Hi.
My fiance and I are getting married at the Planet Hollywood Chapel next April. We have already booked the chapel and we have also already booked our reception dinner at Maggiano's. We have invited 22 people to join us in Las Vegas. My parent's have given us a specific budget to work with and it has covered everything for these 22 people and given us the wedding we want. We want to keep it intimate and have chosen to have a destination wedding in order to keep it that way.
The drama started this Saturday night when my fiance's Aunt/Godmother offered to upgrade our room at Maggiano's so we could accomodate more people. (Right now we have a room booked that holds 25 people comfortably, which is perfect). She said she is willing to pay for a bigger room. She added that she is NOT willing to pay for the extra dinners to feed the extra people...just the room for them to sit. She said that they would pay for their own dinner because they love us and just want to be there. She is very concerned with us being able to invite more of my fiance's family. She specifically said that the extra room would of course be for more family...not more friends.
We entered into a very heated discussion (more on her part than ours) because she was offended that we a) did not show how exicted we were about her offer and b) did not accept her offer right away.
We are not excited about her offer. Our intention was to keep it small and we have no intention of inviting more people, especially if they have to pay for their own dinner. Little does she know that it would cost them about $100 a plate.
I have contacted Maggiano's to see if upgrading our room is even possible because if I remember correctly the room we booked was the only room left for our wedding day...so it may not even be an issue.
But how do I deal with my fiance's Aunt? How do I get her to understand that our decision to have a small wedding wasn't only about money but about intimacy? She didn't listen to anything I had to say this weekend and claimed we didn't listen to her.
My fiance and I have already caused tension by limiting our amount of guests but this makes me feel we will cause even more by refusing to add more when someone offers us a chance to do so.
How do I handle this situation? Thanks in advance.
-Jenny