Momzilla/Bridesmaidzilla!!!

Re: Momzilla/Bridesmaidzilla!!!

• twihard08

  

  November 2010

  Are you getting married June 2012? Or 2011? As much I don't mind you here, you might want to post with out girls who are closer to getting married than we are!
  
  But, if your mom or anyone is helping you foot the bill they unfortunately have a say. But if they aren't then they don't.
  
  And I am always willing to listen =]
  

  "Even on my weakest days, I get a little bit stronger."
  http://adkennard.weebly.com/

  Report0 Reply
• sprtychick10

  

  November 2010

  Yeah, I agree with the PP. This is for weddings in June of 2012, not 2011. Brides on the board for June 2011 may be able to give you better support when it comes to time frames for your bridesmaid who is giving you a hard time.

  
  

  In regards to your mom, if she is footing the bill, then she has a say as to the guest list. 

  
  

  Maybe your FI needs to ask your brother to make it more official for your brother. He may need to hear it from your FI, not you. If he's a groomsman then your FI should ask him, not you. Thats usually the groom's role.

  
  June 2012 December Siggy Challenge: Favorite Things about Christmas
  
  Planning Bio Updated 10/24/2011

  Report0 Reply
• 2012JulyBride

  

  November 2010

  You are on the wrong board (this being the June 2012 Board) but, as PP said about helping anyone with a problem, here's my response:
  
  I agree that whoever is paying for something has a say but I agree that she's being a bit of a momzilla. Really, you can't wear certain jewelry...and you have to wear your hair a certain way? If you buy (or already have) the jewelry and if you pay for getting your hair done (or do it yourself) don't listen to her...unless this will create hell. If she's paying for the majority of your wedding and you think she'd flip over something that simple, I'd come up with a compromise! If SHE is in contract with the vendors, not you, then honestly, I'd let her get mad and throw a fit...what is she gonna do? Break the contract the day of the wedding? They'd be going after her, not you (except you'd have to work something out with the photographer, if you want your pictures).
  
  As far as your brother goes, he knows now, since he's being all "I didn't know!" There's still 6.5 months so if money's an issue with his tux, since he "didn't know," there is still time for him to save (and for my friend's wedding, the guys had to be fitted I think at least 1 month before the wedding).
  
  The bridesmaid...I know you want to make sure everything's in order, but if she's really throwing a fit about having her dress this far away from the wedding, then drop it until about 1 month before she needs to order it without rush shipping. If she's being crabby about ordering it 3 months out, just make sure she realizes that it takes X amount of weeks (mine took 8 from Alfred Angelo) and if she's needing/wanting to get it altered then that will take time too. Maybe she's worried about ordering it too soon and it not fitting or something happens to it and then she'll have to go out and order yet another dress?
  
  Back to your mom...if she's not paying for anything then don't listen to a word she says! I know having a crabby family member/friend at your wedding won't exactly make you happy, especially if they're the type to overly voice their opinion, but This Is YOUR Wedding! Do what makes YOU happy. This is that ONE day in your life that you get to spend WAY too much! In the end, what really matters? No one's going to remember the cake, dress, food, or if someone was a bit of a drama queen (although, depending on the situation it might take years to forget that one) but the most important thing of the day is that you and your FI become husband and wife. If that happens, then your ultimate goal is accomplished!
  
  But if she is paying, definitely go for a compromise!

  

  Report0 Reply