as the "but I don't really do anything" from him, I have a decent amount of experience with that. All you can do it make sure he knows you appreciate him. 

    My FI is AD Air Force. While his job is deployable, most people of his rank don't deploy with that job because it's a very small field and they like them to have more experience when they send them somewhere. Most of his job is going to an office from 8-5 every day. He does his projects and does things like plan a group baby shower (him and 2 other dudes planned one for today, this should be interesting). He's also ended up in charge of planning the AFA Ball here this year. All of those are responsibilities, but when people thank him for his service (if he's in ABUs or he uses his military ID for a discount) he's told me he feels ridiculous. I try my very best to be supportive of his career, and supportive of him. And let him know that what he does matters. It helps. 
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  • crimewatchercrimewatcher
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    I stopped thanking my H for his service a while back because he also thought it was awkward and weird.

    As for wedding touches, are you doing a Grooms cake? I was just at a dual AF wedding and the Groom's Cake was his Squad Patch. I thought that was neat, double bonus if your ANG and stay in the same unit your entire time.

    We had airplane luggage tags for our favors since my H is a pilot.
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  • Arngbride330Arngbride330
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    Thanks guys. :)
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